How would you react to advice?

Sharon21 · July 2011

Thanks to you ladies and lots of research I have become pretty knowledgeable on baby wearing. Well when I was at church today I saw a lady who had her LO in a ring sling and wasn't using it correctly. LO was way too low and she didn't have the shoulder fabric spread. I really wanted to give her some pointers but I don't know her and didn't want to come off as rude. How would you react if a stranger gave you advice on baby wearing? Is there a way to help her (if she is there wearing her LO again next Sunday) without coming off as a rude know-it-all?

Kersbear · July 2011

Are you sure she didn't have her LO lowered because she was nursing or something?

Sharon21 · July 2011

Kersbear:
Are you sure she didn't have her LO lowered because she was nursing or something?

I am sure. She had LO in it during worship so she was standing and her LO was looking at me. Then she fed her a bottle during the sermon. And when service was over she put LO back in it and made the same mistakes.

drea_raye · July 2011

I would probably start a positive conversation with her... how great it is to see another bwing momma, how lovely her sling is, how comfortable does she find it?

That might turn into a means to introduce the suggestions... I wouldn't mind if somebody came up and helped me...

nsuhomer · July 2011

I agree with the PP about starting off how great it is to see someone out and about BWing etc. I would definitely recommend keeping your hands off unless she requests your help as you are giving pointers. I once had a couple of women come up to me and tell me I should be putting my DD into the Ergo a different way. They almost made DD fall out, and were actually giving me incorrect advice. I was doing it correctly, but they had only used a different type of carrier that required a different way to put baby in.

KatieB19 · July 2011

I think it would come across as less rude if you were also wearing your baby. Then you could start a general BWing conversation, and maybe mention things "that you had read/heard/learned from experience."

jen5-03 · July 2011

I think casual conversation is the way to go. When I wore my RS a lot, there were many times when I didn't get it on perfectly because I had my hands full, was in too much of a hurry, or because the darn thing just wasn't doing what I wanted and I'd rather be a little uncomfortable than start over. Just saying she might know that it's not exactly right.

GreenFlamingo7 · July 2011

jen5/03:
I think casual conversation is the way to go. When I wore my RS a lot, there were many times when I didn't get it on perfectly because I had my hands full, was in too much of a hurry, or because the darn thing just wasn't doing what I wanted and I'd rather be a little uncomfortable than start over. Just saying she might know that it's not exactly right.

This exactly.

Sharon21 · July 2011

Thanks for all the suggestions ladies! I usually wear DD in my ring sling during church but wasn't yesterday because I was being baptized so I needed to be ready to go up there when it was time. So I will be wearing LO if I see her again and I think that will make it easier for me to chat with her about it.

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