Staying @ Grandma's - Too soon?

EJChapman123 · July 2011

My ILs live about an hour and a half away. They really want to babysit and give us a break, but to make the driving back and forth not so painful, I really feel like it should be for a couple days. DH and I are thinking about dropping the baby off for his birthday, which is August 3rd. What we would actually do is drop her off pretty late on Aug 2nd, and go back to Lake Mary early on the 5th. Its technically 3 nights but really only 2 days. Is she too young for this? Is it a bad idea?

I should say, I love and trust my in laws completely to take fantastic care of her. And as much as I love her, a couple of nights with DH would be wonderful as well. Am I crazy for considering this?

bcnoelle · July 2011

I personally would start with one night at a time but my little one isn't sleeping through the night. An hour and a half drive doesn't seem too far for me though since that used to be my commute to work.

kacelle · July 2011

Before I actually had a baby, I would've said it's way too soon. However, I'm finding that I'm not as crazy over-protective as I expected to be, and I wouldn't rule this out entirely! If you trust your ILs, I think it'd be great to spend some time with your DH for his birthday. They can always call you if they need you.

CanuckFan03 · July 2011

It's too many nights for me (I think I'd be 2 nights max) but if you're comfortable with it I don't see a problem. Have a great time with your hubby!

heikem87 · July 2011

I think it is not too soon to do that. If she is calm at their house than why not let her stay for a couple days. My LO has been staying one night at my parents house every weekend since she has been three weeks. For me it is important that she also stays at my parents? overnight so she is getting used to it and I am honest I can really use that break once a week.

jreese14 · July 2011

I say, if you are comfortable with it, then it isn't too soon! Enjoy the time with your hubby. Babies don't start feeling seperation anxiety for a little bit longer, though if LO is entirely breastfeeding they may have a hard time giving a bottle after a couple feedings, but LO will take it eventually. Sometimes when we are around a lot of family, after Xander is passed around a lot he gets really cranky until he comes back to me and then he relaxes, but seeing as it is just your ILs I think you should definitely do it and give yourself a few days to be with each other and like PP said, you are only a phone call away if it is too much for them or for LO

pam1005 · July 2011

If you are comfortable with it, then go for it. I left DS overnight for 2 nights at 6 weeks and will be doing the same with DD on Friday/Saturday this week. Parents need a break too and if you think you will enjoy yourself, you trust your inlaws, and are ready then I see no problem with it.

EJChapman123 · July 2011

She isn't breastfed at all, so that makes things easier, and she only gets up once in the middle of the night, and she eats and falls right back asleep, so I think they can handle it. That and she has already spent a whole heck of a lot of time with them, and stayed at their house before (though we were there). I also stay at home all day with DD, which I love, but we get plenty of time together. I think that is why I am seriously considering this. I just want to make sure I am not totally crazy.

MommyHarrison · July 2011

I would agree with PPs. If you feel comfortable doing that, then go for it! I couldn't do it...but we're 1000 miles away from all of our family and only my parents and sister have even MET our daughter. So, I guess I'm just not used to passing her off to anyone for any length of time. I must say, a couple hours of alone time with my husband would be more than welcome!

I'd go for it, but maybe make yourself available to go get her if you change your mind or she doesn't adjust well!

NothingLikeBarbie · July 2011

3 days might be a lot at first, but I don't think it's too early to leave overnight.

I left my LO overnight last weekend with my ILs who live 45 minuets away. He did great, but I did miss him a ton.