I'm annoyed...baby shower question

jinx75 · July 2011

I met a woman, who is expecting her 3rd child, a little over a month ago at a bible study. The day after she friended me on FB and I accepted as I thought we were going to be part of this study group together. Well I haven't seen her since. She hasn't been coming to the study. About a week after meeting, I get a FB email request for my address so she can send me a baby shower invite, I never responded. Yesterday I get a FB evite for the shower and on it she basically indicates she EXPECTS everyone in the invite to attend. I'm annoyed, why would someone who does even know me want me to come to her baby shower? Am I wrong?

julesjb · July 2011

Wait and it's her third child?? No you are definitely not wrong I would be irritated too and prob would decline!

luckymrs718 · July 2011

I would never EXPECT anyone to come to a baby shower, especially if I had only met them once. FB friends or not. Also, am I out of the loop or are baby showers for second and third children typical these days? I feel like expecting anyone to come to a baby shower for your third child is a little presumptuous. I might be a little annoyed too.... and would definitely reply back not attending.

RunSchwartzRun · July 2011

Ummm, no, you are so not wrong. People are so stinking weird and entitled!

jinx75 · July 2011

This is her first girl...she has two boys and I think some of the ladies at her church are actually hosting although she had a hand in the planning of it. I just think it looks incredibly greedy to be telling people you don't know that you expect to see them at your shower.

D&D4Ever7 · July 2011

I would do the same as you. Going to a baby shower of a person you just met and mostly in contact by facebook is very wierd.

JayandTay09 · July 2011

This is her 3rd child?! You don't get a shower for your 3rd child...Sounds to me like she just wants presents and attention...I wouldn't go!

smallfry5909 · July 2011

That is the weirdest thing I have ever heard!! So you're REQUIRED to go to a baby shower of a woman you've met ONE time for her THIRD child?? haha, pathetic. No way. RSVP no immediately.

Seriously, what is WITH people these days?? So bizarre.

ravenorchid · July 2011

That is just odd. 1. It's weird to have a shower for a 3rd child. 2. It's weird to invite people you don't really know.

Karen1998 · July 2011

Say what?! Just delete the event invite. It's not even worthy of a reply. I'm normally very big about RSVPing, but this level of tackiness doesn't warrant one.

martinimomma · July 2011

Ummm...yeah. I think you are busy that day, Jinxy. Huh?

MissAutumn · July 2011

smallfry5909:

That is the weirdest thing I have ever heard!! So you're REQUIRED to go to a baby shower of a woman you've met ONE time for her THIRD child?? haha, pathetic. No way. RSVP no immediately.

Seriously, what is WITH people these days?? So bizarre.

This. Sounds like she wants lots of gifts. Hmm

BritanyV · July 2011

Karen1998:
Say what?! Just delete the event invite. It's not even worthy of a reply. I'm normally very big about RSVPing, but this level of tackiness doesn't warrant one.

Ditto. Sounds like someone is just looking for gifts...tacky!

ColleenS629 · July 2011

I would definitely not go. You only met her once and this is her third child... that's insane.

karma79 · July 2011

Baby shower for a 3rd child - I don't think so. And you met her once, she's got some balls expecting you to come. Decline immediately, she sounds FHish.

shoefreak85 · July 2011

What?!? That's rude! She sounds like a greedy momma! I wouldn't go.

jertie · July 2011

There's no question about it - I wouldn't go and wouldn't send a gift either. She's only a casual acquaintance and this sounds like a grab for gifts and nothing more. Honestly, I wouldn't want someone like this in my life, so I would just tell her that I won't be attending, but have a lovely shower. (My guess is she'll unfriend you - but is that really such a huge loss?)

Shaka114 · July 2011

RunSchwartzRun:
Ummm, no, you are so not wrong. People are so stinking weird and entitled!

This exactly!! How weird!

kathymarie · July 2011

HA! This one actually did make me laugh out loud. What a psycho.

1. A shower for a 3rd baby is kind of over the top--unless the other two are like 10yr/o, a different sex, or some other set of circumstances.

2. Even then, since it's so iffy, it should be family and CLOSE friends only--not a partial stranger from church!

3. To indicate that you EXPECT everyone to attend is rude. Yes, we all want everyone to come, but people have lives!

*Just RSVP that you already have plans... pull down the blinds and put the car in the garage though; she sounds nuts.

StephK86 · July 2011

She obviously just wants all of her babies things paid for by others. It's her third kid and she is inviting people she doesn't know well. I would not go!

Eris-Alexis · July 2011

I would be annoyed too. Firstly, Hmm

to the shower for the third child. Doesn't she have pretty much everything at this point? Secondly, that is really tacky to invite someone she really doesn't know and insist that they be there. I wouldn't go just to spite her.

iggy.d · July 2011

I'd just ignore the invite! It definitely sounds like she's just fishing for gifts. And with her THIRD child?!

LottaLattes · July 2011

Uh, yeah, that's totally annoying. I would just gracefully decline, it would be different if you knew her well AND it was her third after a LONG time.

I'm hoping to have a baby shower for this LO, but my youngest will be 7.5 by the time I have the baby, plus this would be a first baby with my husband and his family. I literally have no baby stuff, but honestly would be more interested in having my CLOSE friends together to celebrate a new baby than anything else. But the emphasis still on my close friends, there's no way I would invite someone I casually met once!

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