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so on the fense about sharing

annapolischickannapolischick member
in February 2012 Moms

Hubs and I originally didn't want to share this pregnancy with anyone past family and a friend or two until 12 weeks. We had a friend very close to us who miscarried her second (after a perfectly healthy first). She went on to get pregnant and deliver a healthy son but it was hard for her to "untell" people about the first.

Obviously we don't want to go through that... but at the same time i'm not good at secrets and i'm so excited its hard NOT to tell people. With DD we were telling like crazy... not sure what to do...

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Re: so on the fense about sharing

  • ferris0906ferris0906 member

    I'm on the wait until after 12 weeks side for all the reasons you listed above about your friend.  It would be one thing to have to untell a few close family members who could support you through a tough time, but it would be a completely different thing to have to untell everyone you know (and those they might have told in turn).

    FWIW, we will tell our close family (parents and siblings) this weekend at almost 8 weeks and will ask them to keep it to themselves until we announce to everyone after 12 weeks.

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  • mamaofboysmamaofboys

    We were like your friend. We lost one and had to untell.

    This time around we have told all our closest family and friends. We would want them to know one way or another as we would need their support if we lost the baby.

    We will wait to tell the rest of the world at 12 weeks. 

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  • AtoBAtoB
    It's tough.  With our first miscarriage, we hadn't told anyone.  It happened so fast.  We ended up telling our parents anyway.  With the second pregnancy, we told our parents right away.  For us, it was easier to tell them from the beginning than to have to say, "Oh yeah, we were pregnant but already miscarried."  I think it depends how close you are to your family.  With that being said, this time we waited until the first ultrasound.  Good luck, I don't think there is an easy answer out there!
    "Fondly do we hope, fervently do we pray." 12/09: 5 weeks, natural miscarriage 3/10: 7 weeks, natural miscarriage 6/11: BFP! 7/11: we have a heartbeat! BabyFruit Ticker
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  • kimmie321kimmie321

    1st pregnancy that ended in m/c. I told the world. The untelling wsa horrible. So many people knew that they would come up to me and say "congrats" and I would have to say "well...actually..."

    2nd m/c- no one but my best friend and close family knew. The untelling still sucked arse but it wasn't nearly as rough on me.

    Our close family and friends know again but I will not tell this time until i can't hide the belly anymore.

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  • AllieLiz09AllieLiz09 member

    I just had my first ultrasound today and I think we might tell more people now. I'm still nervous but if something happens now, I'll be so upset and I'll need support. I wish I could wait until 12 weeks but I just dont think I can wait another month!!

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