April 2011 Moms

FFFC...

Here's mine... I had a complete body image meltdown last night. We were out with all of our friends at Jared's gig, and my friend who could be a supermodel looked AMAZING. She's 6 feet tall, blonde, was wearing a clingy black dress, and cute red heels.

At one point, her husband (who is also actor good-looking) says to our table, "I don't know why _____ married me, but I'm so glad she did..." and is all gushy about how gorgeous she is.

Later, she took a pic of Liam and me (she's my friend who does newborn photos and is a doula), and I saw it, and I looked HUGE. HUGE. Ugh! So I spent a lot of last night seriously hating myself. I went to the gym today and ran about a mile and did upper body weights. I'm just really going to try to get back into shape sensibly, but I seriously hated myself last night and I feel bad that I'm so jealous of my gorgeous friend. We're all super-super close, and Jared's at their house doing construction work right now :-(

What's your FFFC, Ladies?

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  • I am getting so burned (or is it burnt) out on breastfeeding. Assuming my supply stays up, I am 100% committed to going for a year, but there are just days when I feel like he is attached to me and I want a little personal space. DH offered to bottle feed him, but having to pump is no better in terms of it being attached to me. Hopefully this is just because e is going through a growth spurt and next week when we go visit my whole family and I have to "fight" to hold him, I'll feel better about it. I'm not giving up, but man, this is exhausting.
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  • imageRunningGal900:
    I am getting so burned (or is it burnt) out on breastfeeding. Assuming my supply stays up, I am 100% committed to going for a year, but there are just days when I feel like he is attached to me and I want a little personal space. DH offered to bottle feed him, but having to pump is no better in terms of it being attached to me. Hopefully this is just because e is going through a growth spurt and next week when we go visit my whole family and I have to "fight" to hold him, I'll feel better about it. I'm not giving up, but man, this is exhausting.

    I feel you! Now that I'm back at work, I despise pumping. My job isn't very understanding and it's very uncomfortable. Everytime I get frustrated with pumping and I consider giving it up, I feel so guilty. So I've started setting little goals for myself to make it easier. I feel like I should want to do this for DD. What is wrong with me???

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  • See open letter, SIL is really getting on my nerves lately.  I'm also annoyed at this 3 month growth spurt doubled with the 4 month sleep regression.  DH went to bed early last night because he wasn't feeling good and DD woke up 3 hours after I put her down just as I was drifting off to sleep.  I was holding a grudge all night until I saw him taking care of DD this morning so I could get an extra hour of sleep.
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  • H and I had a GIANT blow out last night in which we discussed divorce if things don't change.  I hate every minute of it!  I'm so upset, sad, sick to my stomach right now.  But every time I look at DD she makes me smile.

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  • This whole working mom this is hard work. A lot harder than I expected, I guess... especially with the pumping every three hours...I feel guilty for taking so many breaks, guilty when I think I want to give up BF, guilty that I don't always produce enough....then I have to focus on work things with much less sleep...and I miss having all that time with DD while I'm at work.

    Then trying to find clothes to wear to work...I'm having body image issues too. And I know I posted this before on another post about weight loss...how do you find the time to work out with an infant & a day job? It wasn't bad when I was on leave...but I get up at 5 am to feed DD and/or start getting ready - I'm at work at 7:30, leave at 4:30 (taking 3 30 minute breaks to pump during the day - no lunch hour), pick up DD, go home, immediately nurse, start dinner, eat, start bedtime routine. Rinse & repeat. lol

     

  • Also, I am about to murder my Facebook friends who post their kids Gerber entry EVERYDAY. I get it, you entered. So did I. You don't need to post everyday. No one else is going to vote for your kid daily.
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    Also, I am about to murder my Facebook friends who post their kids Gerber entry EVERYDAY. I get it, you entered. So did I. You don't need to post everyday. No one else is going to vote for your kid daily.

    OMG ME TOO!! lol I didn't enter V in it because of it. lol! 

  • Try not to be so hard on yourself. You have a great guy and an adorable little boy, those are some pretty envy worthy things you have yourself. Having a new baby is a lot of work, unless you are a celebrity with a nanny and a personal trainer it isn't easy to get into shape after a baby.....My confession is I have a terrible time just enjoying DS and not worrying about absolutely everything. I am always worried about things like is DS developing positional plagiocephaly/torticollis or is he hitting all his milestones. I need to stop comparing my baby to other babies and freaking out. My anxiety gets the better of me.
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    I hate my clothes, the ones from before pregnancy dont fit.  I am back to my pre pregnancy weight but they don't fit.  I am wearing work out shorts and t shirts, I look like a lazy bum don't care mom in my frumpy clothes.  I don't want to buy new ones because I hope to have my other clothes fit and I'm a tight wad.

    I get annoyed when Olivia whines and nothing is wrong with her.  I hate whiners LOL.  She just wants attention which is ok but not every second she is awake.  I love her but she has got to learn to self sooth and entertain herself for a few minuets.  Right now she is awake from her 15 min nap and whining.  ACK!!! 

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    imageMeggieChris:

    imageRunningGal900:
    I am getting so burned (or is it burnt) out on breastfeeding. Assuming my supply stays up, I am 100% committed to going for a year, but there are just days when I feel like he is attached to me and I want a little personal space. DH offered to bottle feed him, but having to pump is no better in terms of it being attached to me. Hopefully this is just because e is going through a growth spurt and next week when we go visit my whole family and I have to "fight" to hold him, I'll feel better about it. I'm not giving up, but man, this is exhausting.

    I feel you! Now that I'm back at work, I despise pumping. My job isn't very understanding and it's very uncomfortable. Everytime I get frustrated with pumping and I consider giving it up, I feel so guilty. So I've started setting little goals for myself to make it easier. I feel like I should want to do this for DD. What is wrong with me???

    This is me. I feel like my day is ruled by breastfeeding/pumping.  I don't mind the breastfeeding at all, it's our comforting quiet time.  But the pumping is wearing me out.  I also feel rushed trying to do it at work.  Its like my boss is watching the clock to see when I leave/come back.  And I find myself slacking on it sometimes & have to remember it will affect my supply so I need to do it.  Sometimes I look at the pump & want to throw the thing out the window.  If I didn't have to pump, I wouldn't!  But I want to continue breastfeeding/giving her breastmilk until she is a year old.  That's the only thing that keeps me holding on.

    Like some pp, being a working mom/dressing for work is hard.  I feel like I'm just going through the motions.  I am happy for Friday to come because I know for the next two days there isn't a schedule, it's just whatever.  Dressing for work is driving me crazy.  On the weekends it's easy to make my clothing breastfeeding friendly because I can wear what I want.  But for work I have to dress a certain way & trying to find things to wear that make pumping easy gives me a headache.  My clothes don't fit the exact same as pre-pregnancy, but the fit isn't terrible. I just need to be able to get to my girls easy so I can pump & that's a work in progress.

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    imageMeggieChris:

    imageRunningGal900:
    I am getting so burned (or is it burnt) out on breastfeeding. Assuming my supply stays up, I am 100% committed to going for a year, but there are just days when I feel like he is attached to me and I want a little personal space. DH offered to bottle feed him, but having to pump is no better in terms of it being attached to me. Hopefully this is just because e is going through a growth spurt and next week when we go visit my whole family and I have to "fight" to hold him, I'll feel better about it. I'm not giving up, but man, this is exhausting.

    I feel you! Now that I'm back at work, I despise pumping. My job isn't very understanding and it's very uncomfortable. Everytime I get frustrated with pumping and I consider giving it up, I feel so guilty. So I've started setting little goals for myself to make it easier. I feel like I should want to do this for DD. What is wrong with me???

    This is me. I feel like my day is ruled by breastfeeding/pumping.  I don't mind the breastfeeding at all, it's our comforting quiet time.  But the pumping is wearing me out.  I also feel rushed trying to do it at work.  Its like my boss is watching the clock to see when I leave/come back.  And I find myself slacking on it sometimes & have to remember it will affect my supply so I need to do it.  Sometimes I look at the pump & want to throw the thing out the window.  If I didn't have to pump, I wouldn't!  But I want to continue breastfeeding/giving her breastmilk until she is a year old.  That's the only thing that keeps me holding on.

    Like some pp, being a working mom/dressing for work is hard.  I feel like I'm just going through the motions.  I am happy for Friday to come because I know for the next two days there isn't a schedule, it's just whatever.  Dressing for work is driving me crazy.  On the weekends it's easy to make my clothing breastfeeding friendly because I can wear what I want.  But for work I have to dress a certain way & trying to find things to wear that make pumping easy gives me a headache.  My clothes don't fit the exact same as pre-pregnancy, but the fit isn't terrible. I just need to be able to get to my girls easy so I can pump & that's a work in progress.

    This too! Every morning I think...ok what can I wear so I can pump easily...and I always feel like my boss & co-workers are watching the clock when I go pump. :(

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    Then trying to find clothes to wear to work...I'm having body image issues too. And I know I posted this before on another post about weight loss...how do you find the time to work out with an infant & a day job?

    This is me, exactly! I start work back tomorrow and I tried on my pp work clothes... yup, major meltdown.  I am only a size up from what I was, but it is still depressing, not to mention EXPENSIVE to go out and buy new ones. 

    The thought of gym for me is a fantasy with my work schedule.  It will be impossible.

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  • DH and I have both lost our tempers at LO this week. If she doesn't nap well, she gets over-tired around 7:30pm and will shriek her head off for an hour before bedtime. It's so, so draining. We say things like, "Whoa, what is this?" "You can't scream like this; this has to stop." "Come on, ENOUGH already, this is absurd." And of course we're shushing and rocking and doing our best but we always try to relieve each other when we hear the other is getting frustrated/angry.
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  • My body is a mess and I can hardly stand it.  I am my pp weight but it looks like I am carrying an extra 30lbs.  I feel lost.....like no matter how many days I count calories and work out the scale moves a little and then goes right back up.  Also, bf isn't helping me loose weight.  I feel like having to be home with LO all the time and makes it difficult to go to the gym.....plus I always worry that my supply will drop. 
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  • I totally understand what you mean about the body image. I can't stand to look at pictures of myself right now, because I feel like I look awful.

    My FFFC is that I really just want to go home right now, consequences be damned, and maybe stop for something chocolate on the way home. 

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  • imageSwissMs99:

    imageRunningGal900:
    Also, I am about to murder my Facebook friends who post their kids Gerber entry EVERYDAY. I get it, you entered. So did I. You don't need to post everyday. No one else is going to vote for your kid daily.

    OMG ME TOO!! lol I didn't enter V in it because of it. lol! 

    I didn't enter Nora either and I'm not voting for anyone else's LO. It's out of control.

    My FFFCs:

    1. Nora "watches" TV every day. It's always on in the background. When she isn't napping, I'm mostly interacting with her, but sometimes I need a breather. When I put her in her bouncy, she always watches the TV. Sometimes when she's on my lap, she will make an effort to turn her head to look at it. I feel a little guilty, but not guilty enough to turn it off. I doubt it will cause her any major psychological damage in the long run. ;)

    2. I do love our cloth diapers, but sometimes I wish we were using sposies for the convenience (and lack of diaper laundry).

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  • imageSarahL77:
    imageSwissMs99:

    imageRunningGal900:
    Also, I am about to murder my Facebook friends who post their kids Gerber entry EVERYDAY. I get it, you entered. So did I. You don't need to post everyday. No one else is going to vote for your kid daily.

    OMG ME TOO!! lol I didn't enter V in it because of it. lol! 

    I didn't enter Nora either and I'm not voting for anyone else's LO. It's out of control.

    My FFFCs:

    1. Nora "watches" TV every day. It's always on in the background. When she isn't napping, I'm mostly interacting with her, but sometimes I need a breather. When I put her in her bouncy, she always watches the TV. Sometimes when she's on my lap, she will make an effort to turn her head to look at it. I feel a little guilty, but not guilty enough to turn it off. I doubt it will cause her any major psychological damage in the long run. ;)

    2. I do love our cloth diapers, but sometimes I wish we were using sposies for the convenience (and lack of diaper laundry).

    The thing that annoys me most is that no one seems to understand the contest. Winners are picked from each category based on votes, they get an iPad. The overall winner gets $50,000 and is picked from a panel of judges. I know DS is not going to win the iPad because I am not spamming Facebook and my friends' inboxes. But it took me 3 seconds to enter DS and I figure if they want him to be the next Gerber baby, who am I to turn them down ;-)
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  • imageSarahL77:
    imageSwissMs99:

    imageRunningGal900:
    Also, I am about to murder my Facebook friends who post their kids Gerber entry EVERYDAY. I get it, you entered. So did I. You don't need to post everyday. No one else is going to vote for your kid daily.

    OMG ME TOO!! lol I didn't enter V in it because of it. lol! 

    I didn't enter Nora either and I'm not voting for anyone else's LO. It's out of control.

    My FFFCs:

    1. Nora "watches" TV every day. It's always on in the background. When she isn't napping, I'm mostly interacting with her, but sometimes I need a breather. When I put her in her bouncy, she always watches the TV. Sometimes when she's on my lap, she will make an effort to turn her head to look at it. I feel a little guilty, but not guilty enough to turn it off. I doubt it will cause her any major psychological damage in the long run. ;)

    2. I do love our cloth diapers, but sometimes I wish we were using sposies for the convenience (and lack of diaper laundry).

    Totally do this. Don't feel bad about it at all.

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    My DD really likes her sitter and while I'm relieved and happy she's happy, I'm a bit jealous. I hate that it brings out the insecurities.
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  • imageshaindelr:

    Here's mine... I had a complete body image meltdown last night. We were out with all of our friends at Jared's gig, and my friend who could be a supermodel looked AMAZING. She's 6 feet tall, blonde, was wearing a clingy black dress, and cute red heels.

    At one point, her husband (who is also actor good-looking) says to our table, "I don't know why _____ married me, but I'm so glad she did..." and is all gushy about how gorgeous she is.

    Later, she took a pic of Liam and me (she's my friend who does newborn photos and is a doula), and I saw it, and I looked HUGE. HUGE. Ugh! So I spent a lot of last night seriously hating myself. I went to the gym today and ran about a mile and did upper body weights. I'm just really going to try to get back into shape sensibly, but I seriously hated myself last night and I feel bad that I'm so jealous of my gorgeous friend. We're all super-super close, and Jared's at their house doing construction work right now :-(

    What's your FFFC, Ladies?

     

    Lady, you just described me about every three days?  

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  • I have to admit to taking advantage of the fact that all of my staff want to hold Jack. I am soooo tired and I am basically on my own caring for him 24 hours a day. So when I get to work and someone offers to take him I gladly hand him over.
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  • imageRunningGal900:
    Also, I am about to murder my Facebook friends who post their kids Gerber entry EVERYDAY. I get it, you entered. So did I. You don't need to post everyday. No one else is going to vote for your kid daily.

     I totally get you, but I am that annoying person. I post it twice daily. Once in the morning and once at night. And people ask me to post it so they can vote. Not just my parents and siblings, but people I went to high school with that I didn't even talk to. Honestly. So while I know it's super annoying, it's only a month of super annoying. And if someone really doesn't want to see it, they can block it from their feed.

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