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Pregnant after a Loss
Just hung up on my mom...
The last time she got me this worked up, I hung up on her and then went to the bathroom and started bleeding and had a natural miscarriage. This time I was sitting outside in the same spot, freaked out on her, told her she was f*ed up in the head and hung up. My heart is racing so I ran to the bathroom to make sure I wasnt bleeding.
Last time she told me she couldnt understand why I would marry and be pregnant with my husband. I freaked out and hung up
This time I told her all of the family that I enjoyed visiting in Ohio and she told me they werent my family since they are on my dads side. I know how she is but my hormones are freaking crazy right now so I freaked out.
I love my mom so much but she just doesnt have the filter she needs to have with me right now. I hate it. FX that I dont freaking start bleeding again.
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Re: Just hung up on my mom...
Ug, I'm sorry your mom is being so insensitive. Your Dad's family is of course your family, it sounds like she is jealous of the time you spent with them last weekend. It's unfortunate that you have to be sensitive to her and she isn't being sensitive to you as you go through this difficult time. And I can't believe she would question why you would marry your DH and have children, that is so upsetting!
Hang in there, this is a different pregnancy and a different baby. Fingers crossed with good thoughts for you
BFP #1 5/2010 - Missed m/c at 8 weeks
BFP #2 2/2011
Baby G welcomed with love and relief 10/2011
Surprise BFP 1/8/2013...say what? Baby A arrived 9/2013
Motherhood is not for wimps
agreed. She's a freaking loon.
I'm so sorry. It sounds like your mom is being really mean! Naturally I don't know the full story, but your dad's side of the family is still your family - no matter what she thinks of them. You married your DH because you love him - so her opinion there does not matter so long as you're happy.
(((hugs))) take a deap breath and relax, you're going to be just fine!
You made the right choice to get off the phone with her. It sounds like she may not be capable of giving support to you. When family members get toxic, it's sometimes best to pull back for a while and give yourself a little space away from them. She may react badly to it, but if it's the only way to avoid getting sucked into a downward spiral with her, it's the right thing to do.
Some people are just best tolerated in small doses. It's disappointing, especially when it's someone you would like to have a better relationship with.
Try to focus on this pg being different from your last one, and there's very little chance that your m/c was caused by the conversation with your mom last time.
Are there times when she IS helpful/supportive? What's different about those times? Who else can you get support from when you need it? I hope things get better for you guys, but if this is who she is, it might be worth building other close relationships that can balance out her negativity. Good luck!
She has ALWAYS been this way. However, now I cant just shake it off and say "oh mom your out of your mind" like ive done forever I just cry and get worked up. Its the freaking preogestron suppliments im on I think. She is very supportive and a wonderful mother. Just has a strange view on certain things that happen to drive me nuts right now..
thats all.
I just sent her a text to her and told her that she has to learn to filter with me while my body is raging with hormones and that she needs to keep her crazy to herself for 6 months and only puppies and rainbows allowed.
She texted back: Calm down, no big deal.
i know this wasn't meant to be funny, but it made me giggle!
good for you sticking up for yourself! sometimes, having these raging hormones work in our favor because we get to act like crazies and say things and then just "blame it on the hormones!"
cheer up buttercup!
? BFP #1 EDD 10/18/2011. Twin Blighted Ovums 3/10/11. D&C on 3/11/11 ?
?BFP #2 5/19/2011 ? 9/1/2011 - it's a BOY!!! ? Jace Matthew born 1/23/12 ?
?BFP 6/21/2012 - EDD 3/5/2013 - natural MC 7/22/2012 at 7w ?
?BFP 10/24/2012 - EDD 6/26/2013, grow little one grow!?
Yowza. I think there is a law somewhere stating that our mothers must drive us nuts on a semi-regular basis, no matter how awesome they are normally.
((hugs))
BFP #1 1/20/2011 - ectopic: D&C and methotrexate at 6 wks
BFP #2 4/23/2011 - EDD 1/7/2012
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This exactly! ((Big HUGS))
BFP#1 - 9/2/10, EDD 5/14/11, Twins Hannah and Liam lost 11/7/10 @ 13w1d.
BFP #2 - 2/9/11, EDD 10/13/11, LO lost 2/13/11 @ 5w4d
BFP #3 - 5/9/11, DS born 1/13/12
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This exactly! Just try to avoid talking with her until you are feeling more up to it! Sorry she isn't more supportive of you, especially right now.
BFP#3 - 6/5/11 - DS - 2/10/12
BFP#1 - 8/27/10 - D&C 10/27/10 @ 13 weeks to Trisomy 18
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