Visiting the ILs...

MBfromBMC · July 2011

Yesterday was DH's mom's 50th birthday party at his grandparents' house. What a freakin' trainwreck.

First, when we got there, it turns out that it wasn't really a party, it was just dinner with his mom, stepdad, two of his siblings and the grandparents. I love his grandparents, but this made it rather awkward considering that the last few times we have spoken to his mom and stepdad, it was about the money situation and them defaulting on loans. (I posted before about how they wanted us to give them $10,000 so they wouldn't go into mortgage foreclosure.)

DH was obviously uncomfortable the whole time, and when we got in the car, he started crazy-talking about what we could do to give them the $10,000, like selling his car, which is totally ridiculous. He doesn't really care about their financial situation and he knows that it is their fault and that there is nothing we can do to rescue them, but for whatever reason, he feels guilty about this one bill...

Anyway, within an hour his mom was completely blitzed drunk, refused to eat, fell asleep at the table, talked nonsense, then fell asleep on the sofa. DH has five younger siblings, but the two that were there are only 16 and 14. It is so painful to watch them run around after her and pickup what she drops, keep her from spilling things, etc.

Everyone except for DH's stepdad was so freakin' uncomfortable and embarassed, but he is just sitting there like everything is normal. He also likes to get his little jabs in at me and DH because he thinks that we are rich and that I "come from money."

Let me tell you, I don't. My family was completely broke for most of my life, but that's not worth getting into here. Just because we had a wedding and a house, he thinks that we are so lucky and rich. Of course I think that we are incredibly lucky everyday, but we both also work full-time and the ILs do not work at all.

He always says things like, "well, some people just can't afford to go on planes" or "we can't all go out to dinner" as if I am some kind of entitled b*tch who doesn't know how the other half lives. If he only knew what my family and I have been through to even have a roof over our heads...

Oh, and I'm sure I don't even have to tell you that as DH's mom's eyes were rolling back into her head wasted, she was talking about how she doesn't have and grandchildren and why didn't we give them any.

All this makes me realize how lucky I am to have such a wonderfully supportive, stable and awesome family. Of course, when we got home I had to call my mom and tell her that.

Ok, vent over. Feeling much better. At least we don't have to see them again until Thanksgiving...

STL34 · July 2011

Ugh! I'm sorry that went so well (dripping with sarcasm). I'm glad at least you have an awesome, supportive family. I hope YH appreciates them, too! And, yay for not seeing them until Thanksgiving!

It does really make me feel bad for YH youngest siblings. That has to be a really tough environment for them.

naybird · July 2011

Oh My God!!! I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. But yes, it really does make you appreciate your own family so much more.

Big hugs and definatley keep your distance from them as long as you can!!!

etoyama · July 2011

My god, that sounds horrible! I'm so sorry. Ugh. What a bad situation. And like you said, it's so sad that the younger siblings have to care for your MIL. Just wrong.

Bella2u07 · July 2011

Wow! What a crazy night for everyone!

It's terrible that YH siblings have to take care of her.

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