What the h3ll is wrong with me?

LifetimeOfLove · July 2011

I really miss being pregnant. I miscarried one twin during first tri but other than that didn't have any major issues. I wasn't REALLY uncomfortable until the last month (that one was rough). DS is only 4 months old and I want another. I still remember starting contractions on a Sunday, being induced on Tuesday since contractions weren't progressing enough on their own, and finally having him 9:46 am on Wednesday. Despite all the pain and long labor, I want to be pregnant again. What makes me so upset is we needed to go through IVM to get pregnant with DS and we will not do IF treatments again. So most likely, unless a miracle happens, he will be our only child. I actually get misty eyed thinking about it. Crying

vlagrl29 · July 2011

i definately want to get pregnant again but not for 3-4 years cause pregnancy sucked balls

LifetimeOfLove · July 2011

vlagrl29:
i definately want to get pregnant again but not for 3-4 years cause pregnancy sucked balls

Ha. I know. I think about that last month and labor and think "I'm nuts". But then I look at DS and think how he is most likely our only one and I start getting upset. I think about how awsome it was to feel him move and have that closeness. I miss it.

amy259 · July 2011

First I'm sorry about your LO's twin.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you! I am 35 and want to have another one soon but kind of want to wait until DD is at least 1. I fortunately did not need any fertility treatments, just clomid. My OB told me that sometimes it easier the 2nd time since your body may have figured it out. I love this Dr. and hope that she's right. So, I guess I'm saying just keep trying! I know that if it's not in my cards to have another I still have my sweet little girl to love as much as I can.

sweetpea2718 · July 2011

you're not crazy! I sometimes feel "phantom" movement and remind myself that it's prob just gas! hahaha.

we're waiting until after these 500 weddings that i'm in subside.... so late next fall is the earliest we'll start.

myst33 · July 2011

I'm in a similar situation, lifetime. I would love for Declan to have a sibling, but we're probably one and done, too. At my 6w pp appt, the dr. said he wouldn't recommend me having any more b/c of the difficulties I had during this pg. due to my fibroids. He said if I had surgery to remove them, we'd have to wait a year before ttc and the surgery could leave scarring which could make it difficult to conceive. I turned 36 3 weeks after having ds, too. That dr. is a bit of a downer, though, so I'm not sure what the others in the practice would say. I am sad about it but so busy loving this little guy that I try not to focus on it.

mrsbmw09 · July 2011

I just want to try to encourage you. My older sister was in her 30's and had a few rounds of IVF to get pregnant with her oldest daughter, after her she had two more babies without IF treatments.

MySallyGirl · July 2011

So sorry to hear about your little one's twin.

I hate being preggo, but I don't think there is anything wrong with you if you loved it! I think it's beautiful that you love your DS so much that you are already are wishing for #2.

tinklinz · July 2011

myst33:
I'm in a similar situation, lifetime. I would love for Declan to have a sibling, but we're probably one and done, too. At my 6w pp appt, the dr. said he wouldn't recommend me having any more b/c of the difficulties I had during this pg. due to my fibroids. He said if I had surgery to remove them, we'd have to wait a year before ttc and the surgery could leave scarring which could make it difficult to conceive. I turned 36 3 weeks after having ds, too. That dr. is a bit of a downer, though, so I'm not sure what the others in the practice would say. I am sad about it but so busy loving this little guy that I try not to focus on it.

My doc is the exact opposite, he is Mr Cheerful, super supportive if we want to try again (but at the same time told me the risks are the same as with DS). DH and I just aren't comfortable risking the life of another baby, before we knew what was going on with my incompetent cervix we had 4 really heartbreaking miscarriages (and it explains the other miscarriage before I was with DH, too). My doc says we could catch it really early and put a cerclage in, but the reality is I'd probably end up on bedrest again with a micro short cervix (the last 3 weeks of my pregnancy I was completely effaced and 2cm dilated, it's a miracle DS hung on those last 3 weeks!) That wouldn't be fair to DS, his grandmas would have to care for him while I was in bed.

So, we are also done. We've entertained the notion of adoption but the reality is that it's expensive and we probably can't afford it. So DS is it for us, and even though it makes me sad I'll only get all this baby magic once I'm ok with it.

LifetimeOfLove · July 2011

amy259:

First I'm sorry about your LO's twin.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you! I am 35 and want to have another one soon but kind of want to wait until DD is at least 1. I fortunately did not need any fertility treatments, just clomid. My OB told me that sometimes it easier the 2nd time since your body may have figured it out. I love this Dr. and hope that she's right. So, I guess I'm saying just keep trying! I know that if it's not in my cards to have another I still have my sweet little girl to love as much as I can.

Clomid is still rough! I hope your doctor is right and your body figures things out.

LifetimeOfLove · July 2011

sweetpea2718:

you're not crazy! I sometimes feel "phantom" movement and remind myself that it's prob just gas! hahaha.

we're waiting until after these 500 weddings that i'm in subside.... so late next fall is the earliest we'll start.

I know what you mean about the phantom movements. Ha Ha. When I feel them I have to think about what I ate, LOL.

LifetimeOfLove · July 2011

myst33:
I'm in a similar situation, lifetime. I would love for Declan to have a sibling, but we're probably one and done, too. At my 6w pp appt, the dr. said he wouldn't recommend me having any more b/c of the difficulties I had during this pg. due to my fibroids. He said if I had surgery to remove them, we'd have to wait a year before ttc and the surgery could leave scarring which could make it difficult to conceive. I turned 36 3 weeks after having ds, too. That dr. is a bit of a downer, though, so I'm not sure what the others in the practice would say. I am sad about it but so busy loving this little guy that I try not to focus on it.

I'm so sorry myst. I know how rough your pregnancy was and how much pain your fibroids caused you. It is heartbreaking to think about one and done but I do know what you mean about loving LO so much that it helps take your mind off of it.

LifetimeOfLove · July 2011

mrsbmw09:
I just want to try to encourage you. My older sister was in her 30's and had a few rounds of IVF to get pregnant with her oldest daughter, after her she had two more babies without IF treatments.

This gives me hope. Big Smile

LifetimeOfLove · July 2011

MySallyGirl:

So sorry to hear about your little one's twin.

I hate being preggo, but I don't think there is anything wrong with you if you loved it! I think it's beautiful that you love your DS so much that you are already are wishing for #2.

I so wish I hated being pregnant. LOL. Then maybe I wouldn't have this itch for another one, at least so soon. Wink I think the only reason why I didn't really hate it is because of all the IF treatments. Normally I'm a huge complainer and can't stand the slightest bit of discomfort. Pregnancy is a huge discomfort but after everything I had to go through to be pregnant, it was a cake walk.

LifetimeOfLove · July 2011

tinklinz:

myst33:
I'm in a similar situation, lifetime. I would love for Declan to have a sibling, but we're probably one and done, too. At my 6w pp appt, the dr. said he wouldn't recommend me having any more b/c of the difficulties I had during this pg. due to my fibroids. He said if I had surgery to remove them, we'd have to wait a year before ttc and the surgery could leave scarring which could make it difficult to conceive. I turned 36 3 weeks after having ds, too. That dr. is a bit of a downer, though, so I'm not sure what the others in the practice would say. I am sad about it but so busy loving this little guy that I try not to focus on it.

My doc is the exact opposite, he is Mr Cheerful, super supportive if we want to try again (but at the same time told me the risks are the same as with DS). DH and I just aren't comfortable risking the life of another baby, before we knew what was going on with my incompetent cervix we had 4 really heartbreaking miscarriages (and it explains the other miscarriage before I was with DH, too). My doc says we could catch it really early and put a cerclage in, but the reality is I'd probably end up on bedrest again with a micro short cervix (the last 3 weeks of my pregnancy I was completely effaced and 2cm dilated, it's a miracle DS hung on those last 3 weeks!) That wouldn't be fair to DS, his grandmas would have to care for him while I was in bed.

So, we are also done. We've entertained the notion of adoption but the reality is that it's expensive and we probably can't afford it. So DS is it for us, and even though it makes me sad I'll only get all this baby magic once I'm ok with it.

I'm so sorry tinklinz. It truly does svck.

The way I've been coping with the thought of being done is spoiling the crap out of DS. Everytime I come home with a new outfit or new toys, DH rolls his eyes. I just keep saying, "Well, I only get to do this once!"

katkat74 · July 2011

just wanted to say..so sorry for your loss

hispenguin · July 2011

We have briefly talked about having another one. I didn't have the best delivery, but the pregnancy was awesome.

We had to do treatments as well, and when I look at Emilie it's hard to think that we may never get to experience all these things again with another baby.

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