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Eris-Alexis · July 2011

Ok ladies, let's hear what's going on today!

Eris-Alexis · July 2011

I've got a doozy today, and it's probably going to be a long one.

DH has a horrible relationship with his Dad. FIL is bi-polar, wasn't around a lot when DH was a kid and when he was around he has some serious anger issues. He divorced MIL, but than dated her again for a while. While dating her, he moved to China, cheated on her and broke up with her via email. He later married the woman he cheated with in China. He also stole money from DH's college fund, and never remembers DH's birthday. He comes back once a year to extend his visa and visit his mother. He always calls at the very last minute to invite us over to see him and GMIL. He doesn't call any other time of the year and rarely emails DH. Because of all of this, we never told him about changing our last name, let alone the twins or our second loss. And we haven't told him about this LO yet.

He is in town again and we are supposed to go over to see him. I have no respect for the man and dread seeing him, but I usually go without complaint for DH and out of respect for GMIL. This year, I really don't want to go. I don't want to share this LO with him. And we haven't seen DH's grandma, or aunts since we lost the twins, so I don't want to go through the sad puppy looks and telling them about this LO. I was nervous enough to tell my family, and I know and love them. I see DH's extended family once a year usually and I am totally not comfortable with telling them. But GMIL is not doing well and it means a lot to him to tell her.

Ugh. I wish we could skip the whole thing. Sorry for the super long rant.

MrsAtch · July 2011

I called my parents and flipped out today and I don't even feel guilty.

LottaLattes · July 2011

I went to exchange some capri leggings for full-length leggings and got a freaking parking ticket. I was 10 FEET from the door, but it's in a "different complex" (divided by absolutely nothing physical) and the landlord is really anal apparently. I did call and they waived it and told me to be more careful next time, but still, so annoying.

I'm also feeling like I'm ONLY able to think about my spotting still, I have no idea how I'm going to get through a whole week before I get my u/s.

molRN · July 2011

Haven't really done much today, but now at 6:30pm I'm going to shower and get my self looking nice just to snap a few photos so that I can have some updated pics Embarrassed

Does that make me vein?

Eris-Alexis · July 2011

LottaLattes:
I went to exchange some capri leggings for full-length leggings and got a freaking parking ticket. I was 10 FEET from the door, but it's in a "different complex" (divided by absolutely nothing physical) and the landlord is really anal apparently. I did call and they waived it and told me to be more careful next time, but still, so annoying.

I'm also feeling like I'm ONLY able to think about my spotting still, I have no idea how I'm going to get through a whole week before I get my u/s.

I'm sorry sweetie! ((Big HUGS)) I hope the next week goes really quickly for you and your u/s goes perfectly.

BlondeBride82 · July 2011

if my MIL (or as i like to call her monster in law) doesnt stop referring to the baby as "my baby" im going to roll her off a cliff and hope she burst into flames!!!!

END VENT

MrsAtch · July 2011

BlondeBride82:
if my MIL (or as i like to call her monster in law) doesnt stop referring to the baby as "my baby" im going to roll her off a cliff and hope she burst into flames!!!!
END VENT

I had this chat with both my mom and my MIL very early on. They got the picture Smile

LottaLattes · July 2011

Ok, another one from me. My step-sister is going through a messy divorce, and is currently 100% a single parent. She moved to be near (next door!) to our parents and she just seems to bring so many problems onto herself by just not dealing with stuff. She very much wanted the kids, he totally didn't, but also seemed to really resent having to spend the time parenting them. Like, she didn't work and had a full-time nanny for a lot of the time, because she really "needs" a lot of time by herself and to go out and stuff. So now she's forced to be with them all the time (and I swear, if I had the option to be the full-time, no negotiating parent, it'd definitely be way easier. it's good my kids' dad is involved, but he's a total PITA sometimes) and texted me that she's "so depressed it's scary" And I really just don't have time for her drama or listening to her complain about things. I have enough other *** going on and I'm just....not a very dramatic person.

She called me today, and I'm really not wanting to call her back. I'll probably do it while I fight traffic this evening, because I guess I have nothing better to be doing. Ugh.

opallover · July 2011

Eris-Alexis:

I've got a doozy today, and it's probably going to be a long one.

I'm so sorry hon. You have so much going on in your life right now. *hugs* This too shall pass. I know you are going to be there with your husband and share your personal joy with people that you could care less for, only bc he cares for them. You are a good wife to stand with him and give him something to share that is
SO meaningful!

opallover · July 2011

I am so hormonal. I just want a friend in real life who I can share my happiness with ~ without being hurtful or condescending for my choices.

LottaLattes · July 2011

TripleB:
I'm irritated by a recent post on my BMB. There's a post and a bunch of ladies are whining about missing out on stuff...like nights out at bars and stuff. I just want to tell them that is soooooo not a big deal and to get over themselves. Ack...being PgAL is hard. I just have such a different perspective.

I was JUST thinking that after reading it. I'll also add that you don't STOP missing out on stuff, having a baby means your life is going to be changed forever. And it's the best work you could ever do, but I really don't get people who kind of feel like they wish they could go out and be young forever. (And with that, I might be being really rude because I know lots of people in my own life who really don't change their lifestyle a whole lot, just get sitters, but I'm secretly sort of judging them even if I really like them, partially from my second rant about my stepsis).

LottaLattes · July 2011

Eris-Alexis:

I've got a doozy today, and it's probably going to be a long one.

*HUGS* He sounds like a total piece of work. I'm sorry you're in this situation.

Eris-Alexis · July 2011

opallover:
I am so hormonal. I just want a friend in real life who I can share my happiness with ~ without being hurtful or condescending for my choices.

I may not be in Houston, but I am more than happy to listen whenever you need a friend. If you would like my IRL contact info, PM me. ((Big HUGS))

DoubleElle84 · July 2011

I have one to share today! (Backstory, I am a project manager in a field dominated by men). I am sick and tired of babysitting and hand-holding these men who are about twice my age, making sure they complete the work I issue to them, make sure they understand it, coaxing questions out of them, it's ridiculous! It's especially frustrating when I get blamed for the problem they created by being lazy in the first place! Arggg, can you tell I had a crappy day at work or what! Vent over!! (Sorry for formatting - I'm bumping from the phone)

Eris-Alexis · July 2011

opallover:
Eris-Alexis:

I've got a doozy today, and it's probably going to be a long one.

I'm so sorry hon. You have so much going on in your life right now. *hugs* This too shall pass. I know you are going to be there with your husband and share your personal joy with people that you could care less for, only bc he cares for them. You are a good wife to stand with him and give him something to share that is
SO meaningful!

As my mom pointed out, at least I only have to deal with him once a year. I'm thrilled that he lives in China. It'll be better next week when everything is said and done.

I just hate seeing how selfish FIL is and how hard it is on DH.

LoriJ11 · July 2011

I have a bad one.... I"m fish sitting for a neighbor's fish and I checked on them yesterday.... all was fine. Fed them and left. Today, I went back and 3 of them were dead!!!! Including the darn sucker fish (those things never die!) I had to call her and I feel horrible! I didn't do anything! She said to feed them 1x a day and they would be good. They just left 2 days ago!! uugh! She said it's not my fault but still. Never fish sitting again!

LoriJ11 · July 2011

Eris-Alexis:
opallover:
Eris-Alexis:

I've got a doozy today, and it's probably going to be a long one.

I'm so sorry hon. You have so much going on in your life right now. *hugs* This too shall pass. I know you are going to be there with your husband and share your personal joy with people that you could care less for, only bc he cares for them. You are a good wife to stand with him and give him something to share that is
SO meaningful!
As my mom pointed out, at least I only have to deal with him once a year. I'm thrilled that he lives in China. It'll be better next week when everything is said and done.
I just hate seeing how selfish FIL is and how hard it is on DH.

Such a blessing in a way. I hope it goes by quick and painlessly. Big hugs.

haziedaze · July 2011

Eris-Alexis:
opallover:
Eris-Alexis:

I've got a doozy today, and it's probably going to be a long one.

I'm so sorry hon. You have so much going on in your life right now. *hugs* This too shall pass. I know you are going to be there with your husband and share your personal joy with people that you could care less for, only bc he cares for them. You are a good wife to stand with him and give him something to share that is
SO meaningful!
As my mom pointed out, at least I only have to deal with him once a year. I'm thrilled that he lives in China. It'll be better next week when everything is said and done.
I just hate seeing how selfish FIL is and how hard it is on DH.

Sounds like his distant location really is for the best! You're sweet to put up with him at all, and I totally understand your emotions about telling. You and your DH will figure out what's best I'm sure. ((HUGE HUGS))

jamilynn9 · July 2011

LoriJ11:
I have a bad one.... I"m fish sitting for a neighbor's fish and I checked on them yesterday.... all was fine. Fed them and left. Today, I went back and 3 of them were dead!!!! Including the darn sucker fish (those things never die!) I had to call her and I feel horrible! I didn't do anything! She said to feed them 1x a day and they would be good. They just left 2 days ago!! uugh! She said it's not my fault but still. Never fish sitting again!

Oh, I can only imagine. Fish are very temperamental with change and they let off a stress coat (or something like that) and it can contaminate the water. Not your fault.

haziedaze · July 2011

LottaLattes:
I went to exchange some capri leggings for full-length leggings and got a freaking parking ticket. I was 10 FEET from the door, but it's in a "different complex" (divided by absolutely nothing physical) and the landlord is really anal apparently. I did call and they waived it and told me to be more careful next time, but still, so annoying.

I'm also feeling like I'm ONLY able to think about my spotting still, I have no idea how I'm going to get through a whole week before I get my u/s.

I'm so glad they waived the ticket! ((HUGS)) for your hard day and stress about spotting. I had spotting early on and it messed with my head so much. Hoping time flies by till your u/s (although I know that's unlikely)!

LoriJ11 · July 2011

jamilynn9:
LoriJ11:
I have a bad one.... I"m fish sitting for a neighbor's fish and I checked on them yesterday.... all was fine. Fed them and left. Today, I went back and 3 of them were dead!!!! Including the darn sucker fish (those things never die!) I had to call her and I feel horrible! I didn't do anything! She said to feed them 1x a day and they would be good. They just left 2 days ago!! uugh! She said it's not my fault but still. Never fish sitting again!

Oh, I can only imagine. Fish are very temperamental with change and they let off a stress coat (or something like that) and it can contaminate the water. Not your fault.

I had thought I heard something like this too... Thanks. I am feeling terrible

Mrs_Est11.11.06 · July 2011

Home from work late tonight. Very long day. Sleep

Updated pictures in my bio... added the "save the date" cards we sent/gave to our parents when we told them we were expecting, they loved them! Check them out!!!

xoladiebug · July 2011

Eris-Alexis:
I've got a doozy today, and it's probably going to be a long one.
DH has a horrible relationship with his Dad. FIL is bi-polar, wasn't around a lot when DH was a kid and when he was around he has some serious anger issues. He divorced MIL, but than dated her again for a while. While dating her, he moved to China, cheated on her and broke up with her via email. He later married the woman he cheated with in China. He also stole money from DH's college fund, and never remembers DH's birthday. He comes back once a year to extend his visa and visit his mother. He always calls at the very last minute to invite us over to see him and GMIL. He doesn't call any other time of the year and rarely emails DH. Because of all of this, we never told him about changing our last name, let alone the twins or our second loss. And we haven't told him about this LO yet.
He is in town again and we are supposed to go over to see him. I have no respect for the man and dread seeing him, but I usually go without complaint for DH and out of respect for GMIL. This year, I really don't want to go. I don't want to share this LO with him. And we haven't seen DH's grandma, or aunts since we lost the twins, so I don't want to go through the sad puppy looks and telling them about this LO. I was nervous enough to tell my family, and I know and love them. I see DH's extended family once a year usually and I am totally not comfortable with telling them. But GMIL is not doing well and it means a lot to him to tell her.
Ugh. I wish we could skip the whole thing. Sorry for the super long rant.

How does your husband feel about this? Would he be all that upset if you stayed at home and he told a little white lie (you are feeling under the weather or something)? Man, I wouldn't even want to be in the same room as that guy! That's really too bad!

Eris-Alexis · July 2011

xoladiebug:
How does your husband feel about this? Would he be all that upset if you stayed at home and he told a little white lie (you are feeling under the weather or something)? Man, I wouldn't even want to be in the same room as that guy! That's really too bad!

I think he would be pretty upset if I didn't go and he had to deal with his dad on his own. Plus, his horrible uncle is going to be there as well (his reason for not coming to our wedding was that he thought her would strangle MIL if he were in the same room with her). And I do want to see GMIL. I think it is a suck it up, get through it, and then eat ice cream when you get home kind of situation.

ZZsmommy · July 2011

I have to vent about my brother, who is a total jerk. AUGH! My mom had a whole lot of storm damage recently, and she is on an extremely tight fixed income. She has no money to spare. So she asked my brothers to come and tear out the carpeting in her basement and help her move things outside that need to be thrown away because they are water damaged. One brother said "Okay, I'll be there" The other one, and here's the REAL kicker - WHO LIVES WITH HER - will not shut his freaking piehole about how it shouldnt be HIS job to do it, its too much work, SHE has to move all the stuff (my mom is 74 years old) ahead of time, etc. All he ever does is think about himself. My mom is basically raising his kid because he is too lazy to do it and goes out to parties/with his girlfriend all the time. She tells him his son needs (insert item here - shoes, clothing, money for school, etc) and he says "Well, I don't have money, you'll have to get it for him." And she winds up going out and buying it for him even though she can't afford it, and tells him to pay her back. My brother is supposed to pay her $800 a month rent/grocery, etc money -- he claims he cant because he has "bills" (he filed for bankruptcy a couple years ago - he has, like, 2 bills he still pays - a phone bill and a car bill), he gives her a pittance - maybe $200, if that - often part of it is money he borrowed from her over the month to get to his next payday, or she floated to him for his son - and he pisses and moans about it. So, when she has a disaster and needs help, he doesn't want to be bothered, when he lives there scot-free and takes advantage of her all the time. ARGH! Oh, and my FAVORITE comment - my mom told me that after she told him she needed his help, he right away said that I had better be there helping too. Does he not get the 33 weeks pregnant with complications part? Oh, what a complete and utter jackass. I am so mad. He is almost 40. My mom needs to kick him out, and she HAS told him to leave, but A) she doesn't want to hurt his son and she honestly doesn't know how to make him leave and stay away - its not as easy as one would think. He always pulls that out whenever she starts in with him about how he takes advantage and needs to help pay the bills - he says "Fine, I'm moving out and taking (son) with me!" Umm, yea, and yet, he never actually does.

Anyway, sorry so long, but I guess I just needed to vent to people who don't know him and won't tell him what I said (because if he knew I said this, he'd be knocking on my door and throwing threats and insults around - he's always been a very abusive bully. I hate that he's doing this to my mom; he treats her like garbage when all she's ever done is be there for him and help him every step of the way. Its worse now that our dad is gone.....)

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