What does "low cognitive development" mean when it's on an adoption checklist?
I don't know if I need to give the background info, but here it is. We just finished foster care adoption classes, and our age range is approximately 5-15. We had marked "will consider" for low cognitive development but didn't feel comfortable with certain specific conditions like intellectually disabled (what's formerly been termed mental retardation), etc.
At a meeting a few weeks ago in which we were presented information on a child, we were told that "low cognitive development" basically means intellectually disabled, so we should change our checklist to "no" because it wasn't clear.
Is this the case? I guess I messed up.
Now a bigger problem. I really didn't know the terminology and felt that our worker was VERY disapproving of the change. :-( It's sad. We had to say no to someone who would need lifelong care due to various factors including very low iq (below 50), possible blindness/deafness, and so forth. It hurt a lot because the worker has a child with similar conditions, and I feel like she felt like we were rejecting her, even bringing up her own daughter and saying that this other girl would be an easy child for her to parent.
I fear that this whole situation has "poisoned the well" a little bit. Sorry if this doesn't make sense.
Thanks for your thoughts.
ETA: I guess I just felt like we were being "guilted" a bit. The way the situation went down was kinda offputting to me. She wouldn't give us any information for the two weeks before the meeting except that she had diagnoses that were on our "will not consider" list. I kinda wish she would've been upfront about the girl's condition and saved us the two weeks of wondering and excitement. I honest to goodness researched all the conditions that we had listed on our "will not consider" list, just so we'd be fully versed. It was sad when it ended up being something that we absolutely could not do...