Too Late for a Baby Shower??

Rachie_B · July 2011

Hi Ladies,

My Aunt really really wants to host a baby shower for my sweet Sophia. I did not get to have the shower prior to her birth since she was born 3 months early. She spent six weeks in the NICU. We have been very selective on who comes to see her and limited on outings since her immune system is low due to being a preemie.

Sophia is now old enough for us to start having visitors. My Aunt would like to host a Meet Sophia, Baby Shower. My question is... Is it too late to have a Baby Shower?? Sophia will be 4 months old when the shower takes place. I don't want to be viewed as the "tacky momma."

This is our first baby and would be our only shower.

Liz4444 · July 2011

Given the situation, I think it's fine. BTW, she's adorable!

Happily Overwhelmed · July 2011

I don't see one thing tacky about it! I think it's a fabulous idea and a good way to tell people that she's okay to meet them!

A lot of people do baby showers after the baby is born. In some cultures it's a must!

I really don't think anyone would think badly of this situation. I say put Sophia's party dress on!

mairanellis · July 2011

In your situation, I think it is fine to have a baby shower now.

aec22 · July 2011

Liz4444:
Given the situation, I think it's fine. BTW, she's adorable!

This. Personally, I would not think it was tacky to be invited to such a shower. Good luck!

CBC08 · July 2011

It's not too late. There's no reason for a shower that takes place after a baby is born to get the side-eye or require special circumstances. As long as someone else is throwing the shower for you, it makes no difference if it happens before or after the birth.

I had a traditional shower a few weeks ago, and will have another one a couple of months after my baby is born. The second one is happening later because my cousin wants to host a shower for me, and that's when she can do it. No biggie.

ILoveRedVino · July 2011

Happily Overwhelmed:

I really don't think anyone would think badly of this situation. I say put Sophia's party dress on!

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Elleivy28 · July 2011

I think its fine. A friend of mine did the same thing.

greengirl0909 · July 2011

My cousin, same situation, only baby wasn't strong enough to meet folks when we did the shower. I don't think anyone thought anything of it. My other cousin wrote a cute little poem about the baby coming early, but now growing strong or something. It was fine.

mamastich · July 2011

I think its a great idea! It would be great for everyone to meet her and celebrate her success, theres nothing tacky about a very premmie baby doing so well!

rhubarb123 · July 2011

I don't think it is too late because of the circumstances...especially since not many have even gotten to see her yet. Just have lots of hand sanitizer sitting around. lol

NewFamily09 · July 2011

If you never got to have a shower because she came so early, than I think it is totally fine. I think you should have your aunt put something in the shower invitation, like "Baby Sophia came so early that we didn't get to celebrate. Let's celebrate together with a baby shower." Or something like that, only cuter and possibly rhyming (I'm a horrible poet).

weddingbells2010 · July 2011

I give the side-eye to people who have showers when their LO is 9,10, 11 months old because they realized they "didn't get what they deserved" before LO arrived or they registered for all infant essentials and need new things for LO as a toddler... this is obviously not like that. If LO came so early she was surely in the NICU for quite awhile, which means you probably lived off of hospital supplies for ages. I'm sure your home could use some showering now that LO can have visitors!

kmm2150 · July 2011

My MIL was just telling me that people used to have showers after the baby was born quite often - where she grew up, anyway - because before you could reliably predict the sex, people didn't know what to buy until after! I don't think it's a big deal, preemie or not, as long as it's not for a 2 year old, like pp said.