cP when to tell step-daughter

trebmal · July 2011

Hi all. Was wondering if you all would mind sharing your input on when to tell my 7 yo SD about her new sibling due in February. She's w/ us EOWeekend & her mom & step dad are expecting in December. Any help appreciated.

kathymarie · July 2011

If it were me, I'd wait until after a successful NT scan and corresponding blood work, so 16 or so weeks. But that's just me. You have to go with what is comfortable for you and your husband.

jamilynn9 · July 2011

I agree with Kathy. Personally, I'd wait until after the NT, maybe even the AS.

trebmal · July 2011

trebmal:
Hi all. Was wondering if you all would mind sharing your input on when to tell my 7 yo SD about her new sibling due in February. She's w/ us EOWeekend & her mom & step dad are expecting in December. Any help appreciated.

Thanks a ton ladies.

Aubs13 · July 2011

We told my SD at 13 weeks. I would have like to have waited a little longer, but DH was too excited. Plus, she was starting to question why I was sick so much and taking so many naps.

Good luck! I know the transition can be hard for her, especially with her mom expecting as well, but I hope it goes well!

kathymarie · July 2011

Aubs13:
We told my SD at 13 weeks. I would have like to have waited a little longer, but DH was too excited. Plus, she was starting to question why I was sick so much and taking so many naps.

Good luck! I know the transition can be hard for her, especially with her mom expecting as well, but I hope it goes well!

How old is your SD?

trebmal · July 2011

kathymarie:
Aubs13:
We told my SD at 13 weeks. I would have like to have waited a little longer, but DH was too excited. Plus, she was starting to question why I was sick so much and taking so many naps.

Good luck! I know the transition can be hard for her, especially with her mom expecting as well, but I hope it goes well!
How old is your SD?

She is 7 and an only child till December when her mom is due. Then she'll have 2 sibs in 2 months!!!! Yikes!!!!

kathymarie · July 2011

trebmal:
kathymarie:
Aubs13:
We told my SD at 13 weeks. I would have like to have waited a little longer, but DH was too excited. Plus, she was starting to question why I was sick so much and taking so many naps.

Good luck! I know the transition can be hard for her, especially with her mom expecting as well, but I hope it goes well!
How old is your SD?
She is 7 and an only child till December when her mom is due. Then she'll have 2 sibs in 2 months!!!! Yikes!!!!

I know, silly, you mentioned that in your OP. I was asking Aubs. Smile

I think her SD is older (11, maybe?) so that would play into it too. An older kid could figure things out on their own more and would understand more if things were to go wrong. My only concern is that a 7 year old can't.

trebmal · July 2011

kathymarie:
trebmal:
kathymarie:
Aubs13:
We told my SD at 13 weeks. I would have like to have waited a little longer, but DH was too excited. Plus, she was starting to question why I was sick so much and taking so many naps.

Good luck! I know the transition can be hard for her, especially with her mom expecting as well, but I hope it goes well!
How old is your SD?
She is 7 and an only child till December when her mom is due. Then she'll have 2 sibs in 2 months!!!! Yikes!!!!
I know, silly, you mentioned that in your OP. I was asking Aubs.
I think her SD is older (11, maybe?) so that would play into it too. An older kid could figure things out on their own more and would understand more if things were to go wrong. My only concern is that a 7 year old can't.

Oops sorry. I'm blaming lack of sleep & pregnancy brain!!! Promise to pay more attention!!!!

Waiting4Fred · July 2011

We waited until after our nt scan, so we told her at 13 weeks.

Eris-Alexis · July 2011

This is something that DH and I struggled with as well. His daughter is 16. We told her right after we found out about the twins last time and she was devastated when we lost them. This time we were going to wait at least until 14 weeks, but she actually guessed when we saw her last weekend. Her mom is PG and due in October as well.

Since your SD is younger, I think I would wait until the NT scan and blood work results, or the a/s depending on how you are feeling. GL!

LottaLattes · July 2011

I'll tell my kids about it (I'm divorced from their dad) around 12 weeks/NT scan, when I'll feel comfortable telling other people. I didn't tell them about the last pg, and "fortunately" we had to put the cat down on the same day as my D&C, so I had something outward to be upset about for them.

That's a lot of change for her, I hope it all goes smoothly (I'm a little worried about it on my part, at least).

jenniann87 · July 2011

We waited until after the anatomy scan to tell SS about his new little brother. With our previous loss we told him really early on and when we lost the baby (at 29wks) he had gotten soo excited about being a big brother that he took it really hard. That is why we decided to wait until after the a/s, to make sure that the baby was healthy and that there were any sort of defects (our last baby had T18). SS is 8, when we first told him about this pregnancy he was not happy about it at all and would say things like "he didnt want a little brother" or "he wants to be any only child". After a while though he has come around to the idea again.

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