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sugarpumpkin716
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Facebook ruins everything!
sugarpumpkin716
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DH and I had kept the gender a secret
from friends and most family for the past 8 weeks! But due to a Facebook
slip up a few people saw that we're having a boy (not to mention too
many family members already know thanks to my MIL). I kind of want to
give up and just let everyone know. My mom is planning a gender reveal
shower because we kept it a secret for so long but I just don't even care anymore. I feel like if this many
people know already why bother? What do you think?
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Re: Facebook ruins everything!
I'm a little confused is your Mom hosting a separate gender reveal party or was it as part of your baby shower?
Either way if the cat is out of the bag for a number of guests, it does seem a bit silly to go on. Is it too late to change the theme of the party? (if baby shower) If it was a separate party I would cancel completely unless all food/decorations have been bought.
lol people with big mouths on facebook ruined it. obviously i made a mistake telling ANYONE, i don't need a reminder of that...but i'd say (maybe 60ish are invited) about a dozen people know.
Sorry, I wasn't fussing at you. I was fussing about how can't you can't trust people with sensitive information. It was coming from a personal experience. I apologize that it came across that way.
You can still have a shower, but skip the gender reveal part. IMO, those are AWish anyway. Most people aren't waiting on pins and needles to find out what you are having, except for maybe a few people in the immediate family. Did you specifically tell these people who knew not to say anything? I wouldn't have told a soul if I was trying to keep it a secret. You say you kept is a secret for so long- when did you find out? I would just have a shower and skip the gender part, no harm done. And look on the bright side, now you know who you can trust!!!
I would contact the guests who know and tell them that you want the remaining 48 people to be surprised at this party and to keep their trap shut. You can do it in a nice way and make them feel like they are "one of the special few" that know. Stress to them how important it is to you and YOUR family that it is kept secret until the big reveal. You could even do something at the party... have a host at the door that hands out cute little notes with a rhyming saying that communicates the message, "If you know, please don't tell anyone else". Make it cute and fun....
It sucks that people have such big mouths. I hear ya! However, don't let those crappy peeps ruin your big party and day. It can still be awesome!
agreed. it seems kinda lame to make it a big secret, when people already know.
I completely feel this way. DH's mom can't keep her mouth shut about anything. When we found out we were expecting we told our immediate families but told them not to say anything until we were a litte further along. So what does DH's mom do? She immediately makes a post on her blog about how she is going to be a grandmother again and posts it on her Facebook. We confronted her about it and she replies (in her annoyingly whiney voice) "Well, those are my friends. They deserve to know, and I didn't tell anyone else." Who else would she tell? Strangers on the street?