Should my DH go with me?

BathingInBitter · July 2011

This Saturday is our birthing class - it's an all day 8 hr class, complete with a hospital tour and everything. Dh and I are both looking forward to it.

But, on Tuesday I have a 2 hr breastfeeding class. Should I bring DH with me or go by myself? He doesn't think he needs to go - but I've heard it's good to bring them so they can learn about it and know how to be supportive of what you're going through.

Thoughts?

MSaksa · July 2011

Your classes sound like my hospitals

I'll be going to my breastfeeding class alone since DH is deployed but if he were here I'd probably insist he went because he has no clue about what it takes to breastfeed/pump/etc and how hard it can be. Your DH may be more supportive he learned the ins and outs.

Dustilou · July 2011

I think I would have him go with you. If anything he might learn new ways to help you if it's tough. Plus it's nice to have a second set of ears, he might catch things you might not. Good Luck!!

Stuckinthemiddle · July 2011

Just went to part 1 of 2 breastfeeding classes this week. DH did come with me, and he actually jotted down some notes, and was truly interested in what the instructor had to say (so cute!) I would say about half the ladies in that class had their SO with them, one lady who didn't said she was bringing her DH with her next week.

If your DH isn't totally opposed to going, I would take him along - what does he have to lose? (I should mention that our childbirth classes haven't started yet, so my DH could easily get sick of all the classes quickly, but so far so good.) If he can't go, I don't think it would be a hardship on you or anything - its just nice for both of you to hear the same advice at the same time.

BathingInBitter · July 2011

Stuckinthemiddle:
Just went to part 1 of 2 breastfeeding classes this week. DH did come with me, and he actually jotted down some notes, and was truly interested in what the instructor had to say (so cute!) I would say about half the ladies in that class had their SO with them, one lady who didn't said she was bringing her DH with her next week.
If your DH isn't totally opposed to going, I would take him along - what does he have to lose? (I should mention that our childbirth classes haven't started yet, so my DH could easily get sick of all the classes quickly, but so far so good.) If he can't go, I don't think it would be a hardship on you or anything - its just nice for both of you to hear the same advice at the same time.

I would just like his support. He said he wasn't opposed to going, so hopefully he will go. So cute your DH was taking notes. I hope mine is as attentive.

ashonkwiler09 · July 2011

Yes, definitely have him go!

bbakersgirl75 · July 2011

I would have my DH go with me in this situation. I think it's good experience, and good for him to learn

SunMoon&Stars · July 2011

Hhonestly, my DH skipped BF and it was fine. Several other moms were there alone too.

It was an evening class which is hard for my DH b/c he gets up at 5:30 AM for work. We just went to an evening baby care class last week and he was beat when we got home. Then there's an evening infant CPR class coming up which I really, REALLY want him to go to, so I told him "OK, skip the BF, but you should be at CPR". pick your battles, KWIM?

Temp616379875002458 · July 2011

DH was permitted to be absent because he attended the newborn care and birthing classes... That said, I felt like a lonely gal in the BFing class because everyone had a significant other with them.

I do believe that DH would gain more understanding and perhaps as a result be more compassionate and supportive as we begin the BFing process, but it just didn't happen.

BathingInBitter · July 2011

SunMoon&Stars:
Hhonestly, my DH skipped BF and it was fine. Several other moms were there alone too.

It was an evening class which is hard for my DH b/c he gets up at 5:30 AM for work. We just went to an evening baby care class last week and he was beat when we got home. Then there's an evening infant CPR class coming up which I really, REALLY want him to go to, so I told him "OK, skip the BF, but you should be at CPR". pick your battles, KWIM?

It's not a matter of picking my battles. I just figured that since we're a team and we'll be raising this little girl together, he might like to be a part of it.

He and I are already both certified in CPR, so we won't be taking a CPR class. I just wanted him there for moral support. Sorry if I made it seem like this was the end all be all, it's not.

We talked it over and he said that he'd go. So, I'm happy about that!

cbubbles2 · July 2011

MH will be going to all the classes with me. I think it's nice for them to be a part of the whole process!

SunMoon&Stars · July 2011

BathingInBitter:
SunMoon&Stars:
Hhonestly, my DH skipped BF and it was fine. Several other moms were there alone too.

It was an evening class which is hard for my DH b/c he gets up at 5:30 AM for work. We just went to an evening baby care class last week and he was beat when we got home. Then there's an evening infant CPR class coming up which I really, REALLY want him to go to, so I told him "OK, skip the BF, but you should be at CPR". pick your battles, KWIM?
It's not a matter of picking my battles. I just figured that since we're a team and we'll be raising this little girl together, he might like to be a part of it.
He and I are already both certified in CPR, so we won't be taking a CPR class. I just wanted him there for moral support. Sorry if I made it seem like this was the end all be all, it's not.
We talked it over and he said that he'd go. So, I'm happy about that!

Nothing wrong with that. I wasn't judging, just saying I personally didn't mind my DH missing this one class, since he can't BF himself

He's never taken infant CPR, so for me that one is a more important that he go.

Swede25 · July 2011

My DH went with me. There were 6 other couples in the class with us, and then one woman came on her own and said she felt silly after not bringing her DH with her, but it's obviously up to you what you want to do. I just wanted DH there as an extra set of ears because I know it's not going to be easy the first few days, and I wanted him to understand the process.

Sunshine05 · July 2011

I'm planning on DH coming with me to all the classes. I want him to be just as involved in everything and hate going to stuff like that by myself anyway.

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