if your LO "roomed in" with you

cjsbdl · July 2011

How long?

We kept H in the room with us for six months and my intention was to do the same with E. However, she's been having some sleep issues lately and I know they're related to being in the room with us. We disturb her sleep, and so does Henry (he's been waking multiple times a night and whining in his sleep--I'm sure it teething--but she can hear it over the monitor and it wakes her up). She's waking up several times a night and until now she's gone back to sleep easily with me just replacing her paci, but the last two nights I've had to actually nurse her to get her back to sleep twice. She hasn't eaten twice at night in her entire life.

So, I think we really need to move her, but I'm super-paranoid about SIDS and am a stickler for the SIDS prevention guidelines.

Someone please tell me she'll be fine in that big, bad nursery by herself!

LVBlvd · July 2011

We kept Paige with us for almost 7 months. And DH had to actually take down the pack n play and put it in the attack or I would have kept putting her to sleep there next to my bed.

I figured we would keep the twins for 6 months or so, but at 5 months, I was ready to move them.

They have been going to bed at 7:15 PM for months, and they do much better in the dark and quiet of their nursery.

It was such an easy transition.

I think the thing with 2nd/3rd kids (at least for me) is that I am so exhausted and ready for some alone time by 7 PM, I love putting them in their cribs and closing the door. It is nice to have my own room to hang out in, watch TV, talk to my husband, etc.

superned · July 2011

I felt the same way as you - I wanted to keep DD in with us for a full six months.

At about five months she also started being disturbed by us and was having a really hard time going down for the night. We tried white noise, but it didn't help. She really just needed her own space. We moved her to her crib in her room and she immediately started sleeping better.

I'm sure she'll be fine in her own room - and you'll all be more rested!

GuitaristsGirl · July 2011

cjsbdl:

. . . and so does Henry (he's been waking multiple times a night and whining in his sleep--I'm sure it teething--but she can hear it over the monitor and it wakes her up).

This has been happening to us, too. I expected DS's sleep to be disturbed by the baby, not the other way around!

Anyway, to answer your question, we kept DS in our room for 6 months and I would really like to try to do the same with DD for SIDS prevention purposes. But, as you've also realized, something has to change.

Here lately I've been sending DH and the monitor to the guestroom, and I stay in our room with the baby Stick out tongue It's not optimal, but it helps.

naflmj · July 2011

I had DS with us for 9 months but he was never disturbed by us and still isn't when he stays with us on vacation. I am sure I would have moved him earlier otherwise.

marcuej · July 2011

We kept both girls in with us for 3 months. They both did great transitioning to their cribs. The girls' room is right across the hall from us and we have a video monitor, so the transition really wasn't bad.

She will do great!

Smudges*Mom · July 2011

I planned to keep LO in my room for six months, but the way that house was built, my room remained quite warm in the early evenings, while his room was significantly cooler. For me, a cooler room trumped proximity to me. I can't remember exactly how old LO was when I moved him, but he was only two to three months old.

If you really feel strongly about being near her, could you put a mattress on the floor of the nursery? You and DH could take turns being with DD in the nursery while the other is in the master bedroom with DS monitor. It's not ideal, but it's not a permanent situation.

JillRock96 · July 2011

This is totally my opinion (so of course, you do not have to agree!), but the way I see it, rooming in has its own risks, if it is interfering with your (and her) sleep. We moved Ava at 2 months and the twins at 3 (or 4? can't remember exactly). With all three, I was terrified of SIDS, but I knew that our sleep was disrupted and it was for the best. I took every precaution I could against SIDS -- ceiling fan on, pacifier, sleep sack only, on their backs, and nothing at all on the mattress or in the crib except a snug sheet. I checked on them a million times at first, but it led to better sleep for all of us. She'll be fine.

KYRN · July 2011

I planned on keeping DS in the room with us for as long as he fit in the bassinet or until it didn't work anymore, I figured around 3 months or so.

At 4 weeks I put my little tiny baby in his nursery, in his big crib because he was too noisy. He wasn't crying but just making his little squeaky baby noises and it was waking me up and keeping me from sleeping, I moved him and he did fine.

sasa625 · July 2011

I had intended on having DD with us until at least 6 months old. However, she outgrew the bassinet on the PNP by 3.5-4 months and then we realized that we would all get more sleep if we moved her. I held out until close to 5 months though because I was terrified to have her out of my sight!

RoxBride · July 2011

DD moved to her room and crib happily at 2 months, and slept better on her own.

mrsolsenk12 · July 2011

DS was in his portable pnp/bassinet until he outgrew it at 8 weeks. I was nervous at first but had a video monitor which made me feel better. I slept better and so did he.

LucyPevensie · July 2011

Hey I'm cosleeper of the year but honestly - I think she'll be fine. Take all the recommended precautions - have a fan blowing some air around in there - and don't worry about it.

perry7285 · July 2011

8 months for us. however, i wouldn't be afraid to move a 4.5 month old to her own room. in a hand-waving sense, i would expect a well-rested baby to have a lower risk of SIDS (obviously no research on this, just my own guess). so if she can't get a good night's sleep in your room, i would think that it's better on all counts to move her to the nursery.

kristinamh6 · July 2011

DD moved to her crib around 2 months, as she wasn't sleeping well in the bassinett or the pack n play. She did much better in her own crib, and it was right down the hall. I had a video monitor so I could literally hear her breathing and see her anytime I wanted to.

DS is still rooming in with us (almost 3 months), and he sleeps fine in his rock n play. I do want to move him to his crib soon though, just so it won't be more difficult later. I'm not sure if it would be, but it seems like it. ?

She will be fine in that big, bad nursery! LOL Do you have a video monitor? If so, you can keep an eye and an ear on her almost like she's in your room. Good luck!

laura1 · July 2011

For DS - we moved him right around 4 months or so for very similar reasons. We had an Angelcare monitor, so that made me feel better about the move. He did fine, but honestly, we didn't get more sleep - he still woke up just as much down the hall. I was hoping that he was waking up because we were disturbing him, but that was not the case! He finally got Ferbered at 6 months, and that solved his wake up problems...

For DD, she stayed with us until 6 months - not because I was worried about SIDS, but because she was going to be sharing a room with DS, and I was afraid of them waking each other up. She was always a good sleeper, though and never woke up because of DS over the monitor or because of DH and I talking, etc. And she didn't wake up much while sharing a room with DS either!

pamela-matt · July 2011

We did it at 6 weeks for Ry and am planning the same for this one

MyShellyBelly · July 2011

My intention was to have our LO's room with us for the first 6 months. But, our DS through a kink into that plan because he is such a noisey sleeper! He grunts and groans and stretches throughout the night and I was waking up with each noise he made. They roomed with us for 4 weeks and then went into the nursey and have been doing great! They sleep anywhere from 6-8 hours now and I can now get some sleep, too! I have the monitor next to my head and I can hear when they make noise, but it doesn't wake me up every 2 seconds like before

firsttogo · July 2011

My personal view: (we had a family history of SIDS)

Rooming in is beneficial as long as you are all getting as much rest as possible. BUT, I don't personally feel that it goes far in "preventing" SIDS. Probably when they have studied rooming with baby, and SIDS, the parents involved were more likely to take other safety measures like ones mentioned above. No blankets, sleep on back, no smoking around baby ect. I think THOSE go far in preventing SIDS. Moving her will be good for you and for her sleepwise, and bottom line, you have to do what is best for your family.

Our personal experience was that all three slept in our room until about 12 weeks give or take, and we typically moved them about a month or so after they started STTN, and DH was actually waking them as he was leaving for work.

Ali212 · July 2011

She'll be fine! I moved both my girls way before 6 months. My older daughter moved around 6 weeks to her nursery and my younger daughter moved around 3 months to her nursery. In both cases, they were getting up less at night so logistically the nursery was okay at that point and I realized we were disrupting each other (baby disrupting us, us disrupting baby) and resulting in less quality sleep and more sleep neediness (i.e., needing more & more to resettle, I think having us so close caused that).

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