moms w/ newborn & older kids

MaestraMama · July 2011

how do you do it taking care of a newborn's constant feeding demands & the needs/wants of your older kids by yourself? i've had dh's help but i have no idea how to manage this when he's not around/ I feel so bad always having to tell dd not right now cause i'm taking care of baby.

CantWait2Be · July 2011

dd is in daycare during the day to keep her routine. in the evening i try to anticipate her needs and tend to her first then the baby or she just waits. so far she seems okay

kattyleigh · July 2011

To be honest with you, my newborn sometimes just has to cry for a few minutes. There is no way I can feed and clean my toddler all while holding and nursing the newborn. He spends a lot of time in his bouncy chair. Sometimes my older child has to cry too, while I nurse or just hold the baby to keep him from crying. Sometimes (like today) it's a struggle and I feel like crying too.

violetdiva · July 2011

My son is almost 3 and my little girl is 6 weeks.....I feel your pain....

I just nurse her while he watches a movie or plays with his toys.....I explain to him that this is how babies eat and they eat alot.....he's been pretty good with understanding but sometimes I know he is frusterated. Sometimes one of them has to cry for a few to tend to the other one...... once a routine is established older sibling will learn to accept it. Just make special time for the older one each day even if its just for 10 min.

casirdms · July 2011

my DD is 6 so she's older and pretty independent for the most part. However, I know she gets upset because I can't go push her on the swing or play a board game, etc all the time. And she pretty much talks nonstop and I've found myself yelling at her to just go to her room and leave me alone a couple times

Bad parent award

calgal1683 · July 2011

kattyleigh:
To be honest with you, my newborn sometimes just has to cry for a few minutes. There is no way I can feed and clean my toddler all while holding and nursing the newborn. He spends a lot of time in his bouncy chair. Sometimes my older child has to cry too, while I nurse or just hold the baby to keep him from crying. Sometimes (like today) it's a struggle and I feel like crying too.

This exactly!

ShangriLaRose · July 2011

kattyleigh:
To be honest with you, my newborn sometimes just has to cry for a few minutes. There is no way I can feed and clean my toddler all while holding and nursing the newborn. He spends a lot of time in his bouncy chair. Sometimes my older child has to cry too, while I nurse or just hold the baby to keep him from crying. Sometimes (like today) it's a struggle and I feel like crying too.

All of this sounds like me right about now. *hugs* hang in there... you're def. not the only one. I think we all are just doing whatever works for us individually, since all of our kids are going to be different.

jellybeanjean · July 2011

kattyleigh:
To be honest with you, my newborn sometimes just has to cry for a few minutes. There is no way I can feed and clean my toddler all while holding and nursing the newborn. He spends a lot of time in his bouncy chair. Sometimes my older child has to cry too, while I nurse or just hold the baby to keep him from crying. Sometimes (like today) it's a struggle and I feel like crying too.

here too...

mari_gold · July 2011

kattyleigh:
To be honest with you, my newborn sometimes just has to cry for a few minutes. There is no way I can feed and clean my toddler all while holding and nursing the newborn. He spends a lot of time in his bouncy chair. Sometimes my older child has to cry too, while I nurse or just hold the baby to keep him from crying. Sometimes (like today) it's a struggle and I feel like crying too.

Amen. DD spends a lot of time in the moby so I can kinda-sorta play with DS like I used to. Days when they're both fussy or I didn't get enough sleep the night before make me want to go back to work already.

kattyleigh · July 2011

mari_gold:
kattyleigh:
To be honest with you, my newborn sometimes just has to cry for a few minutes. There is no way I can feed and clean my toddler all while holding and nursing the newborn. He spends a lot of time in his bouncy chair. Sometimes my older child has to cry too, while I nurse or just hold the baby to keep him from crying. Sometimes (like today) it's a struggle and I feel like crying too.
Amen. DD spends a lot of time in the moby so I can kinda-sorta play with DS like I used to. Days when they're both fussy or I didn't get enough sleep the night before make me want to go back to work already.

My goal today is to try and wear the baby around the house. I think this would solve a lot of the crying from both. We can do this girls, deep breath!

justme04 · July 2011

kattyleigh:
To be honest with you, my newborn sometimes just has to cry for a few minutes. There is no way I can feed and clean my toddler all while holding and nursing the newborn. He spends a lot of time in his bouncy chair. Sometimes my older child has to cry too, while I nurse or just hold the baby to keep him from crying. Sometimes (like today) it's a struggle and I feel like crying too.

This. I also bought a moby wrap so I can keep Max cuddled in how he likes and be able to take care of Ryker. But it never fails that I sit down to nurse Max and Ryker wants his sippy cup filled! So I fill it in between switching sides. Ryker is getting a little more patient with me...when I was pregnant and could hardly move and didnt get up fast enough to get him a drink he would throw his sippy cup at me. He at least refrains from that while I'm feeding his brother!