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NAPR: I'm torn and need some advice

ahill1889ahill1889 member
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A month or so ago I had to call CPS on a friend of mine because she ignores her baby, and the house she's in is usually really messy with too many people.  Well, I am checking myself tomorrow, but I've been hearing that people have been doing drugs at the house now, and there are now 10 people in a 1 bedroom mobile home.  4 kids, and 6 adults.  One of whom is a known felon and drug addict.  The problem is the father of the baby is currently suing for paternal rights so he can sue for custody after he moves out (his lawyer said stay put until the verdict is handed down), and he really tries to take care of his son when he's not at work.  I also know he's not into drugs, and don't want him to get in trouble, and possibly lose his chance to get his son out of the house himself.  Should I call again?  I know another friend called a few days to a week ago, but last time CPS showed up the mother lied to them, and told them there were only 3-4 people living there and her other kids were visiting.  She also told them that there was no mold in the house (it's under the house), and that the gaping hole in the floor was getting fixed immediately.  What should I do?
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Re: NAPR: I'm torn and need some advice

  • amatistajoyamatistajoy member
    Honestly - I would go forward with another report. I would have a lot of trouble sleeping knowing that baby was in that environment and I did not do what I could. If something happened to the baby because of the environment/neglect and I DIDN'T go forward with another report... I would be so upset with myself. Even if CPS finds that the baby needs to be removed (which as you know can take time), that doesn't mean Dad would not be able to still get custody.
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  • Kingston54Kingston54 member
    If you feel the safety/well-being of the children is at risk, I would DEFINITELY call.
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  • lisa5201lisa5201 member

    I would talk to the father of the baby if you have a good enough relationship with him and urge him to make alternate living arrangements, take his son, move out and then make the call himself immediatly. I'm not a lawyer, but if the child is in an unsafe living situation (which seems obvious to me) I don't see how it would help his case to keep himself and the child under that roof. 

    If he really wants to do the right thing by his child, then he'll do the right thing which sounds to me like getting the kid out of there 

    If you cannot/don't want to reach out to him first, I absolutely wouldn't hesitate to call and continue to call until all of those kids are safe

     

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  • oh_mariaoh_maria
    As someone who works with these issues, you need to get in touch with the local state legislator. The reason I say this is because CPS (DCF in Florida) tend to still be bureaucratic and not as responsive as need be. Call the legislator and have his/her staff contact the agency through their legislative liasion. Trust me- things move faster when I call from our office (and it's sad that it has to be that way). 
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