dealing with body issues

carlydbrady · July 2011

I'm having a bummer day- my MIL told me that I look "wider" (GRRRR!!!) in the last week. Just what every pregnant gal wants to hear at 29 weeks. Then my Mom posted pics of me in my swimsuit from the 4th and sent them to everyone. I look like a whale I swear and I just feel super self conscious and embarrassed when I see myself in the mirror or in a photo. I know it's not "being fat" it's "being pregnant" but I just need a pep talk from someone who understands....

Lizghannam · July 2011

Totally understand. Just yesterday I told my husband I felt frumpy because he kept asking what was wrong. And whenever I say I feel fat, he constantly says, "You're not fat, you're pregnant." Lol men just don't get it. I obviously know it's the baby but it gets hard at times! It'll all be over soon! Don't worry!! It's only normal to at least feel "fat" one time or another during pregnancy

YOUR BODY IS BEAUTIFUL! And the the life inside of you is beautfiul... chin up!!

Fweetie · July 2011

Aww... I am feeling the same way. I lifted up my shirt yesterday and my MIL comment on how ugly my belly button looked. Everytime I see my brother he makes the comment that I'm "huge" and my MIL loves to take photos of me and post them on Facebook with out asking my approval. It's just the most unflattering shots. Like me in the middle of talking with the legs half crossed so you can see the dimples of fat. I've never been fat. I was 120lbs before I was pregnant and a size 2...now I'm 160bls and a size fat... lol. What I found that helped me was looking up celebrities who were/are pregnant. Made me feel really good to see how puffy Adriana Lima got when pregnant! google it! It will make you feel better! lol

elynds · July 2011

I feel you! I was totally cool with the weight gain until the last few weeks - I had mostly gained belly but lately it feels like my ass is huge. I've just tried to keep exercising and focus on building good habits and cardio so I can hit the ground running post-partum. Googling celebrities sounds like a pretty good idea too!

emily1414 · July 2011

I was drying off after a shower yesterday and found some new stretch marks. I burst into tears. I didn't think my husband was home. I was crying and getting dressed and he walked in and said, "What's wrong?" With a super concerned look. I started crying even harder and told him I found new stretch marks. He huged me and said that it was okay. He said no one cares about my stretch marks, especially not him. I told him how sad I was to be living in a body that didn't belong to me anymore. Guess what? He totally understood. He said that he feels a little sad when he sees his hair line receeding, but there is nothing that can be done, no one has control over that kind of stuff. First time he has understood anything about my feelings during this pregnancy. But he totally gets it!

I'm trying to remember that this is temporary... being this large. His poor hair won't grow back. So while we are feeling huge and probably are huge... it is temporary. Chin up!

IlliniQT · July 2011

I am SO sorry and know exactly how you feel. The comment "you're not fat, you're pregnant" does not explain my wide ass, thighs and love handles. I feel fat, so stop telling me I'm not fat lol! Let me have my moment!! I had a serious sis down with my SIL because she kept saying "let me tag the photos and you untag them if you don't like them" and I said "do what you want on YOUR page, but let me tag the ones I am comfortable with and the ones where I look like I weigh 300 pounds don't have to be spread across my page". She finally got better. Keep your chin up and remember it's all for a good cause and we'll have an amazing baby to show for our fat tushies one day :c)

eli_and_jeff · July 2011

I was a little heavy to begin with and thankfully, I'm all boobs and belly, but it's still hard sometimes to look in the mirror, let alone at pictures. I've found that my arms look especially fat now that I have such a huge belly (even though they're actually smaller).

Here's what I think about and it totally helps: I imagine doing a P90X work-out (which I desperately miss) while LO sleeps nearby and going for long walks with LO in the stroller and chasing a toddler in my reclaimed thin body. It reminds me that A) I'll loose the weight This is very temporary and C) [best of all] LO is well worth the havoc being wrought on my waistline.

Don't know if that helps, but it gets me through the bad days.

abrazz · July 2011

I'm the same way. I have actually gained less with this baby than I did with DD but I look soooo fat in pics. My head is huge. My face is so gross and I look like I weigh 500 pounds. It's awful. I try to avoid the camera if at all possible. I have a round face anyway so any added weight just makes it bigger. I hope I can lose the weight quickly once this baby gets here.

raysn16 · July 2011

I feel the same way! The end is near and somehow we will all go back to normal/close to normal - some people will even go back to less than normal. I am personally having a hard time since I haven't been able to work out since 33 weeks (contractions, meds, pain - all that fun stuff). I worked consistently for 2 years before I got pregnant with DS#3 and up until 33 weeks with this pregnancy. It has been hard feeling like I am just doing nothing but sitting here getting bigger. Plus working out for me was a way to get rid of all my negative energy and without that outlet - I have been pretty special to deal with lately. I agree with the PP, I saw an article on pregnant stars in US Weekly and it made me feel instantly better

chelwig89 · July 2011

I know how you feel... I actually feel pretty damn good about how I look until I turn sideways and OHMYGOSHI'MHUGE! Or until my face is in a picture and I've got fat cheeks so my smile is horrible, or I've got multiple chins going on, or the one my mother just took of my daughter that my ankle is in. I didn't even think they were swollen, yet, either

deftonesangels · July 2011

I look terrible no matter what. I have put on 50lbs so I am the heaviest I have ever been!! I put the weight on everywhere. My cheeks were always a little chubby thanks to my dad! But now my face is much fatter, my arms no longer have any muscle in them and my poor legs... they swell so bad from my thighs down throughout the day that my jeans look so different by the end of the day, they look so tight around my knees down. My butt has also gotten huge, im used to having a fairly flat butt but now I feel like its as big as my belly. I dont own any summer maternity dresses, just 2 pairs of jeans and I have noticed the past 2-3 weeks my hips have gotten much wider and with my ever growing fat legs, I look terrible but I keep telling myself its only temporary and it will go away. Its just hard sweating all of the time because I dont feel comfortable in anything other than jeans.

carlydbrady · July 2011

It's so nice to here I'm not alone! I swear I'm so sick of hearing some girls with the whole, "I love being pregnant- it's the best experience, I wish I could be pregnant all of the time"- ugh!

I just want to have my sweet little baby and get my body back already.

I'm totally going to google the celeb. pics to feel better.

Thanks ladies!

krahgozar · July 2011

I'm in the same boat as all of you. I thought I was keeping it together until I saw pictures of myself from this weekend and I had like five chins. I was so disgusted, I just wanted to cry.

I have to disagree with the celebrity pics idea though because all of them that I have seen just made me feel worse. I saw pictures of Jessica Alba and of course Victoria Beckham and those both look skinny with just a bump. They are also wearing these beautiful clothes that are probably cost a fortune while I'm looking like a frump wearing my Old Navy or Target specials. So just a warning to beware if you start googling celebrity pics.

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