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Going back to work soon....DH to stay home with DD
mama3115
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Hi Everyone,
I am a nurse and will be returning to work full time on August 1st. I met with the director of my department this week and I will be returning to an afternoon shift 1-9pm vs 8-4 that I was working previously. I think that will be better since DD is awake more in the morning right now. My husband has been out of work for a while and will be home with DD. I know this is a good option and I'm glad she'll be with her dad. We'll save money on daycare, I'm just feeling super jealous right now. I wish I was able to stay home with her and I'm afraid she'll prefer him over me. Does anyone have any advise to make this easier? TIA 
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Re: Going back to work soon....DH to stay home with DD
When DS was born, DH was in school and gone a lot during the day. DH was the "favorite."
I started a new job right after DH graduated, so I was gone all day and DH was home all day. I became the "favorite."
It'll be fine. GL!
You will be fine. My husband works about 60 hours a week and I work 40. I was afraid that DD was going to choose our dc provider over both of us. Not true at all. DD gets more excited over DH and myself then our provider (she has a great relationship to our provider as well).
Plus know this. We have come to learn that DD prefers me for things and DH for others. She is my snuggle bug and will cuddle with me. She isn't so much into "rough housing". However, with DH, they rough house all the time and while she snuggles with him....it isn't like it is with me.
Going back is hard, but it will get easier
Goodbye little angel(7/22/2011)....see you in heaven
Goodbye my second angel (9/18/2011)
DH is a SAHD and has been since DD#1 was born in 2004. It was hard to go back to work because I missed her terribly but it got easier. DD did not really have a favorite; there were times when DH was better at comforting her and other times when I was. All of our kids went through those stages.
When I come home, they are all excited to see me! DD#2 runs and says "Mama home!" which is adorable. It's all about mommy for a little while, which gives Daddy some much needed grown up time.
Thank you all for the encouragement....I really appreciate it!!!
I had lots of time to bond with DS during my maternity leave, but DH kind of felt left out. He lost his job a few weeks after I went back to work and became SAHD for a while, during which time he really got a good chance to do his own bonding. I think this has made him a much better father.
DH had a temp job for a while and then was out of work for almost a year. As good as DH got at the Mr. Mom thing, DS was ALWAYS happy to see me when I got home from work.
My DH stays at home with our DD and has been since she was 7 weeks old (currently 17 weeks). The issues I have faced aren't so much with my DD, but with my DH. DD sometimes is more cranky when I get home from work because she is a morning baby and pretty tired in the evening, but that is about the only issue I have with DD.
DH on the other hand has gone very papa bear with her. If she cries when I am home and I am trying to comfort her, he will swoop in and take her from me to try and comfort her. I have let him know multiple times that he can't do that and that I need to take care of her as well, but that is something we are still working on. If he keeps that up Daddy's Little Princess is on her way to turning into a monster. She already knows which kinds of cries upset Daddy the most and try and use those to her advantage.