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Two (identicals) of everything?? Please tell me it isn't true!
My MIL called and asked if I needed help searching for the matching equipment to the things I already own (another crib like I have, another bouncy seat, etc.) I told her no, more than likely the babies will share a crib for the first couple months, and then I think it would be easier to find complementary items instead of identical. She was like, "But they're twins, it should match" I said match , sure, but not identical...she then comes up with this off the wall, "But if they're identical, you don't want one to feel favored over the other" OMFG, is she serious? I'm just barely two months...
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Re: Two (identicals) of everything?? Please tell me it isn't true!
Your MIL has a point, but I don't think it applies to things like swings or bouncy seats. They're not going to realize that their brother or sister has the new swing and they are using the old one. But as they get older, there's a fine balance in getting things to where they don't think their sibling has been favored because of a different color or whatever.
I wanted matching items because my house looks enough like a daycare center with all the gear. I wanted to avoid the total BRU look by at least having 2 of the same item.
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I have a 3 yo girl and I'm expecting 2 more girls, so I have some stuff from DD that we plan on resuing. I was able to find a matching space saver high chair on craigslist b/c I personally didnt want to look at a bunch of mismatched stuff. Same with her bedding. I was lucky enough to find a matching set and for cheap the twins will have matching bedsets. Some clothes are hand me downs and I'm not turning my nose up at free! But, I will get some matchy ones too. As far as swings/etc.. a lot of that sutff that is used for infants you will be using at an age that the babies will be unaware that they are mismatched. Also, from all the feedback I've read here, you might not need two of everything. Some MoMs have recommended one exersaucer and one jumperroo for example. And, if you do go to the trouble to go get two matching swings, there's no guarantee both, or even one, will like them! I have a couple swings and bouncy seats available for my girls. None of them match and I half expect that each baby will develop a preference to one (hopefully not the same one!) over all the others.
As they get older, I will probably get them matching things, like bikes and clothes and what not, but at the infant stage since they aren't even aware, I wouldn't bother
I don't think you need matching/identical items at all!
We have a 4 year old and his crib was recalled a long time ago so we do have matching cribs but we are using all of his old stuff (bouncy, swing, jumper, exersauser, bumbo, etc) It happened that a lot of the new stuff I bought was more "girly" since my first is a boy. But I agree, a baby isn't going to know what was new or not! And besides that, we use ALL of the gear for the babies (like we don't put the same baby in the same swing all of the time, etc)
Having 3 kids I'm trying to save money anywhere I can and utilize all of the old stuff!
When they are older and know the difference is when we'll start buying new/the same/similar items
To search for matching baby gear is crazy (no offense to you MIL). The babies won't know the difference! I started with 1 swing and 1 bouncer and the girls liked them so much (and we had a 3 level home and I was tired of carrying things up and down stairs), I bought an additional swing and bouncer. I intentionally bought different styles so the girls had variety. When they were bigger, I bought an exersaucer and jumperoo that were different as well. I thought it helped to make things interesting for them and gave them an opportunity to have a preference.
I don't often dress my girls the same. I grab two weather appropriate outfits and whoever comes to me first gets to pick which one she wants. Honestly though, at this age they don't care!
This seems unnecessary to me, especially if you already have the stuff from your son (I also like to save money)! If one is a girl, then you might want to get some different stuff. As infants, with bouncers, etc. I believe it does not matter.
As mine are getting older, things do pretty much have to be the same, OR when we use something that we received as a hand-me-down and get a 2nd one, we just set it up that one is H's and one is M's. And they're good that way...usually.
With boy/girl I may feel the matchy-matchy need less, but I do find NOW that I have to dress them "similarly". Being that if one is wearing their crocs, the other REFUSES to wear their tennis shoes...etc. But that's a whole different issue!