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StrawberryAlarmClockStrawberryAlarmClock member
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What would you consider STTN? I've been telling everyone that asks that DS has never STTN. Then, last night, he woke up at 3, wide awake, talking, playing with my hair and laughing. He took FOREVER to get back to sleep. That's the first time that has ever happened (he's 15m). It occurred to me that maybe that is what parents refer to as a night waking. Maybe Dez has been technically STTN this whole time and I'm just setting my bar too high. He wakes up frequently with little whimpers - sometimes cries, sometimes saying "Mama", "help", or "noms", rolls over to latch on (I help him) and falls back asleep at the breast. He rolls onto his back anywhere from 30 sec to a few minutes after latching on. Would you call this STTN? He's never 100% awake. WDYT?
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  • shainababygirlshainababygirl
    I'd say he's STTN. I still count K as STTN when she wakes up and comes in bed with us (when she goes straight back to sleep). When she's wide awake, playing or crying, then I consider it night waking. She's been "STTN" since 9 months, probably 5 out of 7 nights,.
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  • jsugrinjsugrin member
    If he's not having a real feeding or waking enough for you to have to really entertain him than I'd call it STTN for sure.  We all wake up through out the night, it's simply a matter of how awake (when babies can't get back to sleep on their own or awaken too fully that is what fvcks with the whole STTN business).  My oldest is the one that still bedshares and he may talk in his sleep, roll over and say "mama and rub my face Smile or even start crying a little (which tells us he has to pee so we carry him in there) but I still consider him to STTN.
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  • SnoopyLuvSnoopyLuv member

    When I don't remember waking up for 6 hours.

    Seriously, she never STTN in our bed, I'd get 3-4 hour stretches but she was such a light sleeper that any move or sound would wake her.

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  • kacellekacelle member
    I'd consider that STTN.  DD sleeps with us after her middle-of-the-night waking, because if I try to put her back in her bassinet she's WIRED.  She'll be up for hours smiling and cooing unless she's right next to me and can nurse to sleep and stay there.
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  • ananas19ananas19

    This is a tough one for me to answer because I'm in the same boat. DS stirs frequently but falls back asleep shortly after latching (last night was every hour from 2:30 - 6:30, these molars need to come in stat!) I think his sleep is sufficient, but I'm not sure I'd call it STTN because if I wasn't there to latch him immediately I know it would be a full waking.

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    imageSnoopyLuv:

    When I don't remember waking up for 6 hours.

    Seriously, she never STTN in our bed, I'd get 3-4 hour stretches but she was such a light sleeper that any move or sound would wake her.

    This is our problem. We're both super light and restless sleepers. I haven't felt fully rested since.....2nd tri!! Indifferent
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  • BrittKavBrittKav member

    DD wakes up once or twice and kind of tosses and turns and whimpers a bit, and then I nurse her back to sleep. She doesn't cry and she's never fully awake. I still don't consider that STTN. 

    My older daughter (in a crib) will sometimes wake up crying for a minute, and then put herself back to sleep. I consider that STTN. 

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    imageananas19:

    This is a tough one for me to answer because I'm in the same boat. DS stirs frequently but falls back asleep shortly after latching (last night was every hour from 2:30 - 6:30, these molars need to come in stat!) I think his sleep is sufficient, but I'm not sure I'd call it STTN because if I wasn't there to latch him immediately I know it would be a full waking.

    MOLARS!!! That's what this is!! He's been doing the hourly (or half-hourly!!) wakings for abbot a week. He chews on his fingers and says "hurt...mouth". I never connected that this could be causing the waking! You genius, I could eKiss you!! :)
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  • 3003girl3003girl member

    I am in the same molar boat. from 3-wake-up time it's constant nursing.

    Also, I think not STTN is when they are awake long enough to wake you up enough so you can't fall back asleep. ;)

    my lo wakes to nurse quite a bit (3-4 times a night at almost 13 mos) but most of the time I don't wake enough to "wake up"

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