My husband has only been gone 1.5 hrs...

karatechrissy · July 2011

And I'm about to lose my sh!t. My son is 3 days old. My daughter is 13 months. Yesterday was our first day home from the hospital. I had a lot of family members all here wanting to see the baby. I didn't barely see DD and I only had DS when someone realized he needed to eat and that's why he was being cranky. Today hubs has been home all day to help me out. He had a few things to do and left me alone w the babies and our 3 dogs. I'm about to have a serious melt down. DD won't stop crying if I not holding her or if she sees I'm holding DS. DS is attached to my boob non stop. they are both wailing and wanting attention. Idk what to do. I finally put DD in bed w a bottle an shut her door. She is still crying 5 min later. This is a child that goes to bed at the moment I put her in her room. The dogs are going nuts bc the babies are. I'm so overwhelmed. What am I going to do? I just want to cry. How am I going to do this when my husband goes back to work every day?

mayowife · July 2011

Breath.

You can do this.

Everyone is different, but it might help to put your newborn down and give your toddler attention when she requests it. Newborns are sleepy anyway. Then, to make up for it, trying bedsharing and rest/cuddle/nurse your newborn in bed every time your toddler naps and when she's in bed for the night. DD will get attention so that she doesn't seek negative attention and DS will get bonding time.

When does your H return to work?

lauraryan520 · July 2011

Yes breath, the first days were rough for me too. it gets better once you get the hang of things and get a little schedule down. my ds wants to nurse all the time too. I nurse him and play on the floor with dd. when i can tell she wants to snuggle I put ds down in the bouncer or swing and snuggle/play just with her. if he is fed and changed sometimes he has to cry a little while dd gets her attention. I also scatter thier naps so I get some alone time wiht each child and some time where they are both naping so I have alone time. Just don't be afraid to put you lo down. At the begining i would feel bad for my ds when I put him down in the swing, bouncer, or crib for a nap becuase dd was almost never put down this little (i held her all the time), but this time is differnt and I need to give both child attention. Trust me it gets better day after day.

ShannonSky · July 2011

*hugs* It'll get easier! Nursing will get easier, your DD will get used to the baby, it won't be like this forever. Hang in there!

kcisthebombdotcom · July 2011

First off, breathe! You'll get through this, and this will be a distant memory in a few months from now.

How I survived the first few days home alone was just sitting in my oversized recliner with a kid under each arm. I'd nurse DD using the football hold so I had my other arm free to snuggle DS/read him a book/play with a toy. Try something like that. Sit on the floor and play toys with DD while you nurse DS with the football hold. Whenever the baby isnt nursing, put him in his bed and give DD lots of attenton.

Hang in there-it will get easier for both you and DD in the upcoming weeks. GL!

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karatechrissy · July 2011

Thank you all. Sorry to post and run :-( it ended up being fine (of course) I was just so overwhelmed. I know it will get easier. I did the book thing and it worked GREAT! DD loved sitting next to me pointing to the pictures and DS got to eat in peace. One day at a time.

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