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katecham
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How many people at your baby shower?
katecham
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I'm awake and having a mild panic attack about this dang baby shower. 50 people were invited and no one has RSVP'd yes yet. It is this Saturday. It looks like the only people coming are my mom, sister, aunt, 2 cousins, MIL, SIL, and gma IL. My mom is flying in from out of state to do this baby shower for me with my aunt and I am worried it is all a waste of time because my "friends" are so flakey they aren't even attempting to come. I'm excited to see the people who are coming but I'm really worried no one else except those listed (people I see a lot already) are going to come... Anyone else have disappointing turn out at their shower? (sorry no paragraphs, posting from iPad)
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Re: How many people at your baby shower?
It's ridiculous to 'excuse' their lack of manners. Your mom is having a party and needs to know how many people to expect.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
This. You don't want to end up with food for 50 and have 15 people there, and vice versa.
That being said, my shower will probably only have around 6 people at it. I didn't have that many people to invite, but I'm looking forward to seeing those who are coming!
I'm wonderig if people even know what RSVP mean. Seriously...as a hostess you need to know how much food to plan for and seating. I wish people had the nerve to make people who did not RSVP stand the whole time and eat AFTER everyone who RSVP ate. Maybe they would then get a clue. LOL I really think most people that do not RSVP have never held a party, shower, event where they needed to know head-count...so they don't have a clue. Same with people who cancel at the last minute just because they got "started late" or some lame excuse.
Someone needs to start calling these people who have not RSVP'd. If you have their numbers start texting and getting a definite answer. When I call people I put them on the spot..."We haven't received your RSVP and we need to know so we will have seating and food for you." I know a lot of people hate calling non-RSVP'ers...but really they are the ones being rude.
My MIL invited 65 people to our shower. So far 12 have rsvp'ed but they still have 3 more weeks to do so.
People should rsvp there's no excuse it's either yes your coming or no your not coming. The host need a head count so food won't be wasted.
If your friends are flakey I wouldn't bother with them. Those that show up are the important ones in your life. Unless they rsvp with a reason they can not atten. But not to rsvp and show up it's rude.
Hope it turns out to be a wonderful shower.
For DH's co-ed family shower, I think they invited around 90 people (including kids) and I think around 30 to 40 showed up. For my girls shower, we invited 29 and had 15.
My very anal BFF host actually emailed people who had not responded about 5 days before the RSVP date, which is a little over the top. But I would definitely have the host contact everyone who has not RSVP'd by the response date to get a final headcount.
Definitely contact those that haven't RSVP'd. I'd just emphasize the fact that you need to know for food/favor/etc. purposes (even though they're the ones being rude there's no need to point it out).
I don't understand why baby shower turnout seems to be so low though! Your friends should want to celebrate this with you! Now I'm worried and wondering if I'll have the same problem.
thats terrible! people need to know how much food to order ect I'd be po'd if people didnt rsvp to something I hosted.
back to your ? at hand, Im having 3 showers, on from mom about 25 guests, mil about 35 guests and a couples one with 40 on invite list. it just seemed easier than having one huge one and less exhausting to me that way.
My mom and aunt are hosting. My mom lives 3000 miles away and my aunt lives about 3 hours away from me. My aunt was very generous and offered her house for the shower since she lives closer to me and in a large city where the majority of my friends & DH's family live. The list of invitees is 50, but I knew 20 wouldn't be able to come (out-of-state aunts & friends that I didn't want left out but I knew couldn't come - my mom included a note saying "we would love to see you but understand if you can't make it").
My mom has been forwarding the RSVPs to me so that I can help keep tabs on how much food, etc. we will need (my aunt is only helping by donating the space and time setting up). Mom flies in the day before the shower and we will have to get everything that day. Usually I wouldn't be involved, but I'm trying to help as much as possible since my mom is coming so far and I don't want her to feel overwhelmed.
Of the 50, only 6 haven't RSVPd. The rest (except those family members listed above) have all said no. Just a little disappointed no one made much of an effort...