XP: IF you had/are having your children close together...

hellopoppyseed · July 2011

I posted this on 2U2 but that board is understandably slow. I know that infants are hard and a lot of work but they are also so precious. If you had your babies back to back, does it make you sad that this time of your life is going by quickly? I realize you have the same amount of time that your children are infants no matter how far apart they are but in years, it goes by quicker when they are close together. Does that make sense? Sometimes it just makes me sad that I will not have a baby again (after #3) and it all went by so quickly. How do you feel about this?

MamatoJackson · July 2011

I don't think it's ever the same as your first one - you are busy, period, once you have a child.

I don't care for the newborn stuff. It's fun for a week and then it gets old - I love toddlerhood and I'm excited about what's to come. I'll get to hold a newborn (hopefully!) when I am a grandmother. And then promptly hand him or her back when he/she starts screaming for no reason.

mrsrobinsontobe · July 2011

my babies are 5 and 3 now, and while i can't believe how quickly it went by, i know it's the perfect age difference -- for us! the whole "time in a bottle" concept really gets to me sometimes though. especially with my daughter...she's going to kindergarten in the fall, how did that happen?! and it's all unknown territory. with my son, i know that we'll do awesome things at 3 and 4 and 5, so while i get nostalgic for my baby boy, i don't get as weepy! i totally know what you mean though...we are done having babies, and that makes me sad because this has been so much fun, them being little! i have honestly LOVED every stage of their lives and and i'm in awe of what great little people they are becoming. and what good buddies they are because they're just 2 yrs apart.

in a way, i'm a little bummed that the wedding and having babies and buying a house stages of my life are behind me...those were really some fun times!!!

laney75 · July 2011

Yup, I know exactly what you mean, and yes I agree. There isn't much else to say. We are moving through their baby years at lightning speed because they are close together. Our first two are 25 months apart. If we have a third, that will be the last for us too. I will miss these days, I already know it.

If we have a third, I am going to smell that baby to death and hold him/her all the time.

Cherryblossoms07 · July 2011

I will have 2u2 for a few days. Part of me wonders if I won't want another baby a few years down the road. However, we always planned on having two close together due to the nature of DH's job (we move every couple of years). Plus, I would love to return to the work force at some point. I miss my career also.

Liz342 · July 2011

I feel the same way. We are 50/50 on having another baby. If we were going to do it, I wouldn't feel that way because we will be waiting awhile to have the 3rd. However, it doesn't look good anymore! We have our hands full with a 1 year old and a 2 year old and I can't even comprehend how we would ever add a third at this point.....

ETA: I am very happy with my LOs age difference though. They are 17 months apart and while it's hard, I wouldn't change anything and in some ways it makes things easier.

Stacyc625 · July 2011

Mine aren't as close as yours- however I just think Chase grew up WAAAAAAAY too fast. He is fullly walking for crying out loud, feeds himself table food, never wants to cuddle etc.

Now that he is fiully mobile- time is A LOT harder to come by. It does make me very sad that it is going so quickly- that is when I get stressed I always try to think of the song, 'You're going to miss this' by Trace Atkins. I am not a big country fan- but this song chokes me up all the time. truly does.

eaglesfan700 · July 2011

laney75:

Yup, I know exactly what you mean, and yes I agree. There isn't much else to say. We are moving through their baby years at lightning speed because they are close together. Our first two are 25 months apart. If we have a third, that will be the last for us too. I will miss these days, I already know it.

If we have a third, I am going to smell that baby to death and hold him/her all the time.

Ditto this. Mine are 16 months apart and I am totally getting baby fever. We will try for a 3rd later this year, but that will be it for us.

I feel like DS was an infant forever but I didn't enjoy it as much as I should have because I was all new mom anxious and didn't know to enjoy it. Meanwhile I feel like DD was an infant for 2.5 seconds.

All stages come with unique challenges and rewards, but there is something about that little face resting in your arms that just melts me

passar3588 · July 2011

I agree that the newborn/infant stage goes more quickly when you have them close together, but I also feel that when you have them that close together they all seem the same age and the toddler phase seems like it lasts forever. I have 3 close together and honestly, I feel like my middle child has been the same age FOREVER. She was a very early talker and walker so "toddlerhood" came early. She turned 3 in April, but because she's so close to my youngest, she often acts more like him (he's 21 months) than my older DD. She's potty trained, but other than that, she is still such a baby. I'm so ready for her to move on to the "preschooler" phase. On the other hand, my baby grew up so fast, I feel like I blinked and he's already almost 2, but it's okay. He's my last and I'm at peace with the fact that we are done.

eaglesfan700 · July 2011

passar3588:

I agree that the newborn/infant stage goes more quickly when you have them close together, but I also feel that when you have them that close together they all seem the same age and the toddler phase seems like it lasts forever. I have 3 close together and honestly, I feel like my middle child has been the same age FOREVER. She was a very early talker and walker so "toddlerhood" came early. She turned 3 in April, but because she's so close to my youngest, she often acts more like him (he's 21 months) than my older DD. She's potty trained, but other than that, she is still such a baby. I'm so ready for her to move on to the "preschooler" phase. On the other hand, my baby grew up so fast, I feel like I blinked and he's already almost 2, but it's okay. He's my last and I'm at peace with the fact that we are done.

That is so funny because it is the complete opposite for my kids! I feel like DD wants to do everything DS can do, so it's like I have two 3.5 y/o's. Frankly, I feel like DD will be potty trained before DS

In any case, one of the best parts of having them close together is that right now the two of them went up to our playroom and are having a ball with each other, and I am getting some time to drink my tea, eat cereal without constantly being asked for a taste, and watch the news

hellopoppyseed · July 2011

I think my feelings do have to do with DS2's infancy going by so fast. He is always on the go and sometimes I pick him up and just force him so snuggle with me. Neither of my boys were particularly good sleepers early on so I have been very tired but there is just nothing like that sweet chubby face. I can't even listen to that "you're gonna miss this" song. I turn it off. It chokes me up too. I guess I can hold my friend's babies when we are done and have none of the work so that's nice. We are planning to have #3 sooner than later because I need a surgery when we are done and until then I have back pain.

HarrietNJMommy · July 2011

I hate the newborn stage, so I feel like it took FOREVER for me to get out of it. I lost 3 entire years of sleep, and having 3 kids in 3 years was really hard for me.

The time does pass, but not as quickly as people have told me. DS is 2.5 and I can't believe that he starts preschool in September. The girls are 4 and 5, and my oldest starts K. I'm moving into new territory. I'm scared and happy at the same time! LOL!

DH and I don't feel sad that there won't be another baby around though, so that helps........

WhitePicketFence · July 2011

Our girls will be 18 months apart and we plan to TTC #3 (and our last) when DD2 turns one. While I'm sure I'll get nostalgic about their babyhood now and then, I'm really looking foward to life after the baby stage. I'm excited to witness every new stage of their childhood and to watch our family evolve as a unit.

MommyMich · July 2011

My kids are 12.5 months apart and I LOVE that they are so close in age. I actually really enjoyed having the infancy stage so close together that I kinda just picked up with DS where I left off with DD. Now they are 2 and 3 and they are like best friends. They play together really well most days and are doing a lot of the same things. I actually don't have any desire to go back to infants.... I wouldn't mind freezing DS at 2 for a while though since he is my "baby" and is REALLY cute right now!

(DD is a lot more dramatic at 3 than she EVER has been before so I have no desire to freeze her at her current stage!)

UpNorthGal · July 2011

Stacyc625:

Now that he is fiully mobile- time is A LOT harder to come by. It does make me very sad that it is going so quickly- that is when I get stressed I always try to think of the song, 'You're going to miss this' by Trace Atkins. I am not a big country fan- but this song chokes me up all the time. truly does.

I love that song too! We have 2U2 and when the craziness (DS whining/yelling, DD attaching herself to me, stepping on the millionth frickin cheerio/goldfish/granola bar piece, etc.) starts to get to me I try to remember that they will one day be grown and gone.

Stacyc625 · July 2011

LOL- we are SOOOOO similar. Every time I step on cheerios/fish I have to remind myself of that song.

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