Moms of two, pregnant with #2, TTC #2 etc...

Stacy112699 · July 2011

So we have been thinking of TTC for #2 but I am SCARED! DD was such and still is an easy going child. She didn't really fuss alot and loved to smile. Somehow I still have PPD though. The only thing I can think of is what if number two has colic or doesn't sleep etc.. I am scared at how I will handle it or react. I know I will probably have to be on meds again but I just wanted to see if anyone else experienced this? If so, what did you do etc?

LoriJ11 · July 2011

We are pg with #2, I didn't suffer with PPD but I do have a great baby. She was a little colicky as an infant and went through major separation anxiety around 1 but is a wonderful sleeper and such a happy baby. I guess it is just a risk we are willing to take. Being a parents you know that you have to deal with the good and the bad. All kids have their days. GL on your decision. Only you and your DH know when it is time.

Gen & Joel · July 2011

I'm currently PG with #2 and LO has never been the Best sleeper but is/was great in every other way! super happy and we are just blessed with him

As far as our deciding on when to TTC it's kinda funny because we never officially decided! but it took 2 yrs to conceive LO and it was through IUI. so i told DH i'll get off the pill now (which was in nov when LO was 11 months) and if nothing happens by the summer time then we will start really trying and make an appt with the specialist again. And in feb LO turned 1 and i got pregnant!

There's no perfect time and i think if you think about it too much it drives you nuts! in my case dh works 24hr shifts so now i'm getting scared like what if LO still isen't sleeping good, or what if this LO is an even worse sleeper but then other days i'm like can't do anything now. you just gotta either do it or wait good luck with your decisions.

JDWNYC · July 2011

My LO1 was a major handful, and I had PPD, but somehow with #2, who IS a colicky baby and I had 2 under a year and half until a couple of weeks ago, I did/do not have it. I think a lot of mine was anxiety driven, and all the experience with my first has made a huge difference. That and I went on Zoloft again in the delivery room! My first tri was hard bc I did go off meds while PG (personal choice), but the rest of my pregnancy was fine. I also loaded on the help (paid, unfortunately, bc we don't have super close family) to make sure I could get plenty of recovery rest and sleep since you can't sleep when baby sleeps with #2 if your #1 is still a toddler, and we're all doing quite well. I would say, for us, the transition from 1 to 2 kids was 1000x easier than going from zero to 1.

ANJ410 · July 2011

You can't know ahead of time, so you just have to take the leap.

My DS was a very colicky, fussy, high needs baby and toddler. On top of feeling overwhelmed and exausted by all of that, I suffered from extreme PPD and depression over my emergency c-section. It took a very long time for me to get over it. I was afraid the same thing would happen when I had another baby, but I didn't have even a drop of the baby blues after DD was born. And having a few years of mommy experience made having a newborn in the house again a much easier transition than I anticipated.

However, I had informed my OB in advance about my history of PPD and she told me that if I had any of the same feelings again to tell her right away and she would be able to give me something to help. I was very lucky not to need it, but if I did, I would have just dealt with it.

aglenn · July 2011

I didn't have PPD, but I also didn't have an easy baby with #1. DD is a wonderful kid, but she is full throttle all.the.time, NOT a good sleeper AT ALL, and very strong-willed. I have no idea what I will do if #2 is the same way, but I figure odds are the second will be a totally different kid, and no matter what we will make it work somehow. It was important to us to have a sibling for DD who's close in age, so we're just taking the leap. Somehow everything seems to work out in the end even when it seems impossible, so I'm going with that. I think sometimes that DD was sent to me to teach me to let go and go with the flow....:)

winomom22 · July 2011

I had PPD more like PPA with DD1. She was an awful newborn-colicky, wouldn't nap etc. It was awful. DD2 has been the sweetest happiest baby and I still got PPA with her. It wasn't as bad and as soon as I recognized it, I called my OB and got meds. It's not really dependent on how difficult the baby is although it can add to the stress and make things worse.

BFab11 · July 2011

We're pg with #2. I haven't dealt with PPD, but after having a hard PP recovery, DS, being very sick when he was first born because of allergies, severely restricting my diet so I could BF and keep him healthy, and the fact that he's been STTN for oh... A week? I feel like I can handle a second because this one can't be as hard as all that, right? (oh God I hope so, lol).

Before DS, there were so many things I thought I couldn't handle. "oh man, if I couldn't have milk, idk what I'd do!" "I need my sleep, I can't be waking up all the time!" etc. When it comes down to it, you do what you have to do and what's best for your family. Yeah, it was hard to be in and out of the doctor's office constantly, cutting more and more things from my diet, constantly researching allergies, how they affect babies, etc, and of course no sleep is never easy, but there's no other choice. As a parent, you just do it.

So yeah, I'm scared I'll have to deal with some of the same stuff (or different stuff) than I did with DS, I'm reluctant to give up my newly-found sleep, but I know we'll get through it and I know we'll survive and I know this baby will be as much of a joy to me as DS is.

MarMat · July 2011

I'm sure my PPD was shortened by the health condition of my DD. She was very close to death. Every time she gets sick my anxiety levels rise tremendously. This is my greatest fear with LO#2.

I'm so sure I want another one, I keep praying that he/she is healthier. My heart breaks every time DD is sick, and I fear that I'm not doing everything I can to help her heal.

sometimes, I feel I would not be brave enough to have another LO..

tothemaxx04 · July 2011

I dealt with horrible PPD after DS#2... DS#1 was 10 when DS#2 came along. We just started TTC#3 and I am also scared to death that I will have PPD with LO#2 so young and LO#3 as a newborn I have no idea how I will deal with it.

Since the PPD with #2 my husband and I both know what the signs are and hopefully if I start having trouble with it again we can head it off before it get bad.

Just have faith momma! That's what we have done! :-)

yourmomwreckedmybike · July 2011

i just sucked it up. We want to have at least 2 kids. I was more scared this time than i was with little man just because I know what to expect, and that #2 could be COMPLETELY different. It is scary, but exciting, and the end result is another baby.

beautifulstr13 · July 2011

We are the opposite. We are scared to try and conceive because LO was a very difficult infant and still is a difficult toddler. He had colic and severe reflux issues. Now he is just very needy/hands on/fussy....etc. We arent going to try until the end of the year and are just praying that he starts to mellow out a little. I keep telling myself that when the baby will be due he will be closer to 3 and surely he will have evened out a little by then, right?

BearRuff1979 · July 2011

I'm 19 weeks pregnant with #2. We we're trying, but not preventing... Embarrassed

My DS had colic, reflux, and a milk protein allergy. We both figured that if we could get through that, we can handle anything.

That said, I am nervous about having two LO's to keep after constantly (they will be 20 months apart), and balancing out the attention, and energy between the two.

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