Husband Gone On Business Again

shaunamw · July 2011

So for the last three weeks my husband has been gone during the week. Every Monday when he leaves I feel so sad. My son is having a tough time sleeping and my husband has a much easier time getting him back to sleep. Some nights it takes me an hour to get him back to sleep and then he will only sleep for an hour. I feel totally sleep deprived and emotional. My husband has always travelled a lot and I have never really cared but these days I find myself crying and super sad the whole time he is gone. Anyone have some tips on dealling with the sleep issue or the overwelming emotions.

perplexed59 · July 2011

I'm right there with you. My husband travels a lot as well. The last time he was away was when Alice was 3 weeks old and he was gone for 3 weeks. I stayed with family but it was still tough. I felt bad that he was missing so much with Alice.

He leaves on Sunday for 2 months. We live far from family and I don't really have a support system. I'm sad, anxious, scared and overwhelmed about him leaving. I need him to help with Alice's fussy period at the end of the day. He's the best at keeping her happy. I don't know how I'm going to do it on my own.

Sorry I'm not much help except to let you know that there are others going through this as well. I think Alice may end up sleeping in our bed while he's gone so that I can just nurse her to sleep.

I'm here if you need support. Being with someone who is gone a lot is really tough mentally and emotionally. My husband is gone up to 6 months of the year and I'm pretty independant but with a baby this young its a little bit harder.

MySallyGirl · July 2011

Do you have any family or friends nearby who might be willing to take little one for an evening or a day so that you could have some rest time or go out with a friend? Do any sort of mommy groups meet where you live that you could just get out of the house and vent with some other mommies? Sorry to hear things are so rough right now. I know with the DS things get overwhelming and I don't even have a husband who travels!

amy259 · July 2011

I'm sorry ladies! DH travels occasionally and the last time he was gone for 5 days it was very overwhelming, I can't imagine longer. I also had DD sleep in bed with me, it was just easier. I wish I could help with the emotional part but I think that getting out like pp said would help. Do you have a support system where you are? Do you have any friends that would be willing to spend a night with you? It's hard because I feel like I am at home most of the time and when you are at home you are going to be thinking about your H and how you miss him/want his help.

LynsiBHM · July 2011

amy259:
I'm sorry ladies! DH travels occasionally and the last time he was gone for 5 days it was very overwhelming, I can't imagine longer. I also had DD sleep in bed with me, it was just easier. I wish I could help with the emotional part but I think that getting out like pp said would help. Do you have a support system where you are? Do you have any friends that would be willing to spend a night with you? It's hard because I feel like I am at home most of the time and when you are at home you are going to be thinking about your H and how you miss him/want his help.

exactly this! When my H travels, I find myself wondering how the heck single mommies do it!!! Sometimes my mom comes over, and if not, we go visit her (or someone else) during the day. It gets us out and tires him out to sleep better. Hopefully it will get better as they get older.

webdeziner1 · July 2011

Perhaps you need some vitamins or a place to vent....(postpartum?) I know you are working thru a hard situation....it's going to get better. My husband is an Oil Response Boat Captain and he works 3 weeks straight,,then home for 3 weeks! It's great because when he is home...well....he's home! W are free to do whatever...but he is gone for 3 weeks and that makes things a challenge.....Doing 4 month shots without him this week. Basically I live half of the year without my hubby home. We are HUGE on the skype ...all night long.. Just gets us thru the weeks! My heart goes out to you....but remember there are service men and women who are going way above and beyond where we even dream of. Hugs cuz I think you deserve and need one!!!!!

shaunamw · July 2011

Thanks Ladies. I do have a moms group that I go to and it is great to be around other moms that are having the same sleep issues etc. I guess sometimes this whole MOM thing is a lot harder then I thought it would be. I have been thinking about all the single moms out there lately and am truely amazed at there strength.

Thanks again and best wishes to those of you in my boat.

Bluescarf · July 2011

I hear you and sympathize. My dh is gone sometimes two weeks to a month at a time and we live states away from his family, and I don't have any to begin with. The friends I have here are not close friends like I have back home so when he's gone I have to fight the depression I feel, and I worry ds will forget about him while he's gone, or that dh is missing important stuff. I find it helps to have something to look forward to each day, even if it's just a playgroup, LLL, or strolling through the mall so I don't feel so lonely. For the sleep issues I'm just getting them under control, but it's far from easy. My only solution so far is coffee and not trying so hard to keep everything perfect. I take one of ds's naps to just rest myself, and that helps a lot.

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