Anyone else with birth defects

sabrinapaul · July 2011

Well in april i had an ultrasound, and i found out that my baby boy has clubfeet but they were also concerned about his left hand cause it was always in a fist. Well i had an ultrasound yesterday, and my doctor told me that my baby has 4 fingers on his left hand and it is also small. I'm just really scared for him when he is old enough to go to school all the kids would make fun of him cause he isn't like the other kids. The feet are fixable so i'm happy about that, but im scared for him. No one i know understands what im going through cause they didn't have the same problem i do.

Well thank you for reading this.

Fisherman'sWife · July 2011

I'm really sorry you are dealing with this. Both my father and my brother were born with a club foot so we have cautiously been watching for that in ultrasounds.

My brother did have to have surgery and lots of physical therapy but he is fully recovered now and plays all kinds of sports.

sabrinapaul · July 2011

Im glad their fixable though, but either way it is still sad but sometimes it happens and theres nothing you can do to prevent, i understand that we didnt do anything wrong it just happens when it is developing.

Latesha0911 · July 2011

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. As expectant mothers, I know we worry about our baby being born "normal" but no one can understand your position until they are actually in it. You're right, thankfully it can be fixed. T&P that you have a safe birth process and enjoy your little boy

sabrinapaul · July 2011

Thank You But i cant wait until he is born, i want to to see his precious face already

sytom · July 2011

I'm so sorry to read your post. Try not to worry about school. Kids are curious but not necessarily mean. A few years ago, I was teaching kindergarten and a little girl had a small hand. She was really cute and was not at all worried about her hand. She did everything just like the others and I never once heard a kid say something to her. Seeing that, I think that if you make it special, it becomes special. She was not hiding herself, she was just being a kid.

I wish you the best!

35baby · July 2011

My T&P go out to you and your little one.

rainlily · July 2011

I'm sorry to hear about your LO's clubfeet and hand issues. I will share a quick story with you. DD goes to The Little Gym once a week. There are these adorable twin girls in her class. One is missing her left forearm and hand- her arm ends at the elbow. She is one of the happiest toddlers I have ever met. She is always smiling. The other kids don't notice anything. She can hang and swing from the bars (with one hand) and do forward rolls (again using only her one arm and hand). This 2-year-old doesn't let her disability stop her from doing anything. She can throw balls, catch, carry lots of items, etc. There is no stopping her! Best of luck to you!

thequeeenbee · July 2011

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with that. It must be very stressful.

My nephew is missing a finger on one hand. We knew about it (from the ultrasounds) before he was born. We were all curious to see what it would look like. Would it be very noticeable? But when he was born, we were all pleasently surprised. What we thought would be such as obvious thing really isn't obvious at all. His hand looks completely and totally normal. Unless you are really taking the time to study his hand you would never notice. His fingers are all placed evenly on his hand. It doesn't look like anything is "missing" by any means. Try to stay positive. It may be less of an issue than you think. I know that it hard to do though.

I'll keep you and your LO in my thoughts and prayers. ::hugs::

NurseLaLa · July 2011

It's natural to worry about it, but just remember that the most important thing to do for your kid is to NOT treat them like they are physically different. He or she is still going to turn out to be an awesome person regardless of if they're teased about being different. Everyone gets teased!

Have you been introduced to Zach Anner? He is one hilarious guy with cerebral palsy (physical, not mental condition):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_35KKa3b1c

Having a great sense of humor makes all the difference in the world.

(positive attitude aside: I know it's freaking hard to come to terms with having a baby that doesn't meet our "10 fingers, 10 toes" expectations and there certainly is a period of mourning that comes with the bad news. It will all be okay, though. It will be alright. )

UCONNHuskies · July 2011

I am wishing your LO the best life and the courage to you all.

belleaur · July 2011

I had a friend in middle school and high school who was missing fingers on one of her hands. Most people didn't notice and she still played violin and piano as well as spun a flag in the color guard. She was pretty amazing. Good luck with everything!

sabrinapaul · July 2011

Thanks everyone for telling me these stories, i feel better knowing their are other people with defects and that but im not as worried about him going to school thank you everyone

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