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lady_mormont
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S/O: What are some of the craziest things your X has said?
lady_mormont
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Just a little background: My X is in prison for 8 years for being busted with child porn and trying to meet up with a 15 yr old for sex.
"I expect to be in DD's life and see her EVERY SINGLE DAY after I get out of prison...." Umm how about NO!! Even in the most civil divorce a parent probably wont see their kids every day!
"You applying for CS is punishing me for my crime even futher." If having a child is a "crime" and supporting said child is a punishment then don't worry X, I am being "punished" way more than you!!! Since I pay for EVERYTHING... not to mention I have gone into debt to pay for the shiitstorm you left behind. A$$!!
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Re: S/O: What are some of the craziest things your X has said?
"Why are you raping me for child support? I can't afford that amount for a kid I don't even get to see." Ok, well, the CS amount wouldn't be so high had you submitted your financial information like the judge ordered you to.
"This kid better come out white." Yep, I heard that charming line when I was pregnant.
"If my wages get garnished for CS I'll just quit my job. It's embarassing." Don't be a douche and just pay maintenance directly then it won't happen. Simple huh?
There's more but I don't have all day lol!
"Why don't you take the girl twin and I'll take the boy twin?" Uh...they have names, Alexander and Alexis. And this is the genius idea you came up with to try to get out of child support? Wow.
Clerk at the store asks my husband when our daughter (whom I'm holding) was born. His answer..."In the summertime?" For your information dips*t, she was born June 21st. And if you had been there instead of sleeping with my co-worker's wife, you would know that.
My 1st daughter needs diapers and I ask my husband for money. He tells me, "Why don't you ask my mom for money? I don't have any." Yes, because your mommy should be taking care of your responsiblities. You make 60K a year (It's 1996!!! That's a lot of money!). I guess if I was a drug addict, I wouldn't have any money either.
My twins' "dad" tells the judge during the child support case, "I shouldn't have to pay child support because she gets subsidized childcare." Yes, you shouldn't have too. It's not like they need food, clothes, diapers, or a roof over their heads. Yeah, all of that just magically gets paid for by the "Your-dad-is-a-freakin'-idiot" Fairy every month. They really should note that in the child support order.
FYI: My older two kids are from my ex-husband, and the twins are from an ex-boyfriend.
My ex was trying to get back w/ me and I was already dating my now DH. He said.."let me go down on you and I can suck him out of you"
"You know statistics prove that most ex spouses get together at least once a year just to have sex even if they are with other people."
His Mother said, "It's just a phase your going through, you'll be back. You and x have stickin' power"
Yep it's been a 10 year phase that I don't like to be in an abusive relationship.
My x had me sign and notorize a "document" (handwritten notebook paper) that said that he wouldn't fight me for custody if I gave him the big TV for DD and the Playstation 2 for DS. This document is actually in my divorce papers b/c he filed it w/ his lawyer. He thought he got the better deal and thought he "pulled one over on me"
He's a clever one! That will go down in the history books as the greatest move ever!
LOL!
In a recent email response, I got this gem:
me: Do you realize that she is two months old and not only have you not seen her, you haven't asked about her, asked for a picture or even asked about her health?
ex: Well I've been too distracted to think about those trivial things.
Oh Becca, how I love thee. I have gots lots and lots of quotes I was just waiting for a post like this to share with all of you. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside when I see a post like this.
Quotable Quips Courtesy of SD:
-When I told him how his mother was complaining to me that she was facing bankruptcy because she was paying HIS bills and footing the bill for HIS rehab he said "my mom isn't paying my bills!". I said "well, that's what she said she was doing, i guess she wasn't telling the truth". He stared at me in stony silence then said fiercely "my mom is NOT a liar, A". Well, one of the two of you is!
-When I told him he needed to pay me for the $360 my lawyer charged me for researching the PG&E energy bill debacle he said "I don't have that kind of money FOO!" yes, you read that correctly.
-When I asked him what he was doing with condoms in his truck when he was married with a pregnant wife he said he was "using them for self pleasure" and that he was too embarassed to discuss it further.
-He swears, to this day, that even though he has used drugs, he's never, once shot them up, even though I found needles and a burnt spoon in his truck. I asked what the needles were for and he said "I was doing steroids".
-When I confronted him about his drug addiction (recently) and asked why in the world he ever got back into it and lost control over his life he claimed that it was because I "decided to leave him". But I left him almost entirely BECAUSE he was doing drugs. ::HUGE side eye::
Sweetie, I just about lost my shiit when I read these. Especially the first one. Seriously, how could you have passed him up on that offer....sounds ever so tempting.
Xh: I don't have to pay child support, Gwyn gets a government check.
Because I am on SSD she gets dependent benefits as well. So he thinks he should not have to pay CS.
I was lurking on ex's FB awhile back and some girl was complaining about her baby's father and he commented, "Deadbeat dads make me sick."
Um, WTF does he think he is? Because he is a father to his first 2 kids it excludes him from being a "deadbeat" when he has nothing to do with his third kid?
He is still in denial, it's so pathetic.
Maybe it's self-hate? No? LOL!
My son recently asked me why he doesn't have a dad. I called the ex to tell him that his EIGHT year old son thinks he doesn't have a dad. His reply? "Have him call me and I'll tell him who I am." Right, because a strange voice on the other end of a phone will satisfy the questions of a young child about the validity of their existence. SMH.
Well I can't remember specific quotes, but some of the crazy things he said include:
Can we still get together for sex now and then? Uhh that's a negative.
I'm gonna kill myself if you don't take me back. Please do!
When I was pregnant and after DD was born he would constantly "joke" about getting a paternity test. State did one as part of the CS case, and of course she's his.)
Last summer he posted on FB that he was "going up to the courthouse so he could get his daughter." Everyone was all like "yeahh, you go R!" and he was all "yeah, Ashley is such a b!tch, she doesn't even know what's coming to her." Hmm...pretty sure either he didn't go up or they told him that I had already filed the papers.
Of course the craziest was when he was on meth during my first tri...he was soo paranoid and would get me up 5 times a night to accuse me of having sex with someone (right then and there). While he was in the room. He would even check under the bed. Mind you, our box spring and mattress weren't on a frame. Yes, they were on the floor. According to him, I was hiding my other bf inside the mattress.
Lets get our own place. Live together. He doesn't have a job.
If you love me then make love to me. His reasoning why we should have sex.
I wanna get you pregnant again. His reasoning for trying to have sex with me.
Lets get a hotel room and have family night. He wants sex obviously.
Did you know he was on meth at the time?
Looking back at the crazy shiit SD was doing when I was pg I can't believe I didn't know he was on drugs. He was always up until 3am or later and never came to bed. He was NEVER where he'd say he was and I couldn't count on him for anything. I even caught him looking through my phone when I was seven months pg. I guess he thought I was creeping around on him? Guilty conscience, perhaps?
I can't believe I didn't know my husband was using cocaine. Granted I was only 19 when we got married and I was a sheltered child. My parents got divorced when I was 12, but my father was very active in our lives and both mom and dad took care of my sister and I very well. The first time I bought a clue was when were moving when I was 5 months pregnant. The movers lifted up the sofa and a cylindrical pipe fell out with foil stuffed in the bottom. I had no clue what it was, but the mover told me. Duh. That explains the disappearing, the stealing, the staying up for days at a time, the raging outbursts.... I was in the military and when I left home, my dad got me an American Express credit card. At the end of the month, he would tell me what my bill was and I would send him the money. I'd had it for years and never abused it, and it was under his name. Well, he called me livid one day because the bill was almost $1000k! I was like WTH?! I didn't spend that much money! I knew I had only spent about $200. It turns out my husband had been using it to buy alcohol in bars. I was under 21 and not legally able to purchase in the establishments he had gone too. I was soooo pissed!!! My dad had to use his own money to pay the bill off while I paid him back in installments. It still took me years to pull my head out of my a$$ and dump his butt.
At first I didn't know, because I had never been around someone on meth. After he finally admitted what he'd been doing I made him go to rehab. He went, came back a few days later, then went to another rehab, then came back. He wouldn't stay in rehab! So one night when we were fighting the neighbors called the cops and I made them take him away. He was court ordered into a correctional center rehab and that is why he missed my 2nd and 3rd tri and DD's birth.
Honestly there's so much stuff he did during that time that is just so shameful. I am ashamed of myself for taking him back again after DD was born, but I just really hoped the 5 months in rehab had worked. It didn't. Glad I finally got rid of his ass a few months later!
Well you married me that means your suppose to have sex with me when ever I ask for it. (Heard this through my entire marriage)
The Bible says when a man says spread them, you spread them. (This lovely gem was from my xMIL when she found out why I left STBXH. She said it to my dad who was translating for me)
Before you leave me for good can we have sex one more time? I promise I'll never ask you again. (Heard this one from STBXH as my brother was helping me get the rest of my stuff from the house)
I've changed. I'll only ask for sex once a week. (After I filed the divorce papers)
And the best for last...
Him: Since the baby is asleep can we have sex now?
Me: Um, he is sleeping in between us.
Him: Oh, he'll never know. Come on take off your pants.
I'm starting to see a recurring theme in these quotes... I wonder what it is..