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Things not to say to someone on bed rest!

sunshine610sunshine610 member
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"Even with the laptop and TV, you're still bored?" Uh, yeah! You would be too if most of your day consisted of MSNBC.com and reruns of What Not to Wear!

 "It's so hot/cold/rainy outside, ugh." I would go outside naked in a blizzard right now and enjoy it if I could stand up for more than 60 seconds without worrying these kids are going to fall out.

And both of these from a nurse today! Anyone else got any good ones?

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  • sjones10sjones10

    Agree with the weather statements. I remember family say, "oh its so nice outside today" and I would think to myself, "ugh!".

     

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  • etoyamaetoyama member
    I hate "oh that's nice you get to relax before the baby comes." um, hi, bed rest is not relaxing. It's very unnervering, and you feel trapped. I'd love to be able to nest like a "normal" pregnant woman.
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  • sunnydaisysunnydaisy member

    Ugh, I feel for you.  I'm not on bedrest, but I broke my pelvis years ago and was bedridden for 2 months.  I think I called everyone I'd ever met.  There was only so much TV/videos to watch, books to read, puzzles to do (I didn't have a laptop).  And to have people suggest that they envied me being able to rest and not have to go to work...  They were lucky I wasn't able to stand up to smack them.

    I hope your time passes quickly!

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  • Temp616379875002458Temp616379875002458 member

    I'm bored, too and it has only been a week!  (I take it you're also in the hospital and I'm not - I am still at home, so I feel blessed to be here.)

    It is super HOT outside, but I'd love to be floating my business in a pool somewhere.

    I don't have any good ones.. will let you know if I hear of one!!! :)

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    imageetoyama:
    I hate "oh that's nice you get to relax before the baby comes." um, hi, bed rest is not relaxing. It's very unnervering, and you feel trapped. I'd love to be able to nest like a "normal" pregnant woman.

    This, too.  Although I'm very well-rested, I'd love to be going crazy in the nursery.  AND:  every pseudo weird feeling I have makes me want to call the dr., so I also feel super neurotic.

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  • QueenLouieQueenLouie member
    when my husband comes in from working on the beach all day and tells me how hot it was outside and how lucky i am to stay in the air conditioning all day- i don't care if it is 100 degrees i would KILL to be able to lay out on the beach and go for a swim in the ocean! 
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  • kafunderkafunder member

    I was on bedrest last summer from weeks 22-35 (so May-August), including 4 weeks in the hospital. Everytime my mom to town to came to visit, she'd sit with me for like 2 hours and then start looking longingly out the window and say, "God, it's so nice out. It's too nice for me to be stuck inside. I can't wait to get out into the sunshine. I need to go sit on the deck for a few minutes."

    Uh, thanks Mom, for supporting me for the whole 2 hours. She'd actually go sit outside on the deck sunning herself while I was stuck inside. And then even after she went outside, she'd come back in and just complain about how nice it was outside.

    She continued to do this even after the LOs arrived and we were stuck inside while they napped or when it was too hot for them to be outside.

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  • sunshine610sunshine610 member
    imageAnotherDreamer:

    I have a cousin that has a 1 year old from a completely uncomplicated pregnancy, and she keeps telling me "I wish I was on bed rest right now" and when I posted on FB about how I'm staying in again and everyone should enjoy their 4th of July (I wasn't even complaining) she commented that she wishes she were on bed rest, and that if makes me feel any better she had to work for the holiday. Yay, her whining made me feel so much better.

    Aaaand this is why I mostly only interact with DH! Unless you're in this situation now or you've been in it before, it's hard to really get it. I'm sure your cousin doesn't realize she is basically saying, "I wish I had a high risk pregnancy and had to worry about my baby's health every day!" Grrr.
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  • MarSamWhitneyMarSamWhitney member
    Its funny, because prior to bedrest I always thought it sounded great! Then when I was on it for 7 weeks, I realized what a stupid statement that was. I will agree with PP, that there was always something to worry about, and you couldnt do much about it. Finances, the baby, getting someone to do something for you. Or feeling guilty if you did too much. Its very unnerving!


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  • tiplovesdaptiplovesdap member
    My favorite so far was last night when my MIL came in and told me how beautiful my crepe Myrtle trees are and started grilling me on what i did to make them look so nice....... Hhhhmm, I've been on bed rest so long I didn't even know they had bloomed yet and havent been able to see them much less have I been able go out and do yard work! I also love when people say, wow you're being really quiet....... Well since I do absolutely nothing everyday what exactly am I supposed to be talking about? The best outcome for my days right now is that nothing happens, because anything happening would be bad because it would be too early for LO. Just let me be quiet in peace!
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