Wonder Weeks?

rmm17 · July 2011

Did anyone read this book and did you find it useful? I've read a little about it online and the information has made sense to me. I am considering getting it from the library or off of amazon.

Basically, i have felt like a failure as a mom because my LO is a terrible sleeper. He slept pretty well until 14 weeks old. Then had a a rough patch of waking every 2 hours from 14-18 weeks. Now he is 23 weeks and is sleeping terribly again. I haven't changed anything in our routine so it doesn't make sense. My family things its because i nurse him at night and rock him to sleep. I've been trying the NCSS to help with these issues but i'm not sure those are really the problems. The wonder weeks sounds like it may be the explanation. I like that it is one that doesn't blame my parenting!

bugsmami · July 2011

I just read the emails they sent out, so I don't have advice on the book. However, I did find this article related to sleep last night. https://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepthrough.html

It makes me feel better about my son's multiple night wakings. I, too, sometimes feel like a failure (and we are going on 20 mo., not 23 wks). I think so long as you are meeting their needs, then you are doing everything right... irregardless of how much or little they sleep!

sometimesalwayschaotic · July 2011

I have never read that book but just so you know I had a horrible time during that time too. I have always laid my LO down awake and usually do not nurse to sleep. I actually had to nurse her to sleep or rock her to sleep during this time and hope that it would work. I have read a lot of posts with LOs having a hard time sleeping at that time. It is annoying how families try to be helpful and make you doubt what you're doing. My family says, "maybe she doesn't need to nap so much during the day." Babies are supposed to sleep during the day!! The NCSS really helped us and you'll soon be through this phase. My LO is much easier to get down for naps now and most times is back to waking up just a few times a night.

LouiseB2001 · July 2011

YES! I didn't even know this existed in English. I got the book from my mom and it helped me amazingly through some of the rough patches in DD's early months. It has a very European take on child-care, which is more attachment parenting oriented, i.e. nursing to sleep, co-sleeping, comforting when needed. Buy it, read it!

Basically what your LO is going through is called the 4-month wakeful. If you want to know more just post a question with that in the title and all the ladies here will tell you all about it. I found out that way :-) You are doing the right thing by feeding to sleep because the alternative is having a baby crying for 2-3 hours and who wants that? Your LO is tiny and need your comfort. What the book will tell you is that your LO is going through a rough patch developmentally and therefore is a bit more fuzzy. I don't want to discourage you but my DD actually woke up every 1-2 hour all the way until 7-8 months but it wasn't that bad because 1. I knew it was a phase and 2. I simply nursed her to sleep in the big bed so we both got good sleep.

Hang on, it will get better :-)

WyoGal · July 2011

I got the emails and check the website and find it reassuring that it's a normal, developmental thing and not "my fault". It's generally spot on with what we're experiencing. I may order the book this time around, I'm not sure. Whether or not you like the book I think will depend on your approach to parenting. When I've mentioned it my extended family has told me I'm "just making excuses" and need to sleep train, stop nursing to sleep, wean etc. to fix the issue but if you lean toward AP I think it sheds quite a bit of light on your LO's behavior.

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