Baby Schedule and others dont understand....

gbaby26 · July 2011

My LO is somewhat on a routine, she is 3 months old. Our bedtime routine starts around 745ish and she is usually sleeping by 8:15-8:45ish. She will sleep until 4 am and after being fed will go back to bed for another 1.5 hour or so- then we start our day....

Well last night our neighbors invited us over for dinner and I kept looking at the clock- it was 8 and we were still there and by this point LO was crying and fussing like no other, and I knew it was because she was tired and wanting to get comfy in her pajamas and go to sleep. So I am gathering her things trying to leave- which I should have left earlier because she didnt wind up going to bed last night until 11 because she was OVER TIRED and fussy because I screwed up her routine, I was SO MAD at myself for allowing it. But anyways our neighbors were like "oh stay, its ok, just put her on the couch so she can sleep..." I am like in my head thinking she needs to get her pjs on, and be in her home in her room where we feed her in dark and quiet.

I am very all for the schedule because it is important, however I feel like I am made fun of by friends (even though they are joking around) because if we are out we need to be home by about 730 or so....my hubby and I do not mind at all because we know this is what our LO needs and we like it too because when she goes to sleep its our time to relax, ect. I just wish people would understand more because they are not the ones taking care of a baby and when she is thrown off her routine her and I are the ones that suffer, NOONE ELSE!

Anyone else feel like this? Any advice? How can I politely leave someone's house, ect when we have to leave at such an early time? I will not compromise her schedule or adapt to her changing things because she is what matters, nothing or noone else. I will sacrafice a social life or anything else because she is number 1 and our first priority.

Sorry this is so long, but I needed to vent as well! Thank you ladies!!

elisbu · July 2011

I agree, I prefer LO to be home and in bed by 9, but I also understand that life is going to happen.

SLSeibert1 · July 2011

I totally agree, our routine is almost identical to yours! We had family in town a few weeks ago and they wanted to go out to dinner every night. I entertained their wishes the first night and DD was screaming her head off in the restaurant and of course her sleep schedule got messed up. The second night 20 minutes into her crying at the next restaurant I threw in the towel and took her home. It took her a WEEK to get back on her sleep schedule! Ugh...not doing that again, next time I will get a sitter!

MarJo03 · July 2011

I've just gotten to the point where I'm almost rude about it. I apologize to whomever, and explain that nothings going to fix this unless I get home and get going with her routine. So far no ones said anything to me about it, every one says they understand. If they say something behind my back, whatever. I'm not in high school, if they want to participate in that type of behavior then are they really my friend? I'm going to do whats best for me and my baby, and if they means I have to be a bit b*tchy then gosh darn it, I'll be b*tchy!

gbaby26 · July 2011

Thanks ladies, I really appreciate your feedback and I feel like I am not only the crazy scheduled mommy out there, but the schedule is SO important I feel. I love knowing my LO is getting her sleep and she is not fussy or upset. I need to stop caring what others think and if I need to leave then oh well, too bad I am leaving and not worrying how others will take it!

RavenandJosh · July 2011

I think you had the right to be upset! My DS is so stuck on his schedule that he just goes crazy if things go off plan. My best advice though is that life does happen, so if you and DH are ever out doing something important and there is a possibility that you may not make it home in time, just bring along her PJ's and things that remind her of her bed, like a blankie or stuffed animal. Last week, my family was coming into town pretty late and leaving really early the next morning, so we had to stray off schedule because they came into town just for us and it was the only time they could get in, so we packed DS's PJ's and blankie in the diaper bag so that he could pass out in his PJ's and all we had to do when we got home was put him in his crib without disturbing him.

Carebear517 · July 2011

We were in a similar situation last night and our routine is almost the same as yours with LO usually asleep by 8:30. Luckily the neighbors house we were at used to be our roommate so we are pretty close and I had no problem leaving with LO at 7:45 when he started fussing, even though DH was still eating. I got started on his bath a little bit late though and he screamed the whole way through it which is not normal for him. So I learned my lesson...stick to the routine!

I have no advice, just wanted to say I feel where you are coming from. We just try to plan to be home by 7:30 which usually isn't hard because we are total homebodies now, much to MIL's dismay since she is just dying to babysit

theaustins05 · July 2011

Maybe for now invite friends to your house to hang out, so you don't have to cut the night short at 730. You can just excuse yourself to put LO down and rejoin your friends and husband when baby's asleep. Or not accept invitations that may last past bed time. I get the routine thing. Since I started doing it M has been sleeping longer at night. I will not jeopardize that for anything.

kacelle · July 2011

I don't schedule naps or feedings during the day, but one thing I've learned is that bedtime is non-negotiable! DD needs to be her in bassinet by 8 P.M. or she's over-exhausted and can't calm herself down enough to sleep.

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