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First Time Moms: Is it normal to worry so much during pregnancy?

This is my first pregnancy and I feel like I am constantly worrying about everything. Through the first 13 weeks I was so scared of something bad happening and now that I am into the second tri I have stopped worrying about that as much but then I think about the chances of going into preterm labor or something happening to the cord. I know the chances of these things happening are low, and while they do happen, I shouldn't focus on the negative statistics. I just cant help but think "what if" all the time. Is this normal? Have other people experienced this?
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Re: First Time Moms: Is it normal to worry so much during pregnancy?

  • Yes, and I don't think it's just first time moms.  There are lots of mothers on these boards with multiple children who worry just as much as us first time moms.  I worry all the time.  It's never really going to end, so I'm just trying to be at peace with the worrying.  Luckily I have a husband who helps me keep things in perspective.
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  • I was a lot less worried prior to being pg. My H even noticed the trend towards worrying more about everything since we found out. I try to keep an even keel about things more and its a conscious effort every day. I just have to remember that women have been doing this for ages in all kinds of situations. There is nothing that I can or can't do that hasn't been done before.

    My mom said, "No matter how one becomes a parent (adoption, IVF, or "the old fashioned way") the first thing that starts is the worry. Get ready!"

    I know it sounds horrible, but try to redirect the worry (LOL "don't worry about it" sounds so trivial) into positive things so that you are not a ball of nerves. It seems to work for me, but try different things to see what works for you. 

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  • I'm EXACTLY the same. I posted a question a few days ago about some weird discharge I had because I was afraid I was starting to lose my mucus plug. I find I'm reassured after a good ultrasound for the day of and MAYBE the next day and then I'm back to worry and paranoia. I think it's very common but that doesn't make it easier!
  • I think it's totally normal to worry. This is my second pregnancy and I still worry.  I think it's at it's worst when you enter the 2nd tri and you lose all pregnancy symptoms for awhile.   Eat healthy, stay active and do the best you can for yourself and your baby.  Unfortunately, if something is going to happen, there isn't really much you can do.  Once you start feeling the baby regularly, you will probably feel a lot better.  Stay positive and enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible!
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  • I thought I would be fine at the 1st trimester, however there is always something 'else' to worry about... Nows its all the issues that cause problems in 2nd trimester... when they are newborns we will be checking them breathing in their sleep. Then their first day without you in care of someone else...  I try to remind myself that all I can do is take the best care I can during the pregnancy.
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  • I thought I would stop worrying once we made it to the 2nd trimester. That's a big no.

    I told my mom and she said I better just get use to worrying about the baby, because it doesn't stop once it arrives. It's just a whole new set of worries.


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  • I worry alot too.

    I try not to but sometimes its really hard!

    Now that my LO is moving I feel re assured but still seem to find something to fester on.

    I know the worry isnt good on me or him so I do my best.

    Now that Ive kinda made it to a semi "safe" zone if you could call it that basically where if he would have to be born now he would have a chance to survive I feel better but now Im getting anxious about the whole birthing process and after we bring him home .

    Just keep thinking you have made it to 2nd trimester! That is definately a big plus!!! 

  • Yah, you just described my first trimester too. I was a nervous nelly, tried not to worry about it too much, just tried to remind myself that it will be ok. We basically tip toed thru the 1st 14-15 weeks. now that I'm almost 20 weeks, I find a sense of relief knowing that at this point it's almost smooth sailing, maybe minus a few little bumps. Just keep your chin up and unless your body tells you other wise just go with it. I think all us first time moms stress. I mean to me it just seemed like such a fragile and intricate process. Goodluck
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    From the day you find out you are pregnant, you will never stop worrying about your baby, no matter how many you have, no matter how old they are.  I have found, as this is my 3rd, that I'm slightly less paranoid about some things, like lunch meat, for example,  I eat it whenever I'm hungry for it.....but I worry about my 2 boys all of the time, especially when they are not with me.  I think it actually gets worse...I can't imagine handing the keys over to my kids when they get their licenses....that is scary. 
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    From the day you find out you are pregnant, you will never stop worrying about your baby, no matter how many you have, no matter how old they are.  I have found, as this is my 3rd, that I'm slightly less paranoid about some things, like lunch meat, for example,  I eat it whenever I'm hungry for it.....but I worry about my 2 boys all of the time, especially when they are not with me.  I think it actually gets worse...I can't imagine handing the keys over to my kids when they get their licenses....that is scary. 

     

    Yup, this exactly.  Yes

     

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  • I worry all the time. My DH tells me I am going to drive our lil one crazy, because if I don't feel a kick I start questioning and moving my belly around to see if he moves. I guess you really don't stop worrying in your 1st all the way to your last trimester. :o/ Byt like pp guess you really never stop worrying even when your lil is born. Guess it's welcomming to motherhood. :)

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  • Thank goodness for this thread. DH has me all kinds of paranoid that something will be wrong with our baby on top of my own worries lately. Praying for a happy and healthy child, and that I don't smother the poor little one when he/she gets here.
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    I'm a first time mom and i'm constantly worrying. My poor husband and mom have to deal with it. I feel bad, but I can't help it. Doesn't help that I was a worrier before I got pregnant lol.
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