Is it really that hard?

mommabear530 · July 2011

My DH has me wondering, are we all REALLY supermoms? Have we learned a secret language when reading our LO's cues that our H's have totally missed? Is keeping with an established routine really that hard? lol!

DH stayed home with the kids while I went to the office yesterday. He's home often enough you'd think he could handle them without instructions, but I left them anyways (usual feeding and nap times). I was gone 10-5 and came home to chaos. lol! And even this morning DH got up with Simon while I got up with Joshua, and he was like "so what do I do?" Um, start with a fresh diaper and then a bottle...really?!?! Silly Dads.

OUBobcatFan · July 2011

Well, I can say I am not a supermom in that sense! I work a rotating shift, so DH is home with Nikki on a more consistent schedule. It seems like her routines are slightly changing, and I've worked late evening shifts the last two weeks. It's much closer to me having to ask him how she likes to go bed. I'm missing everything and feel like poo about it.

DH is AWESOME with Nikki...I couldn't be more thrilled.

MrsHollywood1023 · July 2011

Gahh! I know what you mean! Remember the other night where I got to go out? Well, the next morning when I got E out of her crib she was soaked with pee! It's was going through the diaper!! I figured maybe he just forgot to put on one of the night time diapers...no. He didn't even change her diaper before he put her to bed. She had been in the same disgusting diaper from 5pm when I left to 8am the next morning!

I asked him about it and he said he just didn't think about changing her diaper. How do you not think about changing a baby's diaper! That's one of the first thing that pops into my mind when I hear the word baby!

RouensDream · July 2011

OUBobcatFan:
Well, I can say I am not a supermom in that sense! I work a rotating shift, so DH is home with Nikki on a more consistent schedule. It seems like her routines are slightly changing, and I've worked late evening shifts the last two weeks. It's much closer to me having to ask him how she likes to go bed. I'm missing everything and feel like poo about it. DH is AWESOME with Nikki...I couldn't be more thrilled.

You are lucky! Really.

RouensDream · July 2011

juliebean071:
Gahh! I know what you mean! Remember the other night where I got to go out? Well, the next morning when I got E out of her crib she was soaked with pee! It's was going through the diaper!! I figured maybe he just forgot to put on one of the night time diapers...no. He didn't even change her diaper before he put her to bed. She had been in the same disgusting diaper from 5pm when I left to 8am the next morning!
I asked him about it and he said he just didn't think about changing her diaper. How do you not think about changing a baby's diaper! That's one of the first thing that pops into my mind when I hear the word baby!

That would really tick me off if my DH did that. Ugh!

My DH is not a super dad that is for sure. There are some things that just really blow my mind. I tried to have a girls day out 2 Fridays ago, and was gone for about 2 hours. While I was out he texted me 3 times and called 3 times asking me to come home and help him. Why? No real reason. He just didn't want to deal with feeding him. Seriously. It made me cry. Anyhow, I had to cut the time with the girls short and leave during lunch. At least I got my nails done. But really...the kid is 6 months old, he can handle a couple hours with him on his own ffs.

mommabear530 · July 2011

juliebean071:
Gahh! I know what you mean! Remember the other night where I got to go out? Well, the next morning when I got E out of her crib she was soaked with pee! It's was going through the diaper!! I figured maybe he just forgot to put on one of the night time diapers...no. He didn't even change her diaper before he put her to bed. She had been in the same disgusting diaper from 5pm when I left to 8am the next morning!
I asked him about it and he said he just didn't think about changing her diaper. How do you not think about changing a baby's diaper! That's one of the first thing that pops into my mind when I hear the word baby!

OMG! How??? What??? Really??? ugh!

Yeah, anytime Simon's fussy and DH has him he's like "what does he need?" And I always have to give him the checklist- diaper? bottle? bed? bored? Troubleshoot!

mommabear530 · July 2011

OUBobcatFan:
Well, I can say I am not a supermom in that sense! I work a rotating shift, so DH is home with Nikki on a more consistent schedule. It seems like her routines are slightly changing, and I've worked late evening shifts the last two weeks. It's much closer to me having to ask him how she likes to go bed. I'm missing everything and feel like poo about it. DH is AWESOME with Nikki...I couldn't be more thrilled.

Don't feel like poo. That is awesome that DH is so great with her!

SweetHurricane · July 2011

juliebean071:

Gahh! I know what you mean! Remember the other night where I got to go out? Well, the next morning when I got E out of her crib she was soaked with pee! It's was going through the diaper!! I figured maybe he just forgot to put on one of the night time diapers...no. He didn't even change her diaper before he put her to bed. She had been in the same disgusting diaper from 5pm when I left to 8am the next morning!

I asked him about it and he said he just didn't think about changing her diaper. How do you not think about changing a baby's diaper! That's one of the first thing that pops into my mind when I hear the word baby!

For the longest time every night we'd go in DD's room to put her to bed and H would walk over to the crib with her and start to put her in it and I was just like "aren't you going to change her first?". He'd whine about it and say that it wakes her up too much (she acts like she's on crack the minute you set her down on the changing table). You know what else wakes up babies? WET DIAPERS!!! Ugh! He does it now, but it sure took a while.

mommabear530 · July 2011

sistersofjoan:
juliebean071:
Gahh! I know what you mean! Remember the other night where I got to go out? Well, the next morning when I got E out of her crib she was soaked with pee! It's was going through the diaper!! I figured maybe he just forgot to put on one of the night time diapers...no. He didn't even change her diaper before he put her to bed. She had been in the same disgusting diaper from 5pm when I left to 8am the next morning!
I asked him about it and he said he just didn't think about changing her diaper. How do you not think about changing a baby's diaper! That's one of the first thing that pops into my mind when I hear the word baby!
That would really tick me off if my DH did that. Ugh!
My DH is not a super dad that is for sure. There are some things that just really blow my mind. I tried to have a girls day out 2 Fridays ago, and was gone for about 2 hours. While I was out he texted me 3 times and called 3 times asking me to come home and help him. Why? No real reason. He just didn't want to deal with feeding him. Seriously. It made me cry. Anyhow, I had to cut the time with the girls short and leave during lunch. At least I got my nails done. But really...the kid is 6 months old, he can handle a couple hours with him on his own ffs.

That would have made me cry too! I'm pissed off for you! So sorry. My DH might not do it "right" or logically, but at least he wings it and I can get out. Although sometimes I wish he would call to avoid catastrophe!

RouensDream · July 2011

amandabrown530:
sistersofjoan:
juliebean071:
Gahh! I know what you mean! Remember the other night where I got to go out? Well, the next morning when I got E out of her crib she was soaked with pee! It's was going through the diaper!! I figured maybe he just forgot to put on one of the night time diapers...no. He didn't even change her diaper before he put her to bed. She had been in the same disgusting diaper from 5pm when I left to 8am the next morning!
I asked him about it and he said he just didn't think about changing her diaper. How do you not think about changing a baby's diaper! That's one of the first thing that pops into my mind when I hear the word baby!
That would really tick me off if my DH did that. Ugh!
My DH is not a super dad that is for sure. There are some things that just really blow my mind. I tried to have a girls day out 2 Fridays ago, and was gone for about 2 hours. While I was out he texted me 3 times and called 3 times asking me to come home and help him. Why? No real reason. He just didn't want to deal with feeding him. Seriously. It made me cry. Anyhow, I had to cut the time with the girls short and leave during lunch. At least I got my nails done. But really...the kid is 6 months old, he can handle a couple hours with him on his own ffs.
That would have made me cry too! I'm pissed off for you! So sorry. My DH might not do it "right" or logically, but at least he wings it and I can get out. Although sometimes I wish he would call to avoid catastrophe!

Thank you. Smile

mommabear530 · July 2011

sistersofjoan:
amandabrown530:
sistersofjoan:
juliebean071:

Gahh! I know what you mean! Remember the other night where I got to go out? Well, the next morning when I got E out of her crib she was soaked with pee! It's was going through the diaper!! I figured maybe he just forgot to put on one of the night time diapers...no. He didn't even change her diaper before he put her to bed. She had been in the same disgusting diaper from 5pm when I left to 8am the next morning!

I asked him about it and he said he just didn't think about changing her diaper. How do you not think about changing a baby's diaper! That's one of the first thing that pops into my mind when I hear the word baby!

That would really tick me off if my DH did that. Ugh!

My DH is not a super dad that is for sure. There are some things that just really blow my mind. I tried to have a girls day out 2 Fridays ago, and was gone for about 2 hours. While I was out he texted me 3 times and called 3 times asking me to come home and help him. Why? No real reason. He just didn't want to deal with feeding him. Seriously. It made me cry. Anyhow, I had to cut the time with the girls short and leave during lunch. At least I got my nails done. But really...the kid is 6 months old, he can handle a couple hours with him on his own ffs.

That would have made me cry too! I'm pissed off for you! So sorry. My DH might not do it "right" or logically, but at least he wings it and I can get out. Although sometimes I wish he would call to avoid catastrophe!

Thank you.

*hugs*

Fergie+1 · July 2011

I have to say the for the most part, H is awesome with Lucian... but there are some thing that make me go Indifferent

. Such as: I'll come home from work and ask when the last time he napped was... "I don't know, I don't keep track." The same goes for bottles. I have no idea how Lucian survives when I'm at work sometimes, because I'll make 5-7 bottles before I go to work, calculating that if he eats every 2-3 hours, then this many will be more than enough... and when I come home only 2 or 3 will be gone. How in the HELL does a 6 month old go a whole 9 hour day on 2 or 3 bottles??? I ask H and he goes "I don't know, I just feed him when he's hungry. ::headdesk::

SweetHurricane · July 2011

Fergie+1:
and when I come home only 2 or 3 will be gone. How in the HELL does a 6 month old go a whole 9 hour day on 2 or 3 bottles??? I ask H and he goes "I don't know, I just feed him when he's hungry. ::headdesk::

I get the 3 bottles, but not 2. DD eats every 3 hours, sometimes she'll stretch it out to 4 hours, sometimes 4.5 if she took a long nap. We only go through 5 bottles (6oz each) in a 24 hour period.

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