Feeling discouraged about weight gain -rant (No flames please)

facemeltinglovers · July 2011

So at my appointment this week I found out I've gained 10lbs so far in the pregnancy (8 first trimester, 2 second trimester). I'm currently 15 weeks.

During my first trimester I HAD to eat every two hours or I couldn't get up off the couch without dry heaving. I also wasn't able to be active because I was sick all day long, every day until about a week ago.

Before pregnancy I had a fast metabolism, was really slim and wasn't a big eater at all. Friends IRL are amazed at how much food I've been needing. During the first trimester I tried to eat a ton of fruits and veggies, but also had a lot of pb and j sandwiches (it got exhausting to try and figure out what else to eat every few hours when I was so sick).

My eating has slowed down with my slowed sickness, and I've only gained 2 lbs since 11 weeks. I just feel discouraged with my strangely changing body and am afraid that I'll gain so much weight and not be able to shed it after the baby.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

kalajaye17 · July 2011

I know exactly how you feel. I was 95 lbs and 5'2 when I got pregnant. I used to be able to eat any and everything and not gain a pound. I hated it bc I had no boobs or butt, but I did have an awesome stomach. Lol.

Anyways I gained 9 pounds two months ago and 7 pounds this last month. I am only 27 weeks and have already gained 35 pounds!!!! It is really hard to go from being that small to so much bigger. I try to think of it as my body gaining the weight I was lacking, if that makes sense. I don't worry about it too much though beause everyone has said it will just fall off! Try not to stress about it because you will loose the weight again and right now your body is just keeping the weight it needs. Good luck to you!

honeybee #1 · July 2011

I can understand that, the most I had ever weighed pre-pregnancy was 108 and I was 103 when I got pregnant. I hate looking at myself in the mirror naked, it's like I should dress in the shower so I don't have to look, and I've only gained 12lbs. But if it makes you feel any better, you haven't gained more than is healthy, you're eating healthy, and it's really worth it for that healthy LO. And with a fast metabolism, it will fall right off again.

erinwhitney1979 · July 2011

I know how you feel. I've been feeling so discouraged, too. I know it's normal, but at a point where I don't really "look" pregnant, so it's hard. With my first, I gained 50 pounds. Granted, 3 days after his birth, I had already lost 30...but still.....

I think it will all even out in the end. And you will totally lose all the weight. It took me about 8 months, but I lost mine. Good luck and hugs.

Cookie427 · July 2011

I could have wrote that post. I was the same way! Especially in the beginning. Now I am averaging 1 pound a week and it all evens out. And, once I started getting more of a bump it was a lot easier than just not fitting into anything! :-)

courtneyklv · July 2011

I have also gained about 10lbs and I am 13 weeks. See, before I was doing about 6 hours of cardio a week as a gogo dancer in nightclubs, I was eating small meals. I am usually tiny.. 5'6, 110lbs.

I havent been sick once and have always had an appetite. My dr. said I am good and maybe I will just plateau. I also work out about 4 times a week doing some cardio and classes. He also said it could be water weight. It is all in my belly.

Thanks for letting me vent!

KMLP · July 2011

I know how you feel. That is how my body responds to pregnancy...I just gain weight. I've gained about 10 lbs now. With my son, I started out at 115 and gained 37 lbs. I lost it all but 5 lbs, so don't worry. It can and will come off. Try not to worry about the weight gain now. Just eat what you are hungry for and try to eat healthy.

jhenry1204 · July 2011

Before DD, I was 95 lbs (I'm 4 foot 10). I gained 25 lbs. My body went through a lot of changes. But I was able to lose 19 lbs of the baby weight within the first 6 months (the vast majority was not long after DD's birth). The rest, I was still working on when I found out I was pregnant again. Mostly because I was worried more about DD and work/school that I didn't have time to worry about working out.

Don't worry about the weight gain. You need it for the baby. It sucks because you're body changes a lot more than you realize and it happens almost over night (yes, you're pregnant, you're going to get "fat"... but it's the quickness of these changes that gets most moms). Remember, a lot of it will go away after the baby is born. The rest, will just take a little dieting and exercise. But, you're pregnant, and can't do much for it right now.

raeski2008 · July 2011

I've been worried about weight gain too. My situation's weird though, in the first trimester I lost fifteen pounds even though I was eating a ton to make my nausea go away. Now I am almost 24 weeks and I have gained that 15 pounds back, and then gained 7 more on top of that. So, I am not totally sure if I have gained too much since it happened so fast. so if you count what I gained back that means I gained 22 pounds! I feel SO big

Lindsaylovesdogs · July 2011

I was pretty similar early on...but it slowed down. I had gained 7 Lbs at 18 weeks and was kind of frustrated, but now at almost 26 weeks, I have only gained 2 more pounds and am up 9 total. My dr says this is right on track for 25 lbs gain.

I am not doing anything differently, my body just really wanted to hang onto weight at first.

alexvause · July 2011

I have gained 12 lbs and was NOT tiny to begin with- I was overweight.

I started out my pregnancy hoping to keep my total gain to 15-20 lbs since I was overweight to begin with. The first tri was not kind to me- I was so sick and all I could stomach was carbs- pasta, bread, bagels, etc- things I was used to eating very rarely.

I stressed about it for a bit but am done worrying about it. Now that I CAN stomach better foods, I am eating a balanced diet. Im not eating junk and I am trying to make the healthiest choices for me and baby. I will figure out the weight loss once baby is here.

lesleighnjeremy · July 2011

I know exactly how you feel. I am 15 weeks and I have gained 14-15 lbs. When I got pregnant I was going to yoga 4 times a week and I had my body fat measured, with the 5 point calipers and it was at19.2%. Which is considered "athlete" for women.I am 5' 4'', I was 165 lbs before and I am close to 179-180 already. I am terrified of how much I have gained. I have only gained 2lbs in the past 3 weeks, I am a lot more conscious of what I am eating. All my girlfriends have lost their baby weight within the first year, a majority in the first 8 weeks. It will be alright.

starla-dear · July 2011

I totally understand this--a lot of women gain more quickly in the beginning and then it normalizes in 2nd and 3rd tri. I wouldn't worry about it as long as you are eating healthy and getting exercise, and curbing excessive junkfood. I was the same way in 1st tri (this pregnancy and the last one)--gained a bunch in the beginning (7ish lbs), and both times it has slowed WAY down in 2nd tri, fluctuated and lost a pound here and there even. I struggled to stay active both times in the beginning, and I think that is half of why women gain a lot at first (eating more + not getting as much activity).

1st tri sucks, and I think it's one way for our bodies to get our fat stores up for pregnancy. I am having a total repeat this time around as last time, and last time I gained about 29-30 overall, and lost all of it in 2 months pp. If you are out of the sick/tired phase, things will really turn around as far as the needing to eat every few seconds and no energy for exercise. I feel so much more normal now, and the pounds are not packing on quickly because I can eat more normal (still more than pre preg, but not like 1st tri) and exercise routinely again.

Also, if you have a fast metabolism and are healthy like you say, you will lose it afterwards, don't worry. I have never ever known a thin person pre-preg that did not bounce back after pregnancy (no health issues or complications of course).

DaisyKD · July 2011

I know how you feel, and it seems like when there is a "weight gain" post on here there are so many women who have barely gained anything.

I was up 12-14 lbs. at 20 wks and really started worrying about it, but then finally I just realized that if I am eating healthy, exercising as much as possible, than there's no reason to worry.

Plus I think that different women gain differently, some early on and some later. I have a friend who gained 80 lbs. with her first and she is now skinnier than she was in high school. It just all depends on your body.

AfterAll · July 2011

I gain very quickly in pregnancy and last time gained about 60 lbs total. This time I've really been watching what I eat (and the amount) and I consider myself to be doing a good job to have ONLY gained 10 lbs at 16 weeks. (BTW, I lost the 60 lbs by about 6 months).

Your body knows what it needs. If you are staying active and eating healthy, there is nothing to worry about.

megmarissa · July 2011

I totally feel for you. I struggled with an eating disorder for 12 years and have been 3+ years in recovery when I got pregnant. If it helps, do what I do. My doctor knows my body issues and she and I have agreed that she will not tell me how much I weigh unless I am not gaining enough or gaining to little. At this point, regardless of how freaked out I am by my pregnancy weight gain, I just tell myself I'm eating healthily and my body is doing what it needs to do.

niknak1128 · July 2011

Oh thank god it's not just me.

I'm 13 weeks.. 9lbs already. I thought it was crazy and I felt so bad about it but my doctor didn't seem to be concerned. I was exactly the same way.. still am pretty nausous actually. But I had to eat every couple of hours to keep myself from being sick and I couldn't work out like I was before because I never felt good. I still don't most of the time.. I feel a little bit better but they have me on zofran now which does help. Hopefully, I'll be able to be more active soon but so far it's not been that way.

alaratta1 · July 2011

My first baby I worried a lot about how much weight I was gaining. When she was about 3 months old I started a mommy and baby boot camp class 3 times a week. It was hard work and it took about 4 months, but my old body came back. I also used a belly bandit over my stomach and hips starting an hour after I have birth. My hips shrunk down smaller then they were before I was pregnant. This time around I am working out when I can, but also eating whatever I feel like. I know after the baby comes I can get back to where I want to be with some hard work.

reason00 · July 2011

Sorry ladies, not on the same page as all of you.

30-40 pounds throughout your pregnancy is NORMAL. It's considered entirely "baby weight". Stick within the guidelines and you'll be fine after delivery. You will bounce back to the same weight pre-pregnancy. If you plan on breastfeeding, you will also burn approx 6-800 calories a day extra just feeding! Plus you'll shed any extra pounds running after 1 year old, too!

I've gained 18 pounds so far and will gain another 1 pound a week until I give birth. Honestly, I love every pound of baby bump.

Jerzee1974 · July 2011

ruby soho:

I have gained 12 lbs and was NOT tiny to begin with- I was overweight.

I started out my pregnancy hoping to keep my total gain to 15-20 lbs since I was overweight to begin with. The first tri was not kind to me- I was so sick and all I could stomach was carbs- pasta, bread, bagels, etc- things I was used to eating very rarely.

I stressed about it for a bit but am done worrying about it. Now that I CAN stomach better foods, I am eating a balanced diet. Im not eating junk and I am trying to make the healthiest choices for me and baby. I will figure out the weight loss once baby is here.

I could have written this one myself here.....I was already chubby at the time we conceived from stress and relocation and re-adapting to my new life 5'2" 156 lbs - but now at 19 weeks 180. My OB that I just DUMPED told me flat out that I needed to join a gym and not gain another ounce.....

During my one u/s they measured my placenta / baby and other items and told me that 24 lbs or more was all that plus mucus.

Soooo I was right there where I was supposed to be then right? According to the Dr. I was still over weight and was warned not to gain anything before the next visit.

But a word - if you stress yourself like I was the weight seems to stay and grow - but if you just eat healthy and exercise when you are able to and how you are told to your body will do whatever it needs to and will not keep anything more.

facemeltinglovers · July 2011

DaisyKD:
I know how you feel, and it seems like when there is a "weight gain" post on here there are so many women who have barely gained anything.
I was up 12-14 lbs. at 20 wks and really started worrying about it, but then finally I just realized that if I am eating healthy, exercising as much as possible, than there's no reason to worry.
Plus I think that different women gain differently, some early on and some later. I have a friend who gained 80 lbs. with her first and she is now skinnier than she was in high school. It just all depends on your body.

Ha - I totally have felt like that reading some of the other posts. And I totally agree with you - I think it is my body just adjusting the way it specifically needs to. Thanks for the encouragement

facemeltinglovers · July 2011

honeybee #1:
I can understand that, the most I had ever weighed pre-pregnancy was 108 and I was 103 when I got pregnant. I hate looking at myself in the mirror naked, it's like I should dress in the shower so I don't have to look, and I've only gained 12lbs. But if it makes you feel any better, you haven't gained more than is healthy, you're eating healthy, and it's really worth it for that healthy LO. And with a fast metabolism, it will fall right off again.

aw Thanks - that's encouraging, glad to know I'm not alone

facemeltinglovers · July 2011

Lindsaylovesdogs:
I was pretty similar early on...but it slowed down. I had gained 7 Lbs at 18 weeks and was kind of frustrated, but now at almost 26 weeks, I have only gained 2 more pounds and am up 9 total. My dr says this is right on track for 25 lbs gain.
I am not doing anything differently, my body just really wanted to hang onto weight at first.

I feel like this may be me. At this point I'm not ravenous anymore and it seems the baby has slowed down it's raging hunger a little bit . Thanks for sharing

facemeltinglovers · July 2011

Thanks everyone!!! I feel so encouraged after hearing that I'm not alone. Thanks for listening!

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