Name Change

Heart Grew Three Sizes · July 2011

I am 17 weeks pregnant and am having a little girl. My DH and I already decided that if it was a girl to name her Ruth Anne, but his grandmother recently passed away pretty suddenly. He has asked if we could honor her by naming our baby after her. I agreed since they were very close and then asked if we could honor my grandmother who passed away when I was thirteen by using her middle name. We have to send back some small items with her name on it, but other then that the name change was easy......until we told our families. We thought that they would love the idea, but they complained that we were using only two of our combined four grandmothers. They offered these suggestions:

Don't change her name, we liked it and already bought personalized stuff.

Use the other two grandmother's names in her name also.

Promise to use the other two names next time.

They even went as far as to say that the new name was ugly and didn't sound as good.

Should we listen to them?

jmc1017 · July 2011

If you have your heart set on the name that you and your H discussed, I would keep it.

GideonsMom · July 2011

What is the new name?

Heart Grew Three Sizes · July 2011

Emily Eileen

GideonsMom · July 2011

Well I don't get how they could think that name is ugly, but Emily is really popular. I think Emily Anne is cute too even though I don't usually care for more common names.

Eileen is pretty cool as a first name too.

You should just choose what you like and stop asking them.

magsugar13 · July 2011

i like emily eileen better!

forensicmama · July 2011

I knew a girl named Ruthanne and another named Ruth-Anne. You could name her Ruthanne Grandma'sname Lastname.I think Ruth and Anne make a lovely combo together.

forensicmama · July 2011

Heart Grew Three Sizes:
Emily Eileen

Let's see...

Ruthanne Emily Lastname

Ruthanne Eileen Lastname

Ruth Anne Emily Lastname

Ruth Anne Eileen Lastname

babynamelover · July 2011

You could add her name in as a middle so you could have Ruth Emily Anne or Ruth Anne Eileen.

brookelynpaisley · July 2011

It's your baby. Name her what you want. You reserve the right to change your minds. If you're fine with the sunk costs of the personalized items, that's fine.

As far as only naming her after 2 grandmotthers, are they all deceased? Because if the two you're naming her after are the only two deceased, there's your justification - it's a name in memorium. I wouldn't go giving the kid 4 names. I could see two middle names if you can comine 2 into one, like Stella AnneMarie Elizabeth. Or you can save two, but there's no guarantee you'll have another girl. In the end, you and your husband need to do what feels right, and your opinions are the only two that matter.

ETA: I should have read the whole thread, as you gave the names.

What about RuthAnne Emily Eileen? Emily RuthAnne Eileen? Ruth Anne Emiline (combine Emily and Eileen)?

mydinkdom · July 2011

Dont let your outside family influence you. You and your hubby made this baby so you name it!! Sounds like they are being rude to me! That being said I love Ruth Anne

miababy · July 2011

This! Your problem is exactly why I think it's better not to tell the name until baby has arrived!

I love Emily Eileen - it's your baby, name her what you love!

erinms · July 2011

I think it is really rude (and completely wrong) that they said that the new name is ugly.

I like Ruth Anne best, but Emily Eileen is pretty too.

Bottom line, it is YOUR baby. You and your husband need to decide what you want and ignore everyone else.

couliegirl · July 2011

magsugar13:
i like emily eileen better!

me too! This is one of the reasons we aren't going to reveal our name choice. It's really not anyone else's business what you name YOUR child!!!

FMIL&MOB · July 2011

Do NOT promise to use any names with future children. Ignore them and name her Emily Eileen. They are rude and ridiculous. This is not their decision and not up for discussion. Stop stressing about them.

HollySC13 · July 2011

Are the other two Grandmothers still living? We named DS after our two grandfathers that had passed and our arguing point against the other two names (besides that his initials would spell ORC!) was that we still had living family members with those names- it would be too confusing.

christiney06 · July 2011

couliegirl:
magsugar13:
i like emily eileen better!

me too! This is one of the reasons we aren't going to reveal our name choice. It's really not anyone else's business what you name YOUR child!!!

tritto all of this.

I'm still shocked anyone would buy personalized stuff for you at only 17wks! how long ago did you tell them about the first choice?

Heart Grew Three Sizes · July 2011

We told them a week ago!!!!! Being first time grandmothers they both order stuff even though I told them that the technician was just making an educated guess, there was nothing showing in the private area. It is all my fault! I shouldn't have told them the sex until later.....or the names. I only have to return some letters that spelled her name. I was giddy after I found out the possible sex and bought them. One ordered a picture and the other one ordered a pillow. They blamed it on me that they have to return it even though I told them not to buy personalized items yet.

cherokeemomma87 · July 2011

Don't listen to them, you and your H are the parents. You have the right to name your child what ever you want. I think that it is nice that you love and care enough about your grandmothers to honor them and use their names.

My grandmother pushed a name so hard when we were preg with DS. It got me really mad. And while I liked the name she wanted (for a MN at least) she pushed so hard that it turned me off.

Go with your heart! You know what you want to name your LO. Politely tell your family that this is going to be her name so get used to it! GL!!

TripMomma · July 2011

magsugar13:
i like emily eileen better!

Same here...not a fan of the name Ruth.

lavieboheme73 · July 2011

Heart Grew Three Sizes:
We told them a week ago!!!!! Being first time grandmothers they both order stuff even though I told them that the technician was just making an educated guess, there was nothing showing in the private area. It is all my fault! I shouldn't have told them the sex until later.....or the names. I only have to return some letters that spelled her name. I was giddy after I found out the possible sex and bought them. One ordered a picture and the other one ordered a pillow. They blamed it on me that they have to return it even though I told them not to buy personalized items yet.

Boy, won't they be bent out of shape if it's not even a girl! I'm a first-time grandmother, too...my daughter is almost 16 weeks along, and there's no way on Earth you could talk me into buying anything personalized at this stage of the game.

At only 17 weeks, even if the gender guess was correct, you could change your mind on the baby's name 2 or 3 times between now and the time you give birth. They're being seriously rude and out of line. You name that baby whatever name you like, and don't let their nonsense sway you.

Thinking about this a little more, is it less about the fact that you're using only 2 of the 4 possible grandma names, and maybe a little more about the fact that you're not using one of THEIR names?

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