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TTC after 35
10-4LilBuddy
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Seriously considering a break... please chime in
10-4LilBuddy
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in TTC after 35
I am exhausted. DH is exhausted. We're old... 38.
Background - We've been trying since February 2010 and my DX is PCOS and my DH's SA came back with low volume (25million). I've been with an RE since October. I have long cycles on my own - like 60+ days. RE put me on Femara starting in December. I didn't respond to the 2.5mg dosage, but have responded every month to 5.0 mg. I added fertility acupuncture in March and love it too. It started to help regulate my temps. So, now I've done six Femara cycles and ovulated in each one. Our next step will be IUI.
We are considering taking a cycle off. My RE is really pushing us to go to IUI. DH wants to take a break to regroup. We are supposed to move this next week and it is going to be a stressful month. I really want to take the break, but I'm just paranoid about missing any opportunity. Your advice is really appreciated. DH says it's my choice and he'll support whatever I want to do.
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Re: Seriously considering a break... please chime in
I definitely think that taking a break is important if you are at the point where you feel you need it. It sounds like you are both on the same page about this and you can do the IUI the following cycle just as easily as you can do it this next cycle. You may be more relaxed after taking a break, which may help.
Good luck to you whatever you decide!
A one month break is fine. Regroup, move, try to have a little fun/relaxation if possible. It draining to do this month after month. I'm exhausted too!
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
SAIF/PAIF Welcome
http://waitingforraintostop.wordpress.com
I'm in the middle of a move right now and it is kicking my arse. So many boxes filled with crap I should just give away. Seriously!
Do what is best for you, regroup and come back with renewed energy. Best of luck with the move!
Me: 36, DH: 42
Dx: DOR and MFI
DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal
IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!
SAIFW/PAIFW
go ahead and take the break. I'm about to turn 39 and I have scaled back b/c the roller coaster and disappointment just overwhelmed me. I consider myself very strong personally and this has kicked my a$$.
My heart is as open as the sky.
Read about it on the blog
2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
I would take a break. We've been on a break for 2 mos and I was on BCP to get my mind off of things. It really helped my emotional well being.
This!
Oh yes, take your break to get settled. Do a little reserch to see if going off your meds for that month will set you back at all and if the answer is yes then maybe just continue the meds, but that's it. You just want to hit "pause" for a little bit, but you don't want to undo any forward progress you have made. IUI is easy and relatively inexpensive and for some it's just that little extra help they need to make things happen for them. I think after the break maybe you'll be able to get a little excited about it and it will not seem so daunting.
I know my husband was unnerved at the idea of what it meant from his side, (producing sperm solo and on demand), but after the first trip to the clinic he felt less nervous and once I told him to take his ipad and it was a free pass to look at all the porn he wanted for 30 minutes he was ok. Just a tip, NEVER let your husband rely on the "materials" provided in the room, tell him to bring his own. They provided some strange stuff and my gadget guy didn't want to touch the remote to the TV not to mention the fact that when he finally did he couldn't get it to work.
Enjoy the break, Take Care
me: 39 DH: 36 dx: unexplained (ugh)