Community› The Bump Message Boards› Single Parents
Single Parents
New Discussion

I'm thinking it would just be easier to be a single mom...

CirbyloverCirbylover member
in Single Parents
Me and my fiance have been fighting really bad for about 3 months. Hes super controlling and doesn't know when to shut his mouth sometimes. when we argue he just keeps going at it, and when i tell him to stop he just says "dont tell me what to do". So childish... I've been talking to my family about him being this way for a couple months, and my dad has offered me to move back home with my lo. I'm just afraid to leave my fiance because I don't know what hes going to do. I'm so afraid hes going to take my son away from me, and not let me see him. But I really feel like going our separate ways is the best thing. He wants to move us an hour away from my friends and family to live closer to his dad... But i have so much more here than he does up there. I almost feel like he wants to get me away from my family so I have no support. I don't know how hard it would be to split, my son is only 5 months old so i feel like i need to be with him everyday. I'm torn and don't know what to do. I can't keep pretending everything is ok anymore, even if it means I get to be with my son all the time.
Lilypie Premature Baby tickers
Report Reply to Post

Re: I'm thinking it would just be easier to be a single mom...

  • luvmycocaluvmycoca

    If it were me I would not move further away from my emotional support. 

    Is what you are arguing about "big" or "little" things?  Could counseling help the lines of communications? 

    Unless you are unfit he cannot take your son from you. 

    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • crystalt426crystalt426 member
    I agree that counseling may be an option. There is alot involved in being a single mom. You will still have to communicate with your fiance on a regular basis. His childish antics may even get worse because he will be angry. As much as you don't want to be away from your son, I'm sure he feels the same way. That means a lot of court, child support, custody, visitation, lawyer fees (about $3000 just to start) and the list just goes on. Then there is handling new situations like.. how will you feel when he starts dating again? He will be able to bring this woman around your child. The same goes for you. How will he act when you start dating again?  What if he gets married or enters a long term relationship and your child calls the new woman mom like my step son does me? As your child gets older he will have more visitation and since he has been present in the baby's life the last 5 months a judge could very well give him over night visits. Also 50/50 custody is becoming more normal. If he moves to be closer to his father after the split, you will both be making trips back and forth. My DH and I go through many periods where we annoy each other, but it's just a cycle. Eventually we break the cycle and go back to our normal habits.There are just so many things that people don't think of when they walk away. But if you feel like it's best then you probably are ready to walk away. Which is fine, people do it all the time. If it's what is best for you then you should follow your heart. If you feel this way now, how will you feel in ten years? Probably like you wasted 10 years of your life. Then you would still be in this same spot just 10 years later. You have to do what is best for you and that decision is never easy. Good luck with your decision.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"