Don't mock the "IF urban legend"... because you might become one

WhiteGarden · July 2011

A couple of weeks ago, I was tired of hearing about "someone who knows someone" who got pregnant while on a break from medicated cycles or who "miraculously" got pregnant on their own after going through IF treatments. I think I even posted about that a couple of times. I didn't mean any offense to anyone; I was just in a funk. I think I called those people urban legends.

Anyway.... It seems I have become the person that I mocked.

I was 100% in saving-for-IVF mode, and preparing for a lap that was scheduled for this Thursday. I hadn't responded to Clomid in my last cycle, Femara didn't work, and the RE discouraged me from injectables+IUI because of my huge PCOS ovaries. I did acupuncture, went on 4 different diets, quit running, etc., etc. The lap and IVF were the only options we had left.

I went into my pre-op appointment last Wednesday, and the RE mentioned doing ovarian drilling as part of the lap. I was told to think about it and that they would test my current AMH levels, and we'd confirm over a phone call whether to do that as part of the surgery or not.

I got a phone call from the RE just as I got home later that afternoon. His first words: "Do you feel any differently?"

I said "About the procedure? No. I signed the consent" (I thought he was talking about the ovarian drilling)

He laughed and said "No, I'm asking because your bloodwork came back and you are PREGNANT!"

I was soooooooooooo completely shocked!!! Even the RE was shocked -- he said he had the techs check again, because he thought they mixed my labwork up with someone else's! I went back for another blood test on Friday, and my HCG levels had doubled, so I guess I am officially knocked up! From what it seems, I am probably about 3 weeks along.

I didn't have any symptoms, except slightly sore boobs at times (they've been more sore with medicated cycles, though), and a little diarrhea here and there (but it's so hot here, I just thought it was from being outside a little too much in the heat -- and maybe that is all it was). I still don't have any other symptoms so it feels hard to believe. I had given up hope for anything but IVF, so I had started eating ice cream again, drinking caffeinated coffee on occasion, and I even took Ibuprofen a couple of times for cramping in the last couple of weeks -- all things I would NOT have done if still officially TTC!!!

I also just want to say one quick thing for anybody from the TTTC or IF board who is lurking (I have too much respect for those girls to throw this post on there, in case anyone is having a rough day -- I have had plenty of those). This whole getting pregnant thing feels as mysterious as NOT getting pregnant felt. My body just doesn't function like it should, and I guess we just *happened* to get very randomly lucky this time. I really think this is probably only the 2nd or 3rd time I've ever ovulated in the 17 months we've been trying (my cycles were almost always extremely long, with no temp pattern, unless I was on medication and even then I created cysts). Of course we are absolutely thrilled, and when we begin telling people, I'm sure we'll get lots of congratulations, but I'm not even sure that that's the right term for other people to use, because we didn't do one single thing to "deserve" this. We just happened to win the conception lottery this time. I sincerely hope those out there still fighting IF get their turn sometime very soon!

SunMoon&Stars · July 2011

Congratulations! You're not alone; we've had lots of surprise BFPs around here.

RachH517 · July 2011

Your story made me start to cry a little! Congrats, how exciting for you and DH!!

coconut711 · July 2011

This is my story almost exactly! I don't have PCOS, but I do have a ton of other issues like DOR, immune issues, clotting issues and MH has sub-par sperm. After almost 2 years, 4 losses, one attempt at IVF converted to IUI, another canceled IVF, a 3rd failed IVF, and an injectable TI cycle, we got pregnant on our own during a break cycle. You took the words right out of my mouth. I feel so incredibly lucky. How did I deserve this? I also used to scoff at the "IF urban legends" and now I am one too! Congrats to you!

scooterq · July 2011

Aww, I don't even "know" you, but the last paragraph made me start to tear up.

Congrats and welcome!

illinigal · July 2011

Congrats! I hope you've got a super sticky one in there. I'm with you on the no caffeine and no ibuprofen, but no ice cream is just crazy!

KYRN · July 2011

That's how I got pregnant with DS. Was getting ready to start provera and had to POAS first (cd 45). I was almost 6 weeks pregnant.

halo_tx · July 2011

Congrats! I also got my BFP on a break cycle- still am shocked at how this actually happened to us.

lamnt83 · July 2011

Congratulations! This is a wonderful story and you definitely deserve this!

CluckyEV · July 2011

Congratulations!!!! What a shock.

BathingInBitter · July 2011

SunMoon&Stars:
Congratulations! You're not alone; we've had lots of surprise BFPs around here.

This!! Congratulations!!

lovelyAngelique · July 2011

Oh my god i hate you! LoL... just kidding. No I have actually seen this happen to another person. It makes sense because fertility can be affected by many things, like weight and diet, so if those things are changed, so can fertility!

andrea1103 · July 2011

This is me too:) After 6 failed IUIs and more than 2 yrs of ttc, we were preparing for our first IVF cycle. We went to our class and were waiting for AF to finish up our testing when I got my BFP. I truly see it as a miracle and I am thankful everyday!

Waiting4baby08 · July 2011

Congrats! I was just shocked this past week with the same news.

WhiteGarden · July 2011

Thank you for the kind words, everyone! It is so wonderful to see so many other surprise BFP stories on here, and a few familiar "faces" from TTTC!

I guess I need to change my siggy now... I still feel hesitant, but I'll feel a lot better after my ultrasound in two weeks!

leecrystalwed08 · July 2011

WhiteGarden:

Of course we are absolutely thrilled, and when we begin telling people, I'm sure we'll get lots of congratulations, but I'm not even sure that that's the right term for other people to use, because we didn't do one single thing to "deserve" this.

Oh you deserve this, No matter how you got your BFP! Congrats and I am so happy for you!

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