Is anyone in therapy due to IF?

Dori722 · July 2011

I know we are all in the same boat - the sadness, frustration, perhaps the pain of seeing a pregnant woman on the street, the knife in the heart when you hear a friend is pregnant by accident, or see 5 pregnancy announcements on FB in a week....

I feel that my reaction to everything I'm going through is probably good considering the circumstances. However, I have moments where I wonder if talking to therapist would make me feel better. Other times, I wonder if a therapist COULD say anything that would make me feel better. I know that it will happen for us, I know I have to stay positive and the reality is, I don't think I'm going to feel better until I see that little heart beat on the U/S monitor.

I'm just curious if anyone is going to therapy and if you feel it has made a real difference for you?

kellyrn9956 · July 2011

No, but I am getting close - particularly since my m/c. Best of luck.

moosegal · July 2011

I haven't been to a licensed therapist yet, but I will be attending my first RESOLVE support group meeting this weekend. It can't hurt to try a therapist to see if you get any benefit from it. I hope you find some comfort soon; we all know how you're feeling.

Mrs.LisaP · July 2011

When we were TTC last time, and after our cancelled IVF I started seeing a therapist that speacialzed in IF. It was helpful to be able to talk it out with someone. She really helped me put things in perspective and I felt 'safe' there. It was a good experience. I only went for about 2 months.

lynn0926 · July 2011

I feel that if you are wondering about it, you should give it a try. If you don't like, don't go back. I wish you good luck.

BR · July 2011

No, but sometimes I feel like I should be. There was a point (right before we started IVF) that I felt my feelings were out of control. I actually called my insurance co. to see if it was covered and didn't have great luck. Only two therapists were covered in my area and they both specialized in drug addiction.I've always been curious though, as I've never been to a therapist. I feel like it can't hurt.

pulga131 · July 2011

No, I have not but I did go to therapy after my mom died and Im so glad i did! I am just beginning the IF struggle but if I fall back into the depression/funk I was in then I would def 100% go back.

tapnpsych · July 2011

moosegal:
I haven't been to a licensed therapist yet, but I will be attending my first RESOLVE support group meeting this weekend. It can't hurt to try a therapist to see if you get any benefit from it. I hope you find some comfort soon; we all know how you're feeling.

MG, I did not know such things existed. Will you keep us posted on how this goes? Or maybe PM me? I like the idea of a support group.

patience610 · July 2011

I go but don't find that it helps all that much. It's sad but it's hard for me to take advice/counsel from someone who hasn't been in the same boat before. Try to find one that specializes in IF. Maybe that's something I'll try to look into...

Brendarph · July 2011

My husband is finishing his internship after grad school for counseling. He has an IVF patient and of course due to no self disclosure he does not let her know our situation but he says it seems to really be helping her. He really feels that I should see someone to help me with my feelings. I do attend a support group at my RE office and it has been helping. Best of luck to you if you decide to go, I think it is really great!

I am Marla Singer · July 2011

I am! I highly recommend it! I only started about a month ago- but I already feel better. If you are considering it- take the plunge- it's totally worth it!

saratrying · July 2011

I STRONGLY recommend reaching out and talking to someone if you think you need it. There is no shame in asking for a little help.

I did/still do when I really need to vent or just want to talk and don't want to discuss with DH. I actually started seeing her for anxiety related issues -- my anxiety is directly connected to my intense desire to control everything (um, I should have known that, but needed someone to kick me in the ass to realize it) and my fear of not having a family.

For me, it really helps. Since infertility is the ultimate out-of-your-control issue, I have had a hard time trying to relax and just let the process happen. My therapist has really helped me deal with the uncertainty and waiting, especially during the 2ww.

My therapist doesn't specialize in IF (I dont think any in my town do), but during my first meeting I was very blunt and asked her two questions: (1) Have you worked with patients dealing with infertility issues, and (2) Do you have strong personal feelings or religious beliefs about infertility treatments, particularly IVF, that might influence your judgment. A good therapist will answer these questions with a simple yes or no.

txhillcountrybaby · July 2011

Dori -we have been going for a couple month now. I seriously sunk into a deep depression after my MC and poor DH had no clue what was wrong or how to fix anything. It definitely helped us better communicate and for me to get past my "due date" without me crawling in an hole.

Our therapist does not specialist in IF but she has gone thru it herself and treatment so she knows I can be is a totally different state of mind depending on when I am in my cycle.

It help for DH to hear the therapist to say thou I am depressed, I am dealing with this the best and can and I need his support and how I need his support. He thought he was doing a good job just leaving me be when actually I needed him to talk to me. I had told him the same thing but it did not get thru when I said it.

I have since been in a much better place and my DH and I relate much better and I react much better to dumb comments and thinks that before I would fly off the handle.

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