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November 2011 Moms
J8Cash
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Just read, "What's it like down there, post birth"...
J8Cash
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and... OH-MY!!
Every time that I read articles or chapters in books that discuss the happenings of post-delivery, I actually squirm!
I'm not too sure why, because I've read these things at least a dozen times. It just doesn't make it any easier to read. Sometimes I actually have to stop reading and take a lil' breath.
Any other first time mommies get squimish at the thought of some of these things? I'm first to admit that I'm actually a lil' scared.
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Re: Just read, "What's it like down there, post birth"...
OMG THIS IS GOING TO BE ME!!!!!!
I read it, and then decided I shouldn't have bothered. Knowing whats coming is good,but hearing horror stories and worst case scenarios and having to worry about it, is generally worse than actually experiencing it. Yes, it'll hurt some, and you'll bleed, and maybe pee your pants - but you WILL get through it. I find its easier to just deal with those issues as they come rather than obsessing about them 20 weeks early! People love to scare the crap out of you with their miserable stories, but ya know what? They lived to tell the tale, and there is ALWAYS something or someone out there that can help you relieve some of the misery.
This is also my philosophy on child birth!
You mean the stork doesn't drop the baby off in a little bundle on the windowsill? Well, sh!t.
(I'm absolutely terrified of birth. I always have been. I love children, but the actual birth part horrifies me. I've been watching videos of vaginal births just to prepare myself and reading up on things, but like you, I squirm.)
Try not to worry to much ladies. I know it's very intimidating, but look at how many of us sign up to do it more than once. If it was that terrible, everyone would be an only child!
Look on the bright side: Pregnancy is loooonnnnnggggggg. Labor is short and when it's over, you have your wonderful little baby who is more than worth it.
HAHA, THIS!
Surprise BFP# 5 - 9/2/16 - Due 5/13/17
I couldn't care less if I completely tear... I rather I get my VBA2C then have another csection!
That's why I don't read anything about it. I watch the labor shows in TLC a lot but when it comes to the gross stuff I leave the room. I am not sure what goes on down there, I don't want to know. If I know I'll dread it more. I plan on getting an epidural so hopefully I won't even know what's going on while it's happening. I'm afraid of it too. I'm hoping to be blissfully ignorant of everything going on. I'm actually telling my doctor when I get closer not to tell me anything she's doing unless I ask, and even then, be vague. She knows what she's doing, she doesn't need to explain every detail to me.
Two things to keep in mind. First, it's not unusually for it to be an absolutely ridiculously swollen bloody trainwreck after delivery. So, don't be surprised if it happens to you.
The second thing is, it goes back to normal so, don't freak out if it happens to you. It's annoying and upsetting in the moment but, don;t dwell on it. It doesn't last.
this is mine plan as well, and I'm sticking to it! Honestly, you'll be more wrapped up in your newborn than your issues down there, or at least they won't seem as bad, as my friend explained it to me.
this is mine plan as well, and I'm sticking to it! Honestly, you'll be more wrapped up in your newborn than your issues down there, or at least they won't seem as bad, as my friend explained it to me.
yeah, I just read it too.... horrifying!
I've actually always been horrfied about it, and now at 23 weeks, I'm pretty much decided that I would just rather schedule my c-section, and handle the recovery from that surgery instead. I know it comes with a lot of challenges as well, but I still feel that it will be so much better than what is showing up on this article!
And no one ever talks about this part of it!!! I had never heard anything bad about vaginal birth, so I wasn't sure if I was making the right decision.
vaginal tearing??? It makes me squirm in my seat just thinking about it!
scheduled c-section = 100% chance you are going to be recovering from major abdominal surgery (not to mention all the other risks & complications)
vaginal birth = ?% (but definitely less than 100%) that you might have to deal with tearing or other unpleasant things.
I guess some people would rather know 100% what they are getting into than ?% what could happen? All I know is either way you are going to have a wonderful reward for all of your hard labor
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Seriously!?! If your doctor schedules you for a C-section purely because you don't want to have a vaginal birth their license should be taken away! You do realize that there are risks to a C-section not only this time, but for every single pregnancy that comes later right? Not to mention that even with a third degree tear, which I barely even noticed after the first day of giving birth I was walking around as soon as they stitched me up and was in nearly no pain. With a C-section you will be in a lot of pain for a lot longer than that. Not to mention you won't even get to hold your baby right away. And there are things that aren't as good for the baby, like not getting the fluid squeezed out of their lungs in the birth canal, not getting the bacteria in the birth canal, your milk will likely take longer to come in, etc. I hope you are just kidding, I really do.
Are you scheduling a c-section electively? I'm surprised; there aren't many doctors where I live who will do this based on the *many* complications of major surgery (especially if it's unnecessary) vs. vaginal births. The recovery from cesareans can be pretty tough, also.
Did anyone else notice the photo of the torso of the girl on TheBump homepage from this article? She has a completely flat stomach and looks NOTHING like a woman who just gave birth. Even the smallest of us don't look like that!
Yep.
And FWIW, I tore and required a bunch of stitches. I was sore, and walked slowly for a couple days in fear of hurting myself. But, I could've walked completely normally. It didn't *actually* hurt, I was just afraid that it would. Just don't look at your girl parts in a mirror the day after delivery, and you will be fine
A Little Bird and a Monkey Butt
This. I was scared when I had DS and it was no where near as bad as I'd built it up to be. I had a 2nd degree tear (and stitches) and took Percocet & Mortin for less than a week. Pain was non-existent from the beginning as long as I took the meds. Within 3 weeks I was basically back to normal.
This exactly for me. I also had a 2nd degree tear that healed very quickly. It was the hemorrhoids/anal fissure (they seemed to come and go alternately) that wouldn't heal until DS was nearly 2 years old. 2 years! I'm terrified of dealing with that again. For what its worth, I also only pushed for about 15 minutes.
This is very reassuring...thank you!