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Let's do a poll
1) DC's name and birth date
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood?
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all?
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all?
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anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
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Re: Let's do a poll
1) Anderson, 9.17.08
2) How laid back I am as a mommy- I thought I'd be super nervous and tense, but it's all come pretty easily and I'm much more relaxed than I could have imagined
3) Hmmm....I guess finding time to take care of myself too! DH works crazy long hours and it doesn't leave me much (if any) time to do things without taking the baby along. I've never needed a haircut so badly!!
4) Yes, we definitely hope for at least one more. I'd like to start TTC when Anderson turns 1 or so, but that changes every week or so! I'm definitely more cautious because of my losses. I'm scared to death of another m/c.
5) No. I don't miss GD, I don't miss being uncomfortable, I don't miss the constant worry. Maybe I miss feeling him move a little bit....but for the most part, I don't miss pregnancy!
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anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
1) DC's name and birth date: Meredith Elizabeth 9/14/08
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood: That I'd really sniff someone else's butt in public
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood? Her being up at dinnertime & me not being able to eat.?
4) Do you plan to try for another child?? If so, when?? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all? We're going to try for 3 more. My past loss affects my feelings in that I'm not as naive anymore, but I'm no longer afraid of it.?
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all? I miss it all the time. I really don't like having to share her. I even still rub my belly.?
1) Avery Elizabeth - 10/9/08
2) How much better I am at it than I thought I would be. I guess I didn't give myself enough credit.
3) Having no time to myself. And not being able to just go somewhere anymore - trips require a lot of timing and planning these days!
4) We are going to try next summer. I think we are willing to try a little earlier because of the previous m/c - since you never know how long it could take.
5) So much and I feel guilty for feeling that way. I love having her here, but I miss the experience of being pregnant - especially since I had such an easy pregnancy.
1) Kate; 7/23/08
2) Nothing is going the way I thought it would. I thought I would BF exclusively but due to supply issues, a baby that rejects me outright, reflux, and a milk protein sensitivity, she gets mostly formula and some pumped breast milk. She's on the high test formula too. She hates all slings and carriers...thought I'd be able to wear her but she screams. She hates her cloth diapers...when she wears them I have to change her every 20 minutes because she pees so much and more importantly, she wakes herself up every time she is wet. (I keep trying them every few weeks...hopefully she'll at least stop waking herself up when she pees.)
3) I think the hardest thing is being far from family and friends.
4) Yes. We are planning on starting to TTC again in January. The loss is definitely part of it, but other factors are that DH is 42 and I have PCOS, so who knows how long it will take us.
5) I am really surprised, but I do. I don't know what is wrong with me because I had a fair number of complications and felt terrible pretty much the entire time.
1. Brady Scott - April 6, 2007
2. How many laughs and kisses that I give in a day!
3. Wondering if you're doing the right thing.
4. See 2nd ticker
5. See #4
1) DC's name and birth date Logan Douglas 10/25/08
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood How much it has brought DH and I closer together. I was afraid because of the stress we would feel distant, but he has been so great and I love him more than I could have imagined. Also how much I would love my baby immediatly!
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood? The first week home - we had a few really rough nights and I was sure I wasn't going to be able to do it! Once we got the feeding issues resolved, it was so much better.
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all? Probably not. All along we have only wanted one. I never say never, but the plan is to not have anymore.
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all? Not really. I miss feeling him move, but I'm so happy he is finally here.
1) DC's name and birth date
Lincoln Christopher, 7/19/08
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood
His TSC condition
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood?
His TSC condition
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all?
Yes. I would like about 4-5, closely spaced children. My loss and his condition have both affected my thinking on this. Since he will most likely be mentally handicapped, I would like a big family with lots of siblings so that he will always be surrounded by people who love him unconditionally.
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all?
Yes. In comparison to motherhood, pregnancy was a carefree time spent with the baby.
1) DC's name and birth date: Hailey; 8/19/08
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood: How much I love her and when thinking about it I cry.
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood? Definitely the reflux and watching her cry so much from being in pain. It's getting better now though.
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all? Yes, we want at least one more. If the next is a boy I see us stopping. We are going to wait 3 or 4 years unless ours finances change sooner. Past loss does. I know I will be afraid of another miscarriage AND another PTL! Great! Two things to fear!
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all? Sometimes. I miss feeling her in my belly!!
1) DC's name and birth date Emerson 9.06.08
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood How quickly I forgot what life was like without her
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood? For me, the breastfeeding was pretty tough at first.
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all? Yes, maybe in a year or two? Not sure. Don't want them too close together, but considering it took two years from when we first started ttc to have her, we don't want to wait too long either. So yes, the past is going to have some kind of effect on our decision.
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all? Sometimes I miss her kicks...
1) Jenna 7/25/08
2) how long it takes before babies do anything, I have been around babies before and have a neice and nephew but I guess time flies by and I just thought she would be able to play more by now
3) going back to work
4) yes, probably before she is a year old, we have always wanted a bunch of kids and still do, our loss scares me but dd is such a blessing and we pray for more of that
5) a little bit, I threw up for the first 23ish weeks but the 3rd tri I felt great so I didn't mind that part
1) Kailey Jade - September 17
2) Some things are easier than I expected. I'm more patient at night than I thought I'd be. I love sleep, so I thought nights would be rough, but I'm taking the lack of sleep better than I thought I would. I also thought I'd be really nervous leaving her alone with DH, just because of his lack of experience around children, but I'm suprised how comfortable I am leaving her with him.
3) The hardest thing so far has been breastfeeding/pumping. It's not been an easy road and we are still struggling with it all. MIL has been hard to deal with too...more so than I ever imagined.
4) We plan to have at least two more...maybe three. We'll start trying again when DD is a year, I think. My past loss will always affect my feelings I think. It's always going to be a fear that it might happen again.
5) I honestly didn't think I would, but I do. I miss her kicking me and I miss her being all mine. I also miss how clear my complextion was during pregnancy
1) Willem Emmett 9/15/08
2) The panic I felt when I realized that someone could try to take him from me.
3) Worrying about him being sick or having something wrong
4) Not sure. I think I'd like Willem to have a sibling, but I also wouldn't mind having only one child. But we wouldn't start trying *any* time soon. Not before W. is potting trained.
5) Not one darn bit.
1) Connor Michael - March 1, 2008
2) Just how much joy he brings me. I cant get over how much I love him and how much he makes me smile.
3) We had a rough first 6 months, bad colic, reflux, milk allergy, crappy napper and bad sleeper.
4) Yes, we are planning on TTC as soon as my cycles get regular. AF returned 2 weeks ago and I havent ovulated yet, I have a feeling it will take a couple of months. We talk about it daily - we're both really excited. It took my body a long time to go back to normal after my m/c, and I got really depressed while TTC after that, we got pregnant with connor the first cycle that I o'ed on time, so this time we are going to wait.
5) I'm starting to miss it.
1) Conner; 10-28-08
2) the overwhelming joy a little person brings.
3) being sleep deprived
4) yes, I want more kids. Maybe in a year or so we will ttc again.
5) yes, but I'm so happy I'm not pregnant right now. I love having my outside baby.
1) DC's name and birth date
Jason Robert, 8/6/08
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood
Hmm. How easily I fell into taking care of him when I was deathly afraid of babies before. I figured I would just know what to do (with help, of course) and would figure it out when he came and that was true. Also how much I like BFing him - I figured I'd give it a try but never thought I'd still be doing it.
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood? Just that there is very little time for myself, esp myself and DH together. Being home has also been less wonderful than I thought since I was able to take 5 months of leave.
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all?
Yes, probably next summer-ish we will TTC again. I want them to be about 18 mos apart. We will stop at two if this next one's a girl, otherwise we will go for a third.
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all?
Hmm. Def not the 3rd tri, since I had PUPPP. But I do miss the feeling that he was mine and mine alone. But having him here is much better!
1) Anna. 9/4
2) It's not as hard as I thought it would be. I was worried I would be crying on the couch every night when DH came home from work. We've only done that once.
3) I'm in denial that those commercials they show on daytime TV are geared to me now. I still miss my "old" self sometimes.
4) Yes, but not for at least 4 years. I am paranoid that we could not have a successful successive pregnancy (say that 3x's fast!).
5) No!
1) DC's name and birth date: John "Jack" Gideon, October 15
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood: How natural is feels.
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood? BF and sleep deprivation.
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all? I think that I always wanted more than one, but now not sure. With the previous loss and the complications that I had with delivery, I am a bit scared. Hopefully that will all change with time. Probably another two to three years if we do decide to have another. Also considering adopting our second child.
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all? Just a little. Only second trimester. Third was so tough on my body. Nice to be able to see my feet again.
1. Riley Faith 10/21/2008
2. actually being a mother...still so amazing to me
3. Def. BF and lack of sleep
4. Yes, probabably when DD is about 2
5. I miss her being with me no matter what, lol. G-ma watched her while DH and i went to the store and i missed her soooo much.
2. That I could love someone so much and only have known them for 8 weeks!
3. Not freaking out about everything and feeling like I don't know what I am doing sometimes. It was worse a few weeks ago but I still have times when I feel like I am the dumbest mother on the planet because I don't know what to do.
4. Yes, we will probably start trying around DD's first birthday.
5. Yes, even though towards the end I wouldn't have said that being as swollen and uncomfortable as I was. But I do miss having her inside and being able to feel her moving around.
1. Aidan Jake Desmond S-----
2. That I love being a SAHM (I do go back to work when he is 6 months old, boo-hoo)
3. The sleep deprivation in the beginning, but now it's all good
4. Yes, definitely, probably when Aidan is 1. I am scared of another m/c because now I know how amazing the end result is.
5. I hated being pregnant. I was uncomfy, in pain, and had complications. But now I kind of miss it! I do like my outside baby better though
It's just kind of sad to know his time inside me is over.
1. Paige Elisabeth 4-16-08
2. How natural it has all come. Neither DH or I had much newborn experience prior to DD and we were both terrified
3. The constant worry. DD has been diagnosed with epilepsy and we have been in and out of doctor's offices. Keeping her healthy and safe is all I want.
4. We always talked about 2 but we also talk about just having 1. I figure beginning of next year we will talk more seriously about it. If we have 2 I want them close together. Neither DH nor I are getting any younger! Our age and past m/c definitely factor in.
5. Yes. I loved being pg with Paige and overall I felt great the entire time. I still miss feeling her kick and move inside.
1) DC's name and birth date Norah Grace, May 29, 2008
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood How attached to me DD has become recently.
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood? being a WAHM
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all? Yes - will probably wait until DD is at least a year (trying to avoide another c/s). Not really, but does still scare me.
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all? Sometimes.
benjamin daniel 2/13/08
how amazing it all is still! and how frustrating! i never thought i would still be this sleep deprived! but at the same time how wonderful ben is and just how his laugh can melt my heart and make everything in the world better!
hardest is probably the sleep deprivation! and at times the second guessing - we had a lot of BF issues starting out and ben just didnt gain weight like he should, and not only that we didnt really notice (yeah he was spinny but we jsut overlooked how skinny) - so now i often wonder if i m doing things right (not just BF related).
yes, we have always wanted a big family (bens lack of sleep though has made me second guess that too though!). our loss def is effecting our decision about that, i feel almost rushed to make sure we get our kids! as for when, we re not "trying" yet but we re not avoiding either. and we re hoping soon!
i dont miss parts of being pg - like the shots and constant worry, the morning sickness and all the drs appts. but i miss the specialness of it.
1) Ethan Thomas, 7-11-08
2) how much i could love this little bundle of barf!!!
3) the first 2 months! lordy! we were in/out of the pedi's office a million and one times. had severe eating issues, low supply of BM, refusal to nurse, tried to pump, ended up on Nutramigen (good-bye college fund!), reflux and 2 different meds until we found one that worked.....the list goes on!!
4) yes. we want 1 or 2 more. we talked about trying when Ethan is a yr or so. i will be more scared, of course, because the innocence of pg is lost for me. but i know that God will get us through whatever He feels is best for us!
5) not even for one stinkin millisecond!!!!! if i could figure out how to have another biological baby w/o getting pregnant ~ i would pay BIG for that!!!!
Madeline Elise, October 21
How much easier it is than I thought. I thought I would never sleep again and Maddie would be up all night screaming. So far, she sleeps 4 hour stretches every night and only cries when she's hungry.
It's no longer just myself and DH that we need to get ready and out the door when we're going somewhere. We have to make sure she's changed, when she ate last, get her bottle ready and pack the diaper bag. I was always the type to run late as it is and now I REALLY run late
And the baby blues I had the first two weeks were horrible.
We are definately going to try for another. We would love to try when she is about 1 year, but we have to see where we're at financially. We would like to have 1-2 more children.
I miss being pregnant every day. It was really bad the first couple of weeks when my baby blues were really bad, but it's better now. But I really enjoyed being pregnant, and I miss it and can't wait to do it again.
1) DC's name and birth date - Kara Paige, Oct. 11th
2) Most surprising thing so far about motherhood - Probably how emotionally overwhelming it is to finally have her here (in a good way!)
3) Hardest thing so far about motherhood? Being apart from Kara for the first few days after delivery. I had a lot of complications after I had her and was transferred to another hospital a few hours away from home. She couldn't be with me there until I got out of the ICU. That was the hardest thing I've ever gone through, and I still really mourn those first few days without her.
4) Do you plan to try for another child? If so, when? Does your past loss (or losses) affect your feelings on this at all? - I always wanted a big family, but I am very lucky to have survived all the complications I had with Kara's birth. I am completely terrified it could happen again, so I'm very hesitant to have any more children at this point.
5) Do you miss being pregnant at all? Not at all! I had a tough pregnancy and I haven't missed it once yet!