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Help me help her go the f to sleep...

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I am not going to dwell on the past, when we had a perfect sleeper who would roll over as soon as I put her in the crib and sleep for 10 hours.  I do miss that kid, though.

Now, though A still does STTN (thank goodness) she has a lot of trouble going to sleep.  For naps, for the night, for anything.  About a month ago, it was just that she didn't want to be laid down awake, so I nursed her to sleep.  But, now that doesn't even work.  She finishes nursing and then gets riled up again.  I know she's tired because the whole time she's nursing she's rubbing her eyes and yawning, etc.  She's fighting it.  And she does it whether she's barely tired, over tired, just tired enough, etc.

So, I've been nursing, rocking, then putting her in the crib.  She'll immediately start crying.  I leave the room for a few minutes, come back, lay her back down, rub her back.  Then I repeat that a few times and finally with rubbing her back on the last time she'll fall asleep.  

Should I stop rubbing her back?  Is it creating a sleep association?  I just think if I don't do that she'll never go to sleep.  And is the crying just something I'll have to live with?  Even when I've tried avoiding crying all together, its like she has to do it to wear herself out.   

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Re: Help me help her go the f to sleep...

  • ali-1411ali-1411 member

    I used to rub Jakob's back to sleep.  I'd slowly wean him off by rubbing his back for a few days, then just stand there singing to him, then stand by the door singing....you get the idea.  It worked for him.

    Layna's always needed to CIO.  Even now, almost 3 years old, she needs that last outburst of energy or something before she can fall asleep.  

    If you're comfortable letting her cry, I'd try that.  Layna always got worse when I would do the interval checks, it was like a tease for me to keep going in and out.  Just leaving her alone worked better.  

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  • L L CGL L CG

    imageMrsRosie:
    Ferber works best for us. Not sure what your feelings are on that method.

    I love Ferber.  But I thought that's what I was doing?  No?  I borrowed the book and don't have it anymore so I was going on what I thought I remembered... 

    eta: oh, and, also... do you think that daycare is thwarting my Ferber attempt?  Does it matter that they might rub her or shake her crib to get her to nap? 

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  • michelleaxomichelleaxo
    I agree. Stop rubbing her sweet little back. Go in, tell her it's night-night time and get the f out of the room.
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  • L L CGL L CG
    imageMrsRosie:
    imageL L CG:

    imageMrsRosie:
    Ferber works best for us. Not sure what your feelings are on that method.

    I love Ferber.  But I thought that's what I was doing?  No?  I borrowed the book and don't have it anymore so I was going on what I thought I remembered... 

    eta: oh, and, also... do you think that daycare is thwarting my Ferber attempt?  Does it matter that they might rub her or shake her crib to get her to nap? 

    I think it's very possible that the back-rubbing is thwarting Ferber.  I believe he says you are only going to assure your child that you haven't moved to Cambodia in the time she's been laying there.  We go in, tell him we love him, it's nigh-night time, and walk out. 

    Ok.  Got it.  Will do.  Or, maybe I'll make DH do.  Either way, we'll do it. 

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  • MC+KKMC+KK
    I'm sorry your going through this. It's hard! I'm a bad example bc I Rock her to sleep every night. I'll be kicking myself for it when baby #2 gets here though.
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