Annoyed by reactions to two boys

ColleenS629 · July 2011

Some people have actually been excited for us, but a lot of people have reacted with something along the lines of either "Oh... I was hoping for at least one girl" or "Oh... are you okay with that?" Seriously? Am I OKAY with that? They are my children, they are healthy... if I get to take them home, I can't ask for anything more. I just don't understand how people would honestly ask me if I am okay with having two healthy boys and it's kind of pissing me off. Do they expect me to say "Well... not really... I'll probably ask to exchange one while we're at the hospital."

TeacherVicky · July 2011

People can be so stupid. I'm sorry.

starrynyt · July 2011

That seems ridiculous to me. What is wrong with people?!

jen629 · July 2011

Wow I am sorry people are saying that to you {{{HUGS}}}

rguinn75 · July 2011

People have no thought process sometimes. I think most people see the perfect family is 1 boy 1 girl. Nobody realizes that we are just happy to get what we get at this point as long as they are happy and healthy who cares what sex!

Karen1998 · July 2011

That's really frustrating. I'm sorry. I'd probably just start responding with sarcastic answers to see how they react.

kjr · July 2011

I totally understand! We would get comments all of the time. And now that we have a little girl, people are always saying "Oh, you finally got your girl!!!" Uhm... ok.

We were pregnant with our 3rd son last year and people always asked if we were sad he wasn't a girl. We lost him at 18 weeks. Then when we got pg with Emily the same people would act like it must have all happened for a reason so we could have a daughter.

cmcmillan0510 · July 2011

First of all, I am so sorry that you are dealing with stupid people!! I just wanted to tell you that my husband has no brothers. Two of his best friends have brothers- one has 5 brothers, the other has 1 brother. He says all the time how much he wishes he had a brother & it makes me realize how incredibly amazing the bond between brothers (& sisters like I am lucky enough to have a sister) can be! So, your two boys are very blessed to have each other!!! Maybe reply with "We are completely thrilled that they each will have a brother & best friend for life."

kathymarie · July 2011

I think that from now on, you should give them some snark. Say something like, "Are we happy with that? Well, not really, but luckily our hospital takes returns within 30 days with a receipt." Or something really sarcastic. People are stupid.

(My reaction to your news was a little jealous--if I had two boys I could name one Michael and one Steven and there would be peace in my home! lol)

MsPegees · July 2011

That is super annoying, I'm sorry.

I missed your announcement when you found out it was two boys. HOW EXCITING!!

smallfry5909 · July 2011

I HATE that! Why does every piece of news come with a piece of unsolicited advice or asinine comment? No matter what it is, gender, due date, name, etc. people will always have an opinion. Whatever happened to just saying "congrats"?

Sorry

Gummybear · July 2011

People are azzholes. I am sorry they say those things to you

julesjb · July 2011

Ugh I want to slap them all for you

damabo80 · July 2011

ColleenS629:
Do they expect me to say "Well... not really... I'll probably ask to exchange one while we're at the hospital."

Please say this next time someone shows their douchetastic colors with you. Bonus points awarded if you keep a completely straight face while you say it.

And then report back here with their response. Stick out tongue

ColleenS629 · July 2011

kathymarie:
I think that from now on, you should give them some snark. Say something like, "Are we happy with that? Well, not really, but luckily our hospital takes returns within 30 days with a receipt." Or something really sarcastic. People are stupid.

(My reaction to your news was a little jealous--if I had two boys I could name one Michael and one Steven and there would be peace in my home! lol)

I love this! About the names... DH is actually lobbying for one of them to be names Michael. I love the name, but my brother's name is Michael and SIL's serious BF is named Michael so I feel like it would be really confusing to have 3 Michael's in our immediate families.

ColleenS629 · July 2011

rguinn75:
People have no thought process sometimes. I think most people see the perfect family is 1 boy 1 girl. Nobody realizes that we are just happy to get what we get at this point as long as they are happy and healthy who cares what sex!

I think you're right about that... before we found out people would say "Well if you have one of each, then you can be done." I'm sorry... I didn't realize that you had a say in our reproductive decisions. Maybe we only want two, regardless of the sex... or maybe we want more than two, even if they were B/G.

kathymarie · July 2011

Just noticed-- HALF BAKED! WOO HOO! Party!!!

Eris-Alexis · July 2011

People are truly stupid sometimes, especially when it comes to twins. Have you been over to the multiples board? Some of the comments they have gotten are just ridiculous.

thewayiam · July 2011

People, I've decided, are stupid. What a stupid thing to say. Two boys will be wonderful!

camdenfaithful · July 2011

damabo80:
ColleenS629:
Do they expect me to say "Well... not really... I'll probably ask to exchange one while we're at the hospital."

Please say this next time someone shows their douchetastic colors with you. Bonus points awarded if you keep a completely straight face while you say it.

And then report back here with their response.

Ditto this!!!!

People suck at life. Really. I'm 1 of 4 girls and people ask my dad all the time if he's disappointed that none of us are boys. WTF?

karma79 · July 2011

2 boys, 2 girls, 1 of each - who cares! It's TWO BABIES!!! Big hug! People are total idiots sometimes!

JayandTay09 · July 2011

People can be so incredibly dumb sometimes...I know we went through the same thing! I could careless if they are boys or girls - they are MINE AND I LOVE THEM! I actually said to one of my dh's aunts, who made a comment at my shower about them being 2 boys, "Well I asked the dr to exchange one but there is a no exchange policy..." That shut her up!

jess252 · July 2011

Im sorry people are saying that to you. People are so stupid sometimes.

kpowersw · July 2011

People are weird. We have two boys and now that we're pregnant again everyone assumes we are having another just to have a girl. That wasn't our motivation but it ends up we are. I would have been just as happy with another boy though. Our two boys are really close, and I think our girl is going to love having brothers just like our boys are so excited to have a sister.

Bottom line - two boys are a lot of fun! Congratulations!

rjl07 · July 2011

I have gotten the same type of comments from a few people since we are having two girls. Before we found out, one of my BFF's actually said she hopes that I don't have 2 girls because one will always be hotter than the other and that will be a huge problem. She said it a few times and I didn't want to even tell her when we found out. Of course by then she was thrilled and has never made another comment, but that was pretty ridiculous. This is also coming from someone who went through multiple losses and tons of IF treatments - she was the last person I would expect to say something like that.

EclairAngst · July 2011

ColleenS629:
Some people have actually been excited for us, but a lot of people have reacted with something along the lines of either "Oh... I was hoping for at least one girl" or "Oh... are you okay with that?" Seriously? Am I OKAY with that? They are my children, they are healthy... if I get to take them home, I can't ask for anything more. I just don't understand how people would honestly ask me if I am okay with having two healthy boys and it's kind of pissing me off. Do they expect me to say "Well... not really... I'll probably ask to exchange one while we're at the hospital."

HAHA! I would love to see someone's reaction if you said that.

People are dumb and thoughtless sometimes.

HadleyS · July 2011

People that say those kinds of things are either stupid are really aren't thinking!

ColleenS629 · July 2011

rjl07:
I have gotten the same type of comments from a few people since we are having two girls. Before we found out, one of my BFF's actually said she hopes that I don't have 2 girls because one will always be hotter than the other and that will be a huge problem. She said it a few times and I didn't want to even tell her when we found out. Of course by then she was thrilled and has never made another comment, but that was pretty ridiculous. This is also coming from someone who went through multiple losses and tons of IF treatments - she was the last person I would expect to say something like that.

Well if I'm having two boys and you're having two girls, we could just set up our own exchange and leave the hospital out of it. Then maybe people would be happy (I can't do the eyeroll emoticon on my mac).

MissAutumn · July 2011

Sorry people are talking without a filter. Hugs.

hopefulelise · July 2011

Ugh, how rude!! People have no filter sometimes.

Shaka114 · July 2011

Some people just FAIL at life! I am sorry!

rosenb2b · July 2011

I agree with PPs that people are just stupid. They have no filters! I love the exchange comment though - definitely should use that one.

Congrats on being 1/2 baked!

rock-elle · July 2011

What the he!! are these people thinking! Seriously... Angry

haziedaze · July 2011

People svck- I think 2 boys will be so much fun!

rachelle2824 · July 2011

FWIW, people are idiots no matter what! I have a boy and girl on the way and people often skip over that and move directly into the "you are never going to sleep again," "double trouble," "you are in for it," comments etc.

I'm so sorry, people are sooo, sooo stupid!

StephK86 · July 2011

Why people think that having all boys or all girls is a problem and not a blessing is beyond me. I am having my second boy and my step baby is a boy. I get comments all the time about "Didn't I want a girl?" Or will we keep trying until we get one.

Do I plan on having more babies? Yes. Do I care what the gender of any of my babies are? Hell no!

Sorry you are dealing with ignorant people. I think you are very blessed!

Edited: For pregnancy brain. I really just put my step son is a boy. Duh!

rjl07 · July 2011

ColleenS629:
rjl07:

I have gotten the same type of comments from a few people since we are having two girls. Before we found out, one of my BFF's actually said she hopes that I don't have 2 girls because one will always be hotter than the other and that will be a huge problem. She said it a few times and I didn't want to even tell her when we found out. Of course by then she was thrilled and has never made another comment, but that was pretty ridiculous. This is also coming from someone who went through multiple losses and tons of IF treatments - she was the last person I would expect to say something like that.

Well if I'm having two boys and you're having two girls, we could just set up our own exchange and leave the hospital out of it. Then maybe people would be happy (I can't do the eyeroll emoticon on my mac).

Sounds like a plan! Just let me know when I should drop one of them off to you. Wink

SockMonkeySam · July 2011

ColleenS629:

rguinn75:
People have no thought process sometimes. I think most people see the perfect family is 1 boy 1 girl. Nobody realizes that we are just happy to get what we get at this point as long as they are happy and healthy who cares what sex!

I think you're right about that... before we found out people would say "Well if you have one of each, then you can be done." I'm sorry... I didn't realize that you had a say in our reproductive decisions. Maybe we only want two, regardless of the sex... or maybe we want more than two, even if they were B/G.

When I was pregnant with Avery & Alex, people would ALWAYS say that to me. Oh you got one of each I guess your done.. Umm.. how about I decided that and not you.

But I am excited for your little boys. And yes bonus points if you can tell someone you'll return one with a straight face.

Fififa21 · July 2011

People are so stupid! I?m sorry you have to deal with their insensitive comments :-(

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