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D&C last week

JustPipJustPip
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I apologize in advance for the rambling.

I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself.  I had a D&C last week after finding out my pregnancy wasn't viable.  When I went in for my 8 week appt, the baby was only measuring 5w6d.  They had me come back a week later but there was no growth.  I waited another week for the D&C because my husband was away on business and I didn't want to go alone.  The dr tried to convince me to come in the next day because really the procedure was "no big deal".  I keep repeating those words in my head and I want to scream. 

I was so sure that this pregnancy was meant to be.  It took us 2.5 years to conceive and it happened on my first cycle after my FIL passed away.  

Now that the physical pain is all gone and I have finally gotten rid of the pregnancy symptoms the emotional reality is setting in.  

Thanks for listening.

Trying to conceive #2 since Oct. 2008 BFP 6/14/11, 7/5/11 - Gestational Sac measured 7 weeks 6 days, Baby measured 5 weeks 6 days, No Heartbeat, 7/11/11 - Missed Miscarriage confirmed, 7/18/11 - D&C
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  • denajkdenajk member

    I am very sorry for your loss.  I had a misscarriage and d&c last december.  Even though they say the procedure is "no big deal" It is very difficult for us.  Try to stay positive and keep trying.  The best advise I can give you is if you feel sad let yourself be sad.  I still have difficult days becuase I to have been wanting to be a mother for such a long time.  It is ok to be sad about your loss, talk to your husband also becuase I found that my husband was trying to be strong for me and didn't bring it up if I didn't, but he was sad and grieving also.  We felt better after talking to each other about how we felt. 

     

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  • Gator687Gator687 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. This is a safe place to ramble, though. We are all here for you and all know the pain of losing a child. And though the procedure is no big deal to Doctors, it is a huge deal to us.
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  • marieinmonacomarieinmonaco
    I am so sorry for your loss. A D&C is for sure a big deal. No matter how far along you are, it's very difficult to get through the loss emotionally.  I am really sorry you had to go through all of this.  
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  • singlemom6singlemom6

    Im so sorry.  I too lost 2 babies at 9 & 10 wks pregnant. 

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  • Mayan2011Mayan2011 member

    I am so sorry for your loss.  I had a couple of D&Cs (complications) about a month ago.  It took us a long time to conceive - after trying on our own for a long time we turned to treatments.  I finally saw that second pink line shortly after IVF 2.  I know what it is like to finally have hope and then have it taken away.  It is so unfair.

    Your doctor should have chosen his words more carefully.  Maybe from a medical stand-point the procedure in no big deal, but from an emotional stand-point the procedure is a very big deal.  It means physical finality to something that you wanted very badly.  I am so sorry you had to go through that.

    ((hugs))

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  • JustPipJustPip
    Thank you everyone.  I hate that anyone would have to go through this but it is good to have the support.
    Trying to conceive #2 since Oct. 2008 BFP 6/14/11, 7/5/11 - Gestational Sac measured 7 weeks 6 days, Baby measured 5 weeks 6 days, No Heartbeat, 7/11/11 - Missed Miscarriage confirmed, 7/18/11 - D&C
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