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fricksgirl
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NBR/FB-related: Is this rude? Or accepted now?
fricksgirl
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I have an old friend I used to sing with who got married this afternoon. TONS of her friends are posting her wedding pictures and she hasn't even had a chance to get on fb (obviously). Isn't that a severe breach of "netiquette", or does that not even exist any more?
If I was the bride I think I'd be bitter at that. Don't post pics of me at my wedding DURING my wedding! Right?!?! Or wrong?!?!
Man, we are such a quickly-communicating society it's kind of sick.
Thoughts?
The Boy Wonder 8/23/06 & The Famous Baby 6/1/10
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Re: NBR/FB-related: Is this rude? Or accepted now?
I know right? I wonder if this is an "issue" people debate on the knot. I almost want to go look!
I'm not very active on FB but in general it's not something that would bother me. I know that for my wedding my BFF took tons of pics and I was super excited to see them all the next morning, I *think* I would have been equally excited to see them on FB too. Honestly, the last thing I earth I would have been doing was posting pics on FB and I would have been glad that someone else did it so I wasn't being hounded about it, but we also went on a 3 week honeymoon and went pretty much total incommunicado.
I guess I'm going to side with, it's becoming an accepted norm and I'm sure that it's very individual as to being bothered or not.
THIS totally. And announce names, sex, etc.
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This also. But with weddings, I've had the bride and groom excited to get pictures before their photographer got back the professional shots. That wasn't on Facebook. That was more like taking the film to the lab, running prints and sending them a package to keep. Either way, they were happy that they got them sooner than later.
I also think that Facebook wedding pictures are a bit exciting because let's face it.... We all have "friends" that are acquaintances that we like to talk to but maybe wouldn't invite them to our wedding. By having people post pictures on Facebook, those people can congratulate the couple and be there in spirit. Ya know?
Haha- I'm Bumping right after posting a bunch of pictures from a wedding I was in yesterday. So I guess that explains where I stand! But in our case, the bride and groom left for Costa Rica this morning and won't be back for 2 weeks... there's no way we could keep from sharing all of our photos with each other.
And they're definitely not the type to care.
I agree that with a baby's arrival, it's completely different. I find it incredibly rude when people congratulate the couple (or give ANY revealing details about the baby) until the couple has had the chance to make the announcement.
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Haley Beth ~ March 3rd, 2011
I was thinking about this too, since I've been noticing one person in particular constantly posting pictures as she's AT the weddings. I think I would have been miffed.
When DS1 was born, DH sent a pic to all of his family. His brother posted the pic to MY wall with all the details before I was able to. I was really really really annoyed.
I was at a wedding on Saturday night, I posted about being at the wedding and posted a pic of myself with dh, but not any pics (and I did take some) of the bride or groom...or any of the wedding party. I think that would have been rude.
But I also emailed everyone, family and friends and told them in no uncertain terms that they were not to post anything about the baby (Addi) when she was born until after I had posted info.
I think it's to the bride/groom to determine whether they feel negatively about it obviously. But, I never think anything of it personally. I probably wouldn't post a picture but I sometimes think maybe I "overdo" the wanting to practice good FB etiquette (some of you might disagree, lol), but for example, even after someone has posted that, for example, they just had their baby...I will hesitate to post a wall post to them saying congratulations b/c then I think that our mutual friends will get the news from me by seeing our wall to wall conversation before the persons' status/announcement. So anyway, especially with babies, I'm super careful and would be super pissed if someone didn't respect that for us.
But with weddings, I was SO SO excited to see ANY pictures from our wedding that had FB been around when I got married, I would've been thrilled to see people posting (flattering, natch
) pics. We even set up a way for people to upload pics to an external website so we could see them from our iPhones on our honeymoon, and that gave all our guests access to all the pics other guests took. So...we sort of encouraged the dissemination and sharing of wedding pics actually.