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DYK after 6mo the only benefits of BFing = make momma feel good?
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Me neither! But it's true! Just ask my dear Great Aunt (whom I try not to be around b/c she drives me nuts by forcing her opinions down everyone's throats constantly). Yep, that's what she said to me very forcefully while I nursed my 14mo DD under a cover...The only benefit to BFing at this point is that it makes me feel important and to force DD to snuggle up to me. Yep, you read that right!
I just said that she was entitled to her opinion but that I disagreed, and I tried to change the subject b/c she's the type of person that you just can't convince otherwise even if you're holding a signed confession and a smoking gun when she's got some cockamamie idea in her head. Then she went on to ask if I had actually done any "actual reading" that said that there was any purpose of BFing past 6mos. (In retrospect, I should have asked her for her literary citations, but I was completely floored at the time.)
I finally just piped up with the WHO and AAP recommendations and said that she could probably ask any doctor she wanted about the body of medical literature that exists on the topic and that they would all agree that DD can continue to BF at 14mos w/o a problem and to her benefit.
Grrr...Why do people think this is any of their d@mn business? And 6mos??? Really??? Thanks for the vent!
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Re: DYK after 6mo the only benefits of BFing = make momma feel good?
Omg, I love uninformed opinions on people's choices (I'd insert the eyeroll but for some reason I can't on this browser).
She sounds like my mom, except my mom started telling me when LO was born to quit BF at 3 months..... basically so she wouldn't have to stop whatever she was doing with him so he'd have to be BF. Yeah I'm gonna forgo allllll these BF benefits so you can hog my kid from me. What a dumbass. LOL
Why do people have to be so ignorant! i don't get how it effects them in any way!
I just had a disturbing convo with a friend along the same vein. I told her I'd be coming her way for a visit soon and I'd love to see her new house. She commented how dd and I would be welcome as long as she didn't need "to clear out her freezer for me to store some breastmilk". Ummm..... I don't pump, I ebf, so I don't know where she would have gotten the idea that I'd be monopolizing her freezer space, but she's got one of those "put them away!" attitudes when it comes to breastfeeding. I might "accidentally" forget to let her know when exactly we"ll be in town.
I had a physicians assistant tell me there is no benefit after a year. Moments I would love to open my mouth, but I also know some people are only going to believe what they want too.
The "best" was when I was told that after a year BFing is a "sexual" experience for the mom. Wow. I had no words for that one.
Having DS nurse until he was 22 months and wean himself was one of the best things I have done as a mother...for so many reasons. And no one (or their comments) can take that away from us!
Ugh. I have a co-worker who makes snarky comments that she hopes I'm not BF-ing past a year (mostly on my Facebook--not really in person). (I'm not going to remove her as a friend because that would be more awkward, so there's no solution other than to ignore her.) But she's been super snarky since I've had my LO. She's in her 50s and did fertility treatments to get pregnant (but never could), then her fertility treatments gave her breast cancer, and her breast cancer treatments gave her uterine cancer.
So I *get* why she's snarky, but UGH!!!
Mac and cheese lover!
I've been getting asked by my ILs since DS was born how long I'm planning on nursing him. I've started saying "until we're done." They don't ask in a mean way or anything, but I mean -- why ask at all?
Last time I was over, I started BFing without announcing it to my FIL first. He kind of looked at me and I smiled back, you better get used to it cus we're not stopping anytime soon!