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Babies: 0 - 3 Months
A little bummed
Flame me if you will but I'm feeling bummed out about missing a night out with family and friends. We are traveling back to my hometown to visit next week. Everyone has a night out planned....my sister, cousin, and about 5 of my really close friends that I never get to see anymore (we live 12 hours away now) but I'm not going. They aren't starting the night until 9pm so it's not even like I could just go to dinner.
DD#2 is just too young and while my Mom has offered to watch her and feed her bm from the bottle I just can't get around the guilt of going and not being there to put her to bed. Also, DD#1 can be a challenge to get to bed.
I LOVE my LO's more than anything but what I wouldn't give for a carefree night out on the town with my sister and friends that I miss so much!
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Re: A little bummed
No reason for flaming. I think most parents feel this way lots of times. It's pretty normal for me. I have an extremely active 2 yr old and a almost 12 wk old, and there's just things we don't/can't do for our own sanity, plus the sanity of others.
BUT! I will say, don't pass up opportunities that may not come again. It sounds like with family in from far away, things like this don't happen very often. If you're anything like me, you feel bad for possibly putting other people out, but honestly, I'm starting to realize that nights out with friends/family or just some time to myself makes me a better momma and I need to get over the guilt feelings of leaving the kids or feeling like I'm putting others out by asking them to watch the girls. Just something to consider...
I say go out, have fun, and don't feel guilty. If your mom has offered to watch the kids, take advantage! It's one night and even if the baby gets fussy or DD1 is hard to get to bed, it'll only be a few hours. Just tell her to call you if she can't handle it, but I guarantee she won't. I went back home (across the US) to visit my family and friends when DS was 2 months and my mom offered to watch him so I could go out with my sis and a bunch of friends. I told her to call me if he was too fussy and I'd come right home. She said she could handle it and she wouldn't call because she knew I needed a night out! I worried a little at first but got over it fast when I told myself I have been with the baby every night since he was born, I deserved a few hour break! Baby was fine and sleeping when I got home at 2 am and I had a blast with my sister and friends.
Anyway, all this to say GO! You deserve it! And if the night doesn't start til 9, you will be there during the bed time routine for your kids for the most part anyway.