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Happily Overwhelmed
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Hopefully not a rude question.... (TMI?)
Happily Overwhelmed
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I'm early in my first pregnancy. No signs of breast milk and just now starting to learn what it's all about. I'm really excited for the bonding and nurtients for the baby.
Awkwardly I can't help but think of the weirdness this might cause between my husband's attachment to the twins. Don't get me wrong. He's really happy I've choosen to breast feed too. We agree it's best of the baby and I'll try and do it as long as it works out.
However, being a guy he's of course not prepared for what is about to happen either. I've been reading that some women have signs of breast milk early. I'm about 16 weeks and wonder...should I be prepared in anyway early? Also, is breast playing in the sexual sense off limits while breast feeding?
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Re: Hopefully not a rude question.... (TMI?)
By "early" they probably mean the 3rd trimester.
As far as I know, you don't have anything to worry about this early. I know I could get a little something to squeeze out when I was 30+ weeks, but I was seriously trying (mostly out of curiosity lol). Your husband playing with them shouldn't cause any accidents, and if it does- it'll be very little and probably not enough to embarrass either of you.
And definitely not. When you are breastfeeding, obviously doing certain things will cause you to leak. Some times it'll happen all on it's own. I know some women leak when they have sex even without their SO touching them. It is definitely not off limits by any means. I guess my only advice would be to make sure you're cleaning up afterwards before BFing baby. :P
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Some women 'leak'. Personally, I didn't leak while I was pg (I could express some colostrum from about 34 weeks onward if I tried but it didn't leak out)- I still don't leak- my supply has adjusted to LO's needs.
My breasts have changed- my nipples are bigger and the areola is darker and bigger- doesn't seem to bother my husband. My nipples are much less sensitive- he thinks this is funny but when we're not goofing around he has found that the rest of them are just as sensitive and we've never had any incidents during sex. Basically, breastfeeding has had no impact on the role of my boobs in our sex life. He loves to watch LO nurse and obviously doesn't think of them sexually then, but during sex they're still sexual.
Hmmm, I'm different on both counts. My breasts started leaking about 20 weeks pregnant. I just wore breast pads so I didn't leak through my clothes. If I didn't wear a bra hanging around the house, my whole tshirt would be soaked! What's funny about that is my milk didn't actually come in until Day 10 after the baby was born and we had a lot of weight issues because of it. So, leaking doesn't necessarily mean MILK or successful breastfeeding.
As far as sex goes, I find my breasts are a lot more sensitive and it weirds me out to have my husband "play" with them. Right now I think of them as the baby's food. I just keep a bra on during sex. Maybe it's because mine are now size G, but the idea of them bouncing around bra-less makes my stomach hurt just thinking about it. It hurts to go down stairs in a bra with them bouncing!
The only time that I leaked before having DD was when I took a hot bath. Even then, it was very little. My bff's cousin leaked a ton during her pregnancy in the middle of the summer before having her LO. Leaking can depend on a lot of things.
After having DD, once I had gotten my milk in, I'd be soaked every time I got up to feed her at night or if I'd pump the other side would always leak. That lasted until about 1.5 months and since then I don't leak unless we're having sex a while after she's been fed (if I'm full). Even then it's only a few drops and H is used to the leakies by now. DD is 4.5 months, so that's not bad. Also, we didn't have sex for the first 6 weeks, mostly because it hurt and I was exhausted, so leaking all over H during that period wasn't a fear because there was never an opportunity. (Actually, me leaking gave him a reason to stare at my boobs lol).
Boobs will always mean sex for H and he's not bothered by them getting 'soft' when I nurse DD. As long as they're there. They don't hurt at all unless they're full, but I have not been painfully full since DD was 2 months (and that was when she randomly slept 8 hours a night for 3 nights!).
I only leaked a tiny bit while pregnant, during th enight my shirt and sheet woudl be a little wet. Nothing too bad.
Right after baby they leaked, but that stopped after maybe 2 months or so. I don't think they are off limits to your DH because you're BFing! It's funny but once you starting breastfeeding, you let go of a lot of yor hang ups about the weirdness.
I didn't leak during pregnancy but I do leak now. We're over eight months out and I still constantly wear a bra and nursing pads.
As far as the girls being off limits, mine pretty much are. Hubby isn't weird about it at all but it's weird for me. Plus after nursing every 2-3hrs during the day, it's just not pleasurable for them to be touched any more. But that's just me. It seems other ladies don't have that problem. You'll just have to wait and see how you feel. Mine also aren't nearly as sensitive as they use to be.
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I swear, I could've written this. This is me. Breasts are always contained and nipples are off limits to anyone but the baby until weaning.
I never leaked while pregnant, but afterwards.... boy o boy...
I wish I had realized I needed to wear a bra and breast pads 24 7, not sure why it took me so long to (a week or two) to realize that? At one year out I am STILL wearing a bra and breast pads constantly.
No breastmilk for me until 5 days after I had DS. I had colostrum but not til after he was born (about 8 hours after, during his first feeding, I saw it).I don't recall any leaking during pregnancy, but who knows.
DH still plays with my boobs during sex. I don't generally want my nips played with these days because they just feel too weird, but I certainly don't mind the gropes