I NEED at date....but the GUILT!

pulczinski2b · July 2011

Not to throw myself a pity party but the last couple months have been a bit of a struggle. My DH broke his foot over Memorial Day and hasn't walked in 7 weeks. He also hasn't been able to help with anything because he cannot carry things or move quickly. I have a new found respect for him for sure and all he does in the house, be it mowing the lawn, taking out trash, walking dogs, or just running upstairs to check LO! I'm finding myself getting burnt out and in NEED of some ME time or an adult date or to be really honest just a nice glass of wine! Friends have offered to watch LO but I feel SO GUILTY leaving her on the weekends. I work full time and do not get much time with her....the thought of cutting into that time to be selfish is horrible.

Does anyone else feel guilty on the weekends leaving LO? My marriage and myself is a priority but the guilt is overwhelming!

perplexed59 · July 2011

If you need to take a break then you need a break. Your baby will love you for it. Everyone needs time off, you aren't a bad mom for wanting and needing this. When you are more refreshed after this break the time you spend with your baby will be sooo much better.

My husband didn't understand that I needed a break until he found me in the kitchen crying. I took a long bath, with a book and a beer and felt like a million bucks.

There are so many things as a mom that you will feel guilty about. Needing some time alone shouldn't be one of those. Every good mom needs a break (even 1 hour makes a difference).

moyolehuani · July 2011

I know what you mean. As a working mom I felt the exact same way, but you need to take care of yourself too.
You are no good as a mother if you get sick or lose part of your sanity.
My LO sleeps through the night so when we go out its weekend nights. I do the same routine of bathing, feeding & pumping. She is asleep and we head out.
She also does pretty well sleeping in the babyseat when we go to dinner in the evenings. She usually falls asleep in the car and we always promise that if she wakes up and gets fussy we won't have an issue leaving, regardless of where in our dinner we are (we've only left once and that because she woke up w/o a pacifer and her hand wouldn't do).

holly321 · July 2011

I know exactly what you mean, and it drives dh nuts that I won't really ever leave her on the weekends. But we need to keep our marriage a priority, so I will occasionally give in.

Can you try and have someone watch the baby around nap time? Maybe do that and go for lunch, then you aren't really missing time with lo.

CutieBean79 · July 2011

You need a break and deserve one! You should not have one ounce of guilt. You are taking care of the most important person to your LO.

EmandChris08 · July 2011

Don't feel guilty. You will be a better mom if you take time for yourself and your marriage.

gullterre · July 2011

I totally agree with PP....take some time for you if you can. Accept the offers your friends make and just go to the mall or go get a pedicure! As for the broken foot thing, I totally feel your pain.....my DH broke his right before Christmas so I know all that a gimpy hubby entails. At least my LO was still inside. I feel for you girlie!

pulczinski2b · July 2011

Thanks everyone!! I set up a date for Saturday night. We are going to leave just before her last feeding so I won't be missing anything except her falling asleep! That was so smart to leave during a time that I am not "actually" spending time with her anyway. DH is very excited!!! Now if only I can find something that fits to wear ;-)

I appreciate everyone's words! It really helps to know other people are in the same boat.

holly321 · July 2011

Have fun!

DH had to beg me to go out tonight, and lo was a sleep when we got home, and I really didn't want to wake her up, but she did anyways so it worked out!

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