I was wondering if my LO starting to develp a bad behavior of tantrums when he does not get his way or if he is just in pain? Lately it seems more like brief tantrums if he can't do something or if he his fighting bedtime. He has the top 4 teeth comming in so I give meds occassionally to help. If these are truly tantrums and not pain any suggestions for displining him?
I have tried: to re-direct, say that's not nice to hit mommy, your ok try not to get so fruastrated, NO for the more sever acting out, I hold him while he is screaming & arching his back, if I am holding him and he contiunes to throw a tantrum I set him down on the floor safely.
I am just not sure what this is lately? He is testing his independent, teething and seems to be very clingy to me vs. others so I am not sure what to do. Advise?!
Re: Tantrums vs. teething pain-How to displine at 10.5months?
J is doing the same thing. When I take something away from him I say "Not for Jackson" and then hand him something else. I try to catch him before the fit starts.
If I don't and he starts I still try to redirect, if thats a no go then I set him on the floor and try to give him a few more things to play with. It usually doesn't last but for a few seconds before he is playing again.
If it goes past that it is usually something else, he's tired or he's hungry. If you LO is taking it too far, maybe it is the teething pain that is pushing him over the edge, try giving him something different to chew on like a frozen wash cloth or J really loves frozen food cubes in the mesh feeders.
Same thing with Stephanie! I do think that it is partially teeth (getting her molars in because she's drooling constantly), starting to assert some independence - today she blew a gasket (quite literally) each time I directed her away from something, and I feel like I'm about to lose my mind.
Anyone have any suggestions or cures?
Honestly with tantrums (not pain/teething induced/caused) ... best thing you can do (initally) is IGNORE it.
No attention. Turn your back to baby and ignore. (obviously make sure they are safe and not going to do something to hurt themselves).
Figure out the trigger of the tantrum- and go from there. It is not advised to ignore a 'frustration' tantrum.
https://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/temper_tantrums.html
I always know its naptime or bedtime when my usually very happy kid starts getting fussy and throws tantrums. He was also very grumpy when he was teething. Maybe try getting him down for naps/bed before he hits that point.
As others have said, redirection is a good way to diffuse them.